It is not easy to schedule, especially when you have seniority.
Especially when you have critical skills.
When I was in Iraq, my (now ex) wife expected me to get my two weeks back in Germany at about the six month mark. I was the seniormost (time in service) but most junior in rank because I was unable to get promoted (while healing from non-combat injuries) and everyone on my team got to take their mid-tour leave before me.
Why? Becasue I could do any of theor jobs but not one could really do mine. When they tried, the mission failed catastrophically.
She was LIVID and blamed me, claiming I didn't want to go home to see her or our daughter.
It was well beyond my control.
Since then, as a senior person, both in and out of the Army, I still haven't been able to take the vacations or even breaks I need.
The real issue is usually a disorganized work environment, poor documentation, poor cross-training, and poor project management.
You said “broken beyond repair” take your L and move on. Apply what you’ve learned to your next relationship.
What do I do?
You find a girl who respects your boundaries. She's behaving wildly inappropriately for someone in a relationship.
It is not easy to schedule, especially when you have seniority.
Especially when you have critical skills.
When I was in Iraq, my (now ex) wife expected me to get my two weeks back in Germany at about the six month mark. I was the seniormost (time in service) but most junior in rank because I was unable to get promoted (while healing from non-combat injuries) and everyone on my team got to take their mid-tour leave before me.
Why? Becasue I could do any of theor jobs but not one could really do mine. When they tried, the mission failed catastrophically.
She was LIVID and blamed me, claiming I didn't want to go home to see her or our daughter.
It was well beyond my control.
Since then, as a senior person, both in and out of the Army, I still haven't been able to take the vacations or even breaks I need.
The real issue is usually a disorganized work environment, poor documentation, poor cross-training, and poor project management.