Why do you feel the need to suffer through it? What do you think you’ll win at the end if you keep at it… will he be different if you just wait? What’s the goal
Thank you. As I’ve mentioned I’m not shit talking. I’m talking about situations, and because they are best friends they know what we’ve been through, where we came from, where we are at. It’s complicated. And if you do have a friend that understands the uniqueness of your situation they can better understand where you are coming from. They also don’t pull punches.
Yeah I feel the same way. I’m getting ready to move out but in a way where I won’t give him another chance to talk me back into staying. I can’t take it anymore.
Since you’re only 22, him living alone for a couple of years once he’s finished school makes no difference as to whether or not you have kids.
It sounds like you really would prefer that he propose to you as soon as he’s finished with school, get married within a year after that, and start having kids.
That’s clearly not what he wants, at all.
If you want someone with cleat and obvious intentions, you should probably find a different guy.
He likely doesn’t know what he wants two years from now.
You aren’t feeling it for some reason. Maybe the relationship ran its course. If so, it would be more ethical to discuss you have doubts and give her agency to decide what to do.
That’s exactly what I thought when she did that too, which was why I got mad.
In response to the hotel I forgot to mention the ID was a female, but they flew over in a group and had separate rooms. Males/females. She told me the girl went to the other hotel room to drink with the guys and she fell asleep in her room.
My ex sent me a hand written a letter as well as a shirt he wore a couple nights to bed. Those two things meant the most to me out of the other stuff he gave me
That's what made me really open my eyes. I kept telling myself that this is not the life I want 20-30years from now. And it made me realize that although I do love him and want to be with him.. I don't won't to be with this version of him. I want to be with the person I've convinced myself (and tried to convince him) that he is capable of being. I'm exhausted though. I can't work on myself when I'm constantly trying to save someone else ?
You should work on your drinking problem but also stop blaming your dumb decisions on the alcohol.
This is how cheating starts
Why do you feel the need to suffer through it? What do you think you’ll win at the end if you keep at it… will he be different if you just wait? What’s the goal
The fact that the friend is ok with moving on and not talking makes me think this isn’t the case.
I understand. I did get my permit and I’m working on getting a license soon.
she doesnt respect you, and the fact that you took her back makes her respect you even less.
Thank you. As I’ve mentioned I’m not shit talking. I’m talking about situations, and because they are best friends they know what we’ve been through, where we came from, where we are at. It’s complicated. And if you do have a friend that understands the uniqueness of your situation they can better understand where you are coming from. They also don’t pull punches.
Yeah I feel the same way. I’m getting ready to move out but in a way where I won’t give him another chance to talk me back into staying. I can’t take it anymore.
Since you’re only 22, him living alone for a couple of years once he’s finished school makes no difference as to whether or not you have kids.
It sounds like you really would prefer that he propose to you as soon as he’s finished with school, get married within a year after that, and start having kids.
That’s clearly not what he wants, at all.
If you want someone with cleat and obvious intentions, you should probably find a different guy.
He likely doesn’t know what he wants two years from now.
You aren’t feeling it for some reason. Maybe the relationship ran its course. If so, it would be more ethical to discuss you have doubts and give her agency to decide what to do.
Or up that to 1000% with abstinence. Just agreeing nothing is guaranteed.
This right here. You can ALWAYS walk away. I wish I learned that earlier
You should both grow up
a camping trip without any planning is lowkey dangerous but ok. have fun!!!
That’s exactly what I thought when she did that too, which was why I got mad.
In response to the hotel I forgot to mention the ID was a female, but they flew over in a group and had separate rooms. Males/females. She told me the girl went to the other hotel room to drink with the guys and she fell asleep in her room.
Am I wrong for feeling uncomfortable about this situation ?
My ex sent me a hand written a letter as well as a shirt he wore a couple nights to bed. Those two things meant the most to me out of the other stuff he gave me
What do you hope to achieve by confronting her? If you plan on divorcing, I would get ahead early and get a lawyer. Pull the rug out from under her.
That's what made me really open my eyes. I kept telling myself that this is not the life I want 20-30years from now. And it made me realize that although I do love him and want to be with him.. I don't won't to be with this version of him. I want to be with the person I've convinced myself (and tried to convince him) that he is capable of being. I'm exhausted though. I can't work on myself when I'm constantly trying to save someone else ?
You got the ick. I don’t know if it’s possible to get rid of it. I never have. For me it would be over.