Anita-Parks on-line webcams for YOU!

One thought on “Anita-Parks on-line webcams for YOU!”

1. I’ve been where your wife is. When I saw pics and status updates of them spending time with other grandkids or when I’d see posts about how much they do for my kids it just sent me over the edge.

   In my case they were always busy. Busy with other grandkids and family. When they did have our kids they’d be at activities for the other grandkids or even drop them off with other relatives because they ‘forgot’ they had an appointment or lunch or something. It got to the point my children felt ‘unwanted and unloved’ and at one point one told me she ‘would never be good enough for’ that set of grandparents ‘because she wasn’t a boy’. She was only around 5-6 when she told me that and it broke my heart.

   From that point forward I stopped asking. The kids stopped asking to see them. Now that the kids are older they want a relationship with them and my kids are indifferent. They want lunch dates, shopping, to be at “everything” (in reality that means everything that is at a time they aren’t doing things with the other grandkids, their friends, wanting to take a nap etc). Our kids want that relationship I think, but don’t trust them not to cancel at the last minute or just not show up like in the past.

   So I am on your wife’s side here. She’s asked and your parents refused. The only thing I could maybe see trying is to ask to find a time that’s convenient for everyone once a month. If they can’t find a time then it’s their loss. It’s sad for the kids, but better they think everyone is too busy than to be like mine and know they are the least favored and be hurt by the fact that their grandparents don’t care if they see them or not unless it’s so they can have a social media post showing what great grandparents they are.

   Reply