I am so sorry for your pain. I was in a similar position many years ago. I spoke to his wife, honestly answered all of her questions, and refused further contact with him
Hey OP, I’m really sorry, this hurt to read and you’re not being dramatic. Your kids are 11 and 13 as you mentioned in a different post, they probably only like this new wife because she’s taking them to places that are fun and kids like that sort of stuff at that age. You shouldn’t care if your ex husband likes her, leave him in the past because he didn’t fight for your marriage. Set boundaries with the new wife if you feel like she’s being too comfortable with the children. Your family has no right to be favouring her in that sort of way when she isn’t anything to them, it shows they’re being shallow if they only like her due to her looks. Don’t put yourself down in the process, seek therapy and speak to your family about how you’re feeling.
Idk… seems like its not really a healthy relationship.
You can’t just get hornier – especially when you want to it gets even harder. Its like when a guy asks you to cum now. Like wtf you want to happen- that pussy is a desert now. Same with girls – cum in me… like nope – now i’m thinking i want to cum and because of that it will not happen.
His paranoia seems to be deeply rooted – you’re probably kind of attractive and he himself has some self esteem issues too.
I would end this relationship. It doesn’t help to magically get a higher libido to help his high sex drive- what btw i think is the consequence of a depression of him. He tries to get more dopamin/serotonin by having lots of sex to lower the effects of his depression.
Meanwhile you seem to feel extremely pressurized, not only the paranoia part but also the sex part seems to put you under lots of stress, resulting in a lower libido and psychological problems.
Idk… seems like its not really a healthy relationship.
You can’t just get hornier – especially when you want to it gets even harder. Its like when a guy asks you to cum now. Like wtf you want to happen- that pussy is a desert now. Same with girls – cum in me… like nope – now i’m thinking i want to cum and because of that it will not happen.
His paranoia seems to be deeply rooted – you’re probably kind of attractive and he himself has some self esteem issues too.
I would end this relationship. It doesn’t help to magically get a higher libido to help his high sex drive- what btw i think is the consequence of a depression of him. He tries to get more dopamin/serotonin by having lots of sex to lower the effects of his depression.
Meanwhile you seem to feel extremely pressurized, not only the paranoia part but also the sex part seems to put you under lots of stress, resulting in a lower libido and psychological problems.
Don’t divorce, wait it out so you get whatever payout, ect. Just tell close family and friends.
Some people loose it when they find out deaths coming, he may be doing random stuff he always wanted to do, he may want to hurt you now before he dies because he thinks it’ll make it easier for you, you may never really know.
It's most likely full blown chemical withdrawal mate. Love is addictive. From my experience you'll likely be in pain for months. If not years. But life goes on. You suffer. You learn. And continue. What's really important is that you don't assume that because your girlfriend was xyz and caused you pain all women will do the same. They're 4 billion individuals. Not a monolith. If you're hard working and generous in spirit you'll find someone else.
The latter sounds like a more serious issue than you are letting it on to be potentially, but it's hard to know without context which all of this is severely lacking. This could all be stuffed that could be easily solved with some couples counseling and her grandma is just getting in her head or it could all be a sing that you just aren't meant to be long term.
This is not a 'bad joke'. I'm so sorry. Please get yourself to safety… I know this 'feels' safe to you, but it is not.
Yeah and she makes me feel like shit for thinking that way and tells me she loves him like a brother
Neg?
I am so sorry for your pain. I was in a similar position many years ago. I spoke to his wife, honestly answered all of her questions, and refused further contact with him
My dude it's been 6 years! How'd you get this far without communicating about this.
Hey OP, I’m really sorry, this hurt to read and you’re not being dramatic. Your kids are 11 and 13 as you mentioned in a different post, they probably only like this new wife because she’s taking them to places that are fun and kids like that sort of stuff at that age. You shouldn’t care if your ex husband likes her, leave him in the past because he didn’t fight for your marriage. Set boundaries with the new wife if you feel like she’s being too comfortable with the children. Your family has no right to be favouring her in that sort of way when she isn’t anything to them, it shows they’re being shallow if they only like her due to her looks. Don’t put yourself down in the process, seek therapy and speak to your family about how you’re feeling.
Like duh. OP needs to start putting on her clown makeup or sack up and break up.
Bob is making his choice not to attend.
Bob is pathetic and that isn't on you.
Idk… seems like its not really a healthy relationship.
You can’t just get hornier – especially when you want to it gets even harder. Its like when a guy asks you to cum now. Like wtf you want to happen- that pussy is a desert now. Same with girls – cum in me… like nope – now i’m thinking i want to cum and because of that it will not happen.
His paranoia seems to be deeply rooted – you’re probably kind of attractive and he himself has some self esteem issues too.
I would end this relationship. It doesn’t help to magically get a higher libido to help his high sex drive- what btw i think is the consequence of a depression of him. He tries to get more dopamin/serotonin by having lots of sex to lower the effects of his depression.
Meanwhile you seem to feel extremely pressurized, not only the paranoia part but also the sex part seems to put you under lots of stress, resulting in a lower libido and psychological problems.
The problem is not you but this guy.
Good luck
Idk… seems like its not really a healthy relationship.
You can’t just get hornier – especially when you want to it gets even harder. Its like when a guy asks you to cum now. Like wtf you want to happen- that pussy is a desert now. Same with girls – cum in me… like nope – now i’m thinking i want to cum and because of that it will not happen.
His paranoia seems to be deeply rooted – you’re probably kind of attractive and he himself has some self esteem issues too.
I would end this relationship. It doesn’t help to magically get a higher libido to help his high sex drive- what btw i think is the consequence of a depression of him. He tries to get more dopamin/serotonin by having lots of sex to lower the effects of his depression.
Meanwhile you seem to feel extremely pressurized, not only the paranoia part but also the sex part seems to put you under lots of stress, resulting in a lower libido and psychological problems.
The problem is not you but this guy.
Good luck
He cheated
Don’t divorce, wait it out so you get whatever payout, ect. Just tell close family and friends.
Some people loose it when they find out deaths coming, he may be doing random stuff he always wanted to do, he may want to hurt you now before he dies because he thinks it’ll make it easier for you, you may never really know.
It's most likely full blown chemical withdrawal mate. Love is addictive. From my experience you'll likely be in pain for months. If not years. But life goes on. You suffer. You learn. And continue. What's really important is that you don't assume that because your girlfriend was xyz and caused you pain all women will do the same. They're 4 billion individuals. Not a monolith. If you're hard working and generous in spirit you'll find someone else.
It can’t work until you spend more time together
Uh, that's not how that works. YOU don't repair your trust in him. HE needs to repair your trust in him. He's the one who broke it.
The latter sounds like a more serious issue than you are letting it on to be potentially, but it's hard to know without context which all of this is severely lacking. This could all be stuffed that could be easily solved with some couples counseling and her grandma is just getting in her head or it could all be a sing that you just aren't meant to be long term.