I'm going through a divorce. My wife literally left me Friday so its fresh. Heres what I'll say you'll miss her, youll love her for some time. Some days you'll just want to stay in bed but you need to get out. Go hang out with friends or family. Do things to keep your mind off the current situation. Eventually which could be weeks, months you'll start feeling better and she'll be just another person. Go get a hair cut, buy some new clothes to make you feel better that it's something new. You'll meet a new girl and you'll learn what you want in life and know how you want to be treated from this experience. My now ex wife wasnt my first love or my first heart break and she wont be my last love. Focus on yourself at the moment and like others told me the other night when I made my post. Go to the gym even.
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Yeah if this was just about them needing different temperatures to be comfy he would have pointed all the vents blowing cold air at himself and away from her
Cue all the addiction comments because God forbid anyone have a high libido and manages it in a normal and healthy way.
Most relationships see the partners having wildly different libidos, one should not be denied the ability to personally pleasure themselves in a private setting because the other one isn't in the mood.
It's also OK to not want to be in a relationship where your partner watches porn however this is something that you need to disclose early on instead of assuming your partner is on the same page.
I don't really think this is about the porn. Something tells me the wife won't be happy until op only gets pleasure when she is in the mood. Which is not okay
Yeah he admits he has an issue but claims he doesn’t know why and that it’s never happened before. Says he’s just tired/stressed from work and life and that it’ll improve with time as he gets more comfortable in his job and gets his own place away from his roommate. I brought up maybe seeing a doctor and he wasn’t offended by the idea but I know he won’t schedule anything himself and I don’t want to be forcing him because that just feels wrong. I’m hurt by the lack of effort he seems to be putting into fixing the problem, but at the same time he’s amazing and attentive in literally every other way so it’s really confusing
It doesn’t get better over time. You can’t change someone and he’s shown you that he’s on a different level of standards and expectations than you are. Hanging with the boys was more important than effort towards your birthday.
Nothing to be embarrassed about you took a shot doesn’t sound like it’s going to work out. Leave it be if she brings it up again then it’s meant to be.
In the future try something like hey would you like to go for a coffee sometime? Here’s my number shoot me a text if you are free sometime, no pressure
Not to healthy people, but some sexless troglodyte is gonna insist that since one of them is under the magical 18 year old line and the other js above it's manipulation and criminal (*)
People used to use age gap difference as some form of attack but just like pedo, it turned into such ridiculous circus that a 2 year difference is making posts on Reddit about if it's too much.
*Whether it is illegal depends on region of the Earth.
You asked him if marriage is something he wants in the future. To be frank, the future is right now. Especially before you invest in a house together. You really should be more upfront and ask if and when he sees that as being the next step
If she was really interested you wouldn't have to work that nude for her attention. You were somebody to pay attention to her when she needed it. It hurts but move on bro.
Stop playing dense and then “obvious” things won't have to be explained to you. And no, you're close minded and wrong because you are, nothing to do with me.
My mom is 41 and my dad's mom has been in my life since I was born.
You sound like an unhinged nightmare.
I'm going through a divorce. My wife literally left me Friday so its fresh. Heres what I'll say you'll miss her, youll love her for some time. Some days you'll just want to stay in bed but you need to get out. Go hang out with friends or family. Do things to keep your mind off the current situation. Eventually which could be weeks, months you'll start feeling better and she'll be just another person. Go get a hair cut, buy some new clothes to make you feel better that it's something new. You'll meet a new girl and you'll learn what you want in life and know how you want to be treated from this experience. My now ex wife wasnt my first love or my first heart break and she wont be my last love. Focus on yourself at the moment and like others told me the other night when I made my post. Go to the gym even.
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If you've already made the decision to reconcile, I suggest sub r/asoneafterinfidelity
Yeah if this was just about them needing different temperatures to be comfy he would have pointed all the vents blowing cold air at himself and away from her
Cue all the addiction comments because God forbid anyone have a high libido and manages it in a normal and healthy way.
Most relationships see the partners having wildly different libidos, one should not be denied the ability to personally pleasure themselves in a private setting because the other one isn't in the mood.
It's also OK to not want to be in a relationship where your partner watches porn however this is something that you need to disclose early on instead of assuming your partner is on the same page.
I don't really think this is about the porn. Something tells me the wife won't be happy until op only gets pleasure when she is in the mood. Which is not okay
I agree, I'd do a lot for him. But changing my identity is not an option.
She lied to you. Sorry.
Yeah he admits he has an issue but claims he doesn’t know why and that it’s never happened before. Says he’s just tired/stressed from work and life and that it’ll improve with time as he gets more comfortable in his job and gets his own place away from his roommate. I brought up maybe seeing a doctor and he wasn’t offended by the idea but I know he won’t schedule anything himself and I don’t want to be forcing him because that just feels wrong. I’m hurt by the lack of effort he seems to be putting into fixing the problem, but at the same time he’s amazing and attentive in literally every other way so it’s really confusing
It doesn’t get better over time. You can’t change someone and he’s shown you that he’s on a different level of standards and expectations than you are. Hanging with the boys was more important than effort towards your birthday.
Nothing to be embarrassed about you took a shot doesn’t sound like it’s going to work out. Leave it be if she brings it up again then it’s meant to be.
In the future try something like hey would you like to go for a coffee sometime? Here’s my number shoot me a text if you are free sometime, no pressure
Not to healthy people, but some sexless troglodyte is gonna insist that since one of them is under the magical 18 year old line and the other js above it's manipulation and criminal (*)
People used to use age gap difference as some form of attack but just like pedo, it turned into such ridiculous circus that a 2 year difference is making posts on Reddit about if it's too much.
*Whether it is illegal depends on region of the Earth.
You asked him if marriage is something he wants in the future. To be frank, the future is right now. Especially before you invest in a house together. You really should be more upfront and ask if and when he sees that as being the next step
I don’t necessarily care about the age gap. He gifts me a lot of stuff. I think he’s just been like this all his life due to family loss~
There is no test for men for HPV and absolutely no treatment for it.
If she was really interested you wouldn't have to work that nude for her attention. You were somebody to pay attention to her when she needed it. It hurts but move on bro.
Stop playing dense and then “obvious” things won't have to be explained to you. And no, you're close minded and wrong because you are, nothing to do with me.
What is “normal”? Your normal seems to be her accusing you of stuff. Is that something to go back to?
He’s not that dependable, he didn’t even have the balls to propose to you lol
It could be awkward for both of you, and your partner might discover it's not as exciting as he thought.
“Guy, I am a little confused by you. What do you view our situation as?”