Cuddling is innocent if done platonically. I cuddle my kid, my cat, my pillow and have never breached a “could this be bad” level with any of them. Cuddling is literally just cuddling.
What gets me is you both decided not to tell her. Part of me says “well maybe the wife just is really insecure and this could be one of those white lies to save her sanity” but the wife supposedly encouraged you to go comfort the friend. Insecure people don't do that. So that means your wife is (probably) self-confident and wasn't scared of the two of you.
So if cuddling is innocent, this is your girl's friend, and the two of you decided to keep it from her… It's really, really easy to assume (it's an assumption, let's be real) that you did way more than cuddle.
YTA
I was 15 and he was 23, we dated for 4 years, and then I wanted to be a grown up, not a little girl.
You did more than cuddle.
Cuddling is innocent if done platonically. I cuddle my kid, my cat, my pillow and have never breached a “could this be bad” level with any of them. Cuddling is literally just cuddling.
What gets me is you both decided not to tell her. Part of me says “well maybe the wife just is really insecure and this could be one of those white lies to save her sanity” but the wife supposedly encouraged you to go comfort the friend. Insecure people don't do that. So that means your wife is (probably) self-confident and wasn't scared of the two of you.
So if cuddling is innocent, this is your girl's friend, and the two of you decided to keep it from her… It's really, really easy to assume (it's an assumption, let's be real) that you did way more than cuddle.
Begin the trickle-truthing.