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If you were him, his age and in this situation with me hearing me say what I said, what would be your reaction? I do really hope to date him seriously one day…. When he’s ready. I just hope I made the right choice to set us both up for success.
Also, I’m really sorry to hear that you’re going through this. I just want to hug you both!
– i get ghosted for a couple days no contact
Giving the silent treatment is contempt.
This is one of the four indicators that a relationship will not last. The Gottman Institute write tons about this. Look up Contempt in Relationships. Asking for time alone is OK. The person asking needs to state a time to return, and come back agreeably. To just disappear, or to refuse to answer is alarming.
The Gottmans also write about turning towards and turning away from. Turning towards is on of the “Small things daily” that makes a strong relationship. When you are noticing turning away, it feels like she is not working on the relationship to you. Knowing the right words to use may help get a discussion going. You are asking for her to turn towards.
Examples of turning toward or turning away.
You say, “Look a sailboat”.
Turn towards comments: Oh, nice. I love sailing. Beautiful. Or, silence and leans into you physically.
Neutral: Yep. Its blue. We are out of milk.
Turning away comments: I hate sailing. Bunch of rich jerks. Did you pick up milk like I asked you? Silence and no reaction.
The ratio of towards to away should be 5 to 1. Or, 5 positive comments to every negative. If the negative is a complaint, it should be 10 to 1. Over time, these add up, or don't. Most people don't count things up, but they get the positive or negative feelings from their parther when the balance is wrong. The Gottmans have studied this for years and these are the findings.
So, make sure you are doing your own 5 to 10 positive comments for her. Then have a discussion about what you are looking for to maintain a positive relationship. If she will go to counseling with you, it may help. If she complains about how you have been not the best, just say, “I am here to improve things. I will do my part. I want us to do this together”.
YOU are the bullet that she dodged and handled with way more maturity than you are capable of. Stop dating teenagers because you think they will be easier to control.