Mine was just an alcoholic (non abusive) and would just get into a deep depression that I would end up in with him. OP you need to go ok this trip! I have yet to get myself there.
So what would I do if this is all one sided? If the only one putting in effort is me? I often get shut down right away when I try to talk to him so I’m left just feeling broken. I put in the effort to keep the house clean, I work, cook dinner and I rarely complain. I just want him to reciprocate some of the effort. It won’t happen because that’s him. I go through these waves of accepting it and than get super depressed about it.
Mine was just an alcoholic (non abusive) and would just get into a deep depression that I would end up in with him. OP you need to go ok this trip! I have yet to get myself there.
So what would I do if this is all one sided? If the only one putting in effort is me? I often get shut down right away when I try to talk to him so I’m left just feeling broken. I put in the effort to keep the house clean, I work, cook dinner and I rarely complain. I just want him to reciprocate some of the effort. It won’t happen because that’s him. I go through these waves of accepting it and than get super depressed about it.