His trauma is not your burden. Exactly this numbered sequence was the first realization of many that lead to me ultimate realization that I was in an abusive relationship. Once I realized this, it was like a damn burst. I saw so much more. I stopped tolerating the emotional manipulation, and I started identifying it, on the spot, every time. Emotional manipulation is subtle, sneaky, neglectful, and isolating.
If he got so drunk he couldn't drive home and he got a hotel room, he would have told you. He's lying. He cheated. Pack his bags and tell him to GTFO.
His trauma is not your burden. Exactly this numbered sequence was the first realization of many that lead to me ultimate realization that I was in an abusive relationship. Once I realized this, it was like a damn burst. I saw so much more. I stopped tolerating the emotional manipulation, and I started identifying it, on the spot, every time. Emotional manipulation is subtle, sneaky, neglectful, and isolating.