I really don't understand this line of thinking. Are people supposed to stay single for YEARS while separated until a legal divorce is finalized? That seems extremely unreasonable to me. Financial issues relating to a divorce can go on for the rest of your life, especially if there's spousal support involved. Agreements can be renegotiated at any point, even after a divorce is fully finalized. That could mean you have to stay single for the rest of your life. Once you're separated that's it, you're free to start dating and move on with your life. Anyone dating someone who is divorced or divorcing is going to have to accept the fact that, in cases where child or spousal support are involved, you will be entangled with your ex's finances for a long time/possibly forever.
Just be polite, but honest. Calmly tell him while you two are relaxing that you wanna talk about something. Make it clear you aren't telling him he can't watch those movies, nor does he have to change his tastes, but that you just don't like them yourself. You've really tried, but it just isn't working.
Girl-I’ve been there. The two of you are not going to work things out, and I’ll tell you why.
First, he didn’t tell you, and he never was going to. You found out for yourself. He’s not sorry, he’s just sorry he was caught.
Second, he’s still being secretive even now. He isn’t showing any actual remorse or any transparency. You still don’t know the full truth.
And third, YOU are trying to fix things. Not both of you. You can’t change other people, and it doesn’t sound like he wants to change.
Cut your losses and leave now. Don’t be like me and waste two more years with somebody who will not be faithful and will not prioritize you.
Ask your gf, I feel you’ll get the right answer
if you didn’t think it was even a little bit wrong you wouldn’t have to hide it.
I came here to vent and get kind advices
I really don't understand this line of thinking. Are people supposed to stay single for YEARS while separated until a legal divorce is finalized? That seems extremely unreasonable to me. Financial issues relating to a divorce can go on for the rest of your life, especially if there's spousal support involved. Agreements can be renegotiated at any point, even after a divorce is fully finalized. That could mean you have to stay single for the rest of your life. Once you're separated that's it, you're free to start dating and move on with your life. Anyone dating someone who is divorced or divorcing is going to have to accept the fact that, in cases where child or spousal support are involved, you will be entangled with your ex's finances for a long time/possibly forever.
Saw a comment update… hope y'all get some answers and some help! I'm so glad you talked to him and are getting him help! You're a good woman!
You're gonna be fucked when you knock her up lol
Rigorous testing how? When did they test it? In 2010?
(you're not right, but you may be)
Just be polite, but honest. Calmly tell him while you two are relaxing that you wanna talk about something. Make it clear you aren't telling him he can't watch those movies, nor does he have to change his tastes, but that you just don't like them yourself. You've really tried, but it just isn't working.
My gut feel is she is trying to use it as a hook. Sex seems a lot more important to her than to me.