Well marrying her before you lived with her, and started learning of these problems, was a mistake. If I'm reading your post correctly, marrying her after knowing her for only a year was also a mistake.
Honestly, you see this sometimes, but it almost seems like she settled with you. Perhaps for security. So that could be a factor as to why you're not getting the stuff others did back in the day.
Well marrying her before you lived with her, and started learning of these problems, was a mistake. If I'm reading your post correctly, marrying her after knowing her for only a year was also a mistake.
Honestly, you see this sometimes, but it almost seems like she settled with you. Perhaps for security. So that could be a factor as to why you're not getting the stuff others did back in the day.
I don’t know what you were doing, did I miss something here?