I think your perception is spot on, and there is nothing like having a child/being a parent to make you realize unresolved trauma and issues from your own childhood. Encourage her to work through these things now – it will only get harder for her and your whole family!
Just let her know up front that you can't see this being long term that way there's no expectations, it sounds like there wont be much chance of you falling in love since she's already exhibiting qualities that you don't like such as weed etc.
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I think your perception is spot on, and there is nothing like having a child/being a parent to make you realize unresolved trauma and issues from your own childhood. Encourage her to work through these things now – it will only get harder for her and your whole family!
Just let her know up front that you can't see this being long term that way there's no expectations, it sounds like there wont be much chance of you falling in love since she's already exhibiting qualities that you don't like such as weed etc.