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I’d say you’re a solid 7.5
Don't tell her. Thise dreams mean nothing. I had tons of dreams on being with other woman not based on reality when I was with my ex. Meant fuck all.
Hi OP, You are right OP, it wasn’t supposed to. To my understanding you are in a exclusif relationship for approx 6 years (!there are marriage. That didn’t stand that long). Do you understand that you are already in this kind of long life relationship commitment. But as you said you are not still sure about your emotions ( 6 years).
First red flag ? : this relationship is not a “ real commitment “ and as I m not sure about it ( half in & half out).
Second red flag ?: I feel anxiety about whether he is the one . He is not the one ( otherwise I would have crossed the rubicon ) but I must ok to stay for the time being till I find the one
Third red flags ?: “out there “and I m interested about the “ out there “ the mirage is more interesting that a concrete relationship of 6 years.
Fourth red flag ?: “ I m not actively seeking “ If there is a more favorable deal, I consider it and jump ship.
This is my perception reading your posts. It is your right to fear the “ unknown “ or seek a better deal but, I will passively or actively look for a better deal as a single man/ woman and not in comfort of the relationship of a significant other that is investing 1) time 2) money 3) emotions In this relationship If you still believe that your approach is ok, you can show your post and comment to your boyfriend.
I am happy for you. I wont say it isnt possible but chances are very very small. Most people with bpd are not self aware at all… If she was self aware she wouldnt have gone through his snapchat. She would have known that would trigger her.
People with bpd can have loving relationship after they have gone through threatment. This mentall issues is focused on relationship and they are not capable of forming healthy bonds. Thats not their fault. But itsnt ops either.
In my life I have had my part of bpd people. None of them were an exception to what I just wrote. They always had lots of troubles with friendships and relationships. I have seen a lot of Guys going down thinking they would he able to handle it. Thinking she was the exception. It was never true. They always ended up being left all of the sudden or in a very very unhealthy relationship where they were very afraid to do something wrong.
You say people love to say run. Well.. why wont you run? There are lot and lots of women that wont do this to you. Why choose a life that will have a 99 percent chance to make you miserable just because you want to prove the world wrong? He can just leave and find another girl and she can get treatment if she is self aware.
Speak for yourself. Every body is different, why assume people are exaggerating instead of just telling what it feels like for them? Just because it's not earth shattering for you doesn't mean that's true for all people.
You are absolutely wrong. If you aren't comfortable with this, then break up and don't be controlling.
It's her body, it's her choice, and it's her social media. That has nothing to do with you and if you try to dictate what she can and cannot post I hope that she dumps you.
Honestly I think there really isn't a good way to bring anything up when the other person immediately becomes defensive. You could try coming across less strong when you broach it, but him reacting that way to me says that he's not comfortable with it for some reason. It sounds like it's having a pretty big impact on your relationship though so perhaps counseling would be a good fit?
no, it's not your place especially when talking about the trauma of another person. thats personal and for him to tell her if he wants. you dont even know how old he is…dont go around telling anyone he has sexual trauma.
Thanks so much. He has only been having a cigarette here and there so I wouldn't say it's a regular habit again. The main issues for me are the lying and the smell. He quit with patches last time and has been thinking about going back on them, which is frustrating for me because he's going to be putting himself on a constant flow of nicotine again.
I’m going to offer a completely different view on this.
I (F20) met my partner (M22) in February 2022. He moved in April 2022, and we found out we were expecting in June.
I, like you, am pro choice however I personally couldn’t go through with an abortion. I am now 31 weeks with our precious baby boy. We have had immense support from family and friends, his nursery is all completed, he has everything he needs.
I saw myself being a parent one day, but not this young. I was halfway through my 3 year degree. I completed my second year and have taken a year out, I’m returning in September to complete it and carry on with my dream career.
Our finances aren’t ideal, we rent and make enough to get by with the odd luxuries here and there. But we know we have enough to support our baby. We also know we have so much love for him and he will grow up in a caring home.
I’m in a lucky position to have an amazing partner who is potentially even more excited than me about this. He has always wanted to be a father.
Good luck with whatever you choose, this is simply my story which I thought you might appreciate hearing.
How is his inability to express his emotions in a healthy way your fault? You may have done something that he is reacting to emotionally but you did not make him express those emotions violently. That’s all him.
Oh my dear, let me assure you that this is not your fault. he checked himself out of your relationship when he chose to slit his wrist. That is a 100% notice that he needs help. And not by you. You are not a therapist or an emergency first reponder. Please call the police in his state and write this guy off
When I asked him, he mentioned that she is an ex and how they are friends and I would have accepted that response if he didn't start getting defensive and attacking me for feeling insecure about his intentions with me.
Your girlfriend is being dramatic.
It’s great she gave the present some thought and she should be happy she did that.
But it’s not up to your daughter to love the gift. That’s totally subjective. You can’t control that.
Don’t use someone for revenge. Hire an actor. Easy.
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Nah, I think husband should look for an apartment, and she should on-line in their place. He needs to feel what she was feeling for a bit.
?? The primary difference between men and women in this situation is the implicit threat of physical harm if compliance is not forthcoming. Absent that level of coercion, he was convinced to have sex which is not a crime.
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Why would you want to? Honestly, you haven’t said one redeeming thing about this guy who doesn’t parent his children and antagonizes yours. What is so great about him?
This woman is on her way to 40 and can’t keep away from her younger sister’s life, creating drama and being the center of attention. I wonder if the sister actually cheated or her relationships deteriorated in some other way.
Cause guys are naturally territorial of their woman. Maybe the more free spirited people are completely ok with this, which is why if she is like that he should break up cause he’s not one to want to have his girlfriend doing that. If he respects her wishes of wanting to continue that’s completely fine but it’s also completely fine for him to walk away and not get belittled for choosing to not want that in his relationship. It’s a comparability issue at best. Let’s not sit here and talk down on men. Pretty sexist
Without getting too dark: What you have is a gift.
I fled my home. That was almost 15 years ago, and to this day I am still recovering from things that happened to me with the people who were supposed to care for me. I would rather die than go back.
Love means distance hurts. Isn’t that wonderful, to have family that you don’t fear? Who you wish were closer, or living with you? I imagine it would be like a good ache, like the satisfaction of a good exercise. Being alive means there will be pain, but some of it is so worth enduring, knowing that on the other end of it you are truly and unconditionally loved.
Don’t hate the sadness. It’s the tug you feel of your family’s hearts on your own. It means you’re not alone.
Did your girlfriend back you up at all???
If she didn’t sound alike she doesn’t mind being single She’s not worth your effort and time if she lets her mom try paring her up with other people
Omg stfu. Stop calling everyone a predator. 22 isn’t that young and 30 isn’t that old.
Cant remember exact words. Something like I had big changes, Something to do with authority and there was planning involved and there was some negativity heading my way.
I’d like to start off by saying that I love my fiancé with my whole heart and we are incredibly happy except for this one thing.
Which is always the case
My [18F] fiancé [24M]
Life tip: don't get engaged at 18, especially to a 24 year old, ESPECIALLY when you've only been dating 8 months
He ain't the one for you
I know im somewhat wrong. But im getting way to much hate for it. If they get away unpunished than what stops me from beating him up and then going “oh i needed this to be happy now i can move on, don't you want everyone to be happy” ? What is that? They can hurt me and “be happy” why can't i? Who are you to make the choices for me or people like me?
Just wait to find out the extent of pettiness in divorcing her. You are going to see a new low.
Prepare yourself
And divorce. This is level of crazy you don’t want to entertain. Get away early
Ok, everybody here has already told you the two more obvious realisitc solutions (cognitive decline and her being to prideful to admit she was wrong) and the “she's to emotional”, which I think is a delusional argument if she's really making such obvious mistakes.
I'd like to offer up an alternative. She changed her mind when she saw you crush him again and again. And I think she doesn't trust you when you say you'd be ok with letting your son win. She wants your son to truly believe he is good at chess, and she fears if she admits this to you, you will rub it in his face because it bothers you that you could never win against her. Has this ever been a problem in the past? Is your ego sometimes getting the best of you? Do you have a history of “letting things slip” to make other people feel bad? Are you sometimes passive aggressive?
She thinks if she admits it to you, your son is gonna find out somehow. It is on you to evaluate why she could think that.
I don't know if this is the case, I don't know you. But it is an alternative explanation to what is going on, so if there is no cognitive decline and she is usually able to admit when she is wrong, this could be what is happening.
So, he loves everything about you except he wants you to be a different person with different goals and behaviour.
You see how that’s not really compatible? He wants a different person. Find someone else that gets you.
Fair
She’s not your problem. She is an adult who made her choices in this life, many of which took place before you were even born. I know it’s horrific to actually think about her suffering, afraid, homeless, but she programmed you to believe you are responsible for her and her emotional health.
You are not.
Do not set yourself on fire to keep her warm. She would not do the same for you. Do not give her more than you can afford to lose. Don’t shoulder the responsibility of her life choices. Do you know why you are not supposed to jump into water to save a drowning man?
Because he will drag you under with him and you will both die.
Do you know why you put the mask on yourself first and then help the kids when the cabin loses air pressure? Because you can’t help anybody when you are oxygen deprived and dying.
Your mother is an adult who chose not to wear her life vest. She chose not to listen to the flight attendant instructions. Do not think that you are obligated to drown with her or that you are a bad daughter if you don’t give her your mask.
One day you are going to realize the only real solution to this problem is to go no contact with her because one day you will realize that love is not a two way street for her and she will take everything she can from you and will offer you nothing in return— not even gratitude
If she’s not into mff then why should you offer mmf?
There are so many “my partner wants a threesome” posts on Reddit. It’s a common enough fantasy that she might be telling the truth and just want to try it. What are you going to do if she loves it and wants more?
Anyway, if you agree it needs to go like this 1) you agree but only if you can choose the man 2) only you communicate with the man
This eliminates the possibility that she’s already got someone in mind.
You can't help people like her, they like the drama they like this kind of stuff. They are damaged and as long as they don't help themselves nothing will change.
He insists that I’m the problem and that I talk about how I am feeling too often. But I can’t help but think that the issue is that he doesn’t have capacity for emotional connection. I have even tried couples therapy but we only had a few sessions before he said he didn’t want to pay. It does make me question how much love and respect is coming from his side
He isn't ready to tackle his issue yet. No amount of pestering will do that. You have to wait for him to start acting right but until he does, wich might be never, you have to protect yourself. He will continue to lie, steal and waste money on his addiction. To protect yourself, you have to separate and divorce him. He can destroy your life in the same swoop as he does his. Think about the potential financial repercussions: jobloss, maxed out creditcards, maybe even in your name, remortaged home, eviction. You do not want to be liable for his debt and don't get me started on the emotional suffering you will go through.
'In sickness and in health' should only apply if both are willing to pull that cart, right now he is dead weight.
I'm so sorry the person you married went down the toilet.
He doesn’t think they’re a problem. He says I don’t know everything and I’m just assuming. Also that the problems we are having is because I react poorly to him. There’s no convincing this guy that he’s making bad decisions.
You are to old for her.
Once she said no, and you kept going you are walking into on the job harrassment territory .
If you want to keep your job, back off and move on.
It's easier to enforce the no sex before marriage boundary if you are not living together, sleeping in the same bed….
Start there.
Also ma'am it sounds like your ex husband was raped :/
That's a big whoopsie divorce…you need to be better able to control your emotions to make stable decisions.
Wtf is going on here.
OP went through her new-ish partners house when he was at work and decided to pop some random pills she found in a baggie (which usually means they are probably illicit) without having any idea of what they were.
And then you passed out on them and now you’re blaming your BF and think he’s drugged you????
You drugged yourself. You are a complete fool.
The spotting could just as easily be brought on by dehydration or other imbalances caused by the drug. If the drug is making you pass out it’s because your body is struggling to handle it and it needs to put you to sleep to properly deal with the substance.
I’m sorry but assuming this isn’t a troll post OP is an imbecile.
What is with all the comments on here completely ignoring their stupid actions?
Also isn’t the BF still at work? Are you waking up with him next to you?
You are likely taking your BF’s personal stash of whatever the hell. Most drug users would lose it at you for snooping through their belongings, finding their drug of choice and taking it for yourself. Again, what is your major malfunction?
There is no way this isn’t a troll post.
My moral codes are what I make them practice and morals are separate. I do not practice my morals have always and will always be as they are.
What am saying is the deception and nonchalant attitude is what would drive me away, that gullibility isn’t what you want in a “life partner” especially if she didn’t consider having a naked porno shoot with her husbands friend would make him feel, it’s wrong on so many levels. That might be totally understandable for you not for me so your right we can agree to disagree! How awesome is Reddit ? Opinions aren’t always the same wow!
Why would you be “seeing” someone for 7 years..
Why would you be “seeing” someone for 7 years..
OP, you’re awesome. The message you sent bob was awesome. Alice’s reaction to it was not so awesome, but I don’t think there’s a thing you need to do to change that. You were an absolute star, and I think you did the right thing. Good on ya!
Is it possible that he's an introvert?
He may not realise it himself, but he might just need a lot more time alone than most people do. It would explain why he can be nice and welcoming when you're together for a couple of days, but he becomes “cold” and more distant when you're there for a month.
At 23, he may lack some insight into his own nature and not realise what's going on. And it may be that he's too different from you to be able to resolve the issue. But it could be worth having a conversation with him about it.
You're naive.
Dog he’s literally a child. Having feelings is totally okay, expressing them like that is not healthy. He’s even got you confused thinking you’re the problem here and I promise you that you aren’t. He’s got no right to get all angry about stuff and then skirt around his responsibilities by saying “it’s just how I am.”
I used to get like that when I was 19 through to when I was 21. I used to get mad like that and storm off and then come back and act all passive aggressive and be a total shit about it. I stopped when I did it to my ex the first time and she told me how terrible it made her feel and how small it made her feel. That was honestly an eye opener because the time it happened, she wasn’t even the reason I was mad, she just dealt with the splash damage.
From that point on we made a rule to calmly discuss our problems. There would be no need for yelling or name calling or anything of the sort. If we weren’t ready to talk, we’d say so and go our separate ways to cool off. From then on, discussions were discussions, not arguments. I’d honestly say it made me grow as a person because now that’s how I approach disagreements. What your boyfriend is doing is the equivalent to toddles and children throwing temper tantrums and then he’s deflecting the blame away from himself using the shield “I am who I am.” Thats bullshit. I can see why your family doesn’t like him because honestly from what you’ve said, I’m not his biggest fan and I’d imagine a ton of people here aren’t either.
What's more, we don't even know what the friend said. Just the wife being a douche. All she had to do was look at him and realize he's tired. Don't tell me she can't see it… and then, just tell her friend who was in his house without him getting heads up, “He's just dead tired from, plus it was a bit of my fault not giving him a heads up that we have a guest, sorry for this, I'm sure he would be nicer when he's in better shape.” Or something like that. There, her “reputation” won't suffer. Her acting like she did would make the friend feel worse, but ofc she didn't see her own massive flaws (like not giving him a heads up, not being able to see how tired and stressed he is etc). But ofc this sub is biased in such cases, not the first time.
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“no one has ever been this good to me”
What about the guy you have a kid with, who seems like your actual best friend and who you've already left your husband for once
The misogyny in these comments are staggering. Was it linked somewhere weird?