Three months! Yikes. Being 100% honest, that is longer than I expected but you have given me a new perspective so thank you for that. Maybe I should do some reading around this and educate myself better. No problem for the original comment also – again I appreciate your advice.
He doesn’t seem like a great and supportive partner. Might be better off going forward alone and trying to find a better person. I wouldn’t put up with abuse from a partner. idk about the baby but make sure you are safe, healthy and supported. good luck
I think you way under-reacted. I would have gone downstairs and pulled the chord on the radio and kicked everyone out as soon as he cranked the volume. Then made him sleep on the couch. If at any point the music came back on, I would cut the chord so it couldn't be plugged back in without repairs that a drunk person is unlikely to be able to do. Now that those things are no longer options, absolutely call his mom and explain his behavior and why you need to catch up on your sleep instead of coming to dinner. I also agree with others here that if he doesn't offer sincere apologies after sobering up, you need to reevaluate this relationship.
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you did nothing wrong you were broken up so it can not be considered cheating all rape victims act differently, and handle it differently. There is no wrong way of handling. And most of us do not tell others, because we feel ashamed, or guilty even though we have nothing to feel ashamed or guilty for.
Hun the best advice I can give you is to break up with him for good. You admitted he has been a poor bf, and has treated you horribly in the past. My gut tells me, even though you don't think it has happened, but I believe he has cheated on you in the past or currently, and therefore is blaming you for cheating when you haven't to make him feel better about what he has done.
You deserve better than what he is giving you. You deserve someone who won't blame the victim. You deserve a man who will hold you, and be there for you. This boy is not a man, and he doesn't deserve you. Have your parents take you to get the rest of your stuff, and move in with them. And block him on everything
Have you been sending her money? Is the phone on your account or yours? Stop sending her money and ask her to return the phone to you if she can't afford it. Or are you afraid she'll ask for the PS5 back?
She keeps sending a screen shot because it works! Stop sending her money!
I think you're 100% right. I am in this fearful state for some reason which is clearly is an insecurity issue. Many times she has stated that she's mine and that I shouldn't force it so much. I don't believe her sometimes because wouldn't she want to spend as much time with me as possible. I'm too old for this drama.
For context, I was married for 21yrs. This has been my first relationship since my divorce. Dating again is so unfamiliar to me and I'm trying to navigate through all the nuisances. It's basically trial and error for me at this point.
Idk about studies but I think you could find some easily, but I thought it was common knowledge about only child’s, they usually end up far more selfish and loners than those with siblings. It’s because they didn’t have that kind of kid on kid interaction and learning conflict mitigation within family’s, it’s not just something school can make up for. I don’t think I’ve met a single child who also didn’t wish for siblings, usually the big thing I hear when talking to them is that their childhood was lonely and they sometimes resent their parents for not bringing along a sibling for them to have companionship with. It’s not cruel to a kid to have them as a single child but it ain’t exactly setting them up for success.
I know that of course, and talked about it with her a lot before I left, and I agree with you on the last part of your message, but I love her and I can’t control my emotions at 100% unfortunately… My friend is going to leave again in about 15 days so we’ll see how it turns out
Three months! Yikes. Being 100% honest, that is longer than I expected but you have given me a new perspective so thank you for that. Maybe I should do some reading around this and educate myself better. No problem for the original comment also – again I appreciate your advice.
He doesn’t seem like a great and supportive partner. Might be better off going forward alone and trying to find a better person. I wouldn’t put up with abuse from a partner. idk about the baby but make sure you are safe, healthy and supported. good luck
I think you way under-reacted. I would have gone downstairs and pulled the chord on the radio and kicked everyone out as soon as he cranked the volume. Then made him sleep on the couch. If at any point the music came back on, I would cut the chord so it couldn't be plugged back in without repairs that a drunk person is unlikely to be able to do. Now that those things are no longer options, absolutely call his mom and explain his behavior and why you need to catch up on your sleep instead of coming to dinner. I also agree with others here that if he doesn't offer sincere apologies after sobering up, you need to reevaluate this relationship.
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Whose idea was it to quit your job and go back to school… eventually? Was he on board with that?
If he was, what has suddenly changed that he's accusing you of these things? Who's whispering in his ear??
Sounds like he needs a straightening out.
As a rape victim myself, let me assure you, that
you did nothing wrong you were broken up so it can not be considered cheating all rape victims act differently, and handle it differently. There is no wrong way of handling. And most of us do not tell others, because we feel ashamed, or guilty even though we have nothing to feel ashamed or guilty for.
Hun the best advice I can give you is to break up with him for good. You admitted he has been a poor bf, and has treated you horribly in the past. My gut tells me, even though you don't think it has happened, but I believe he has cheated on you in the past or currently, and therefore is blaming you for cheating when you haven't to make him feel better about what he has done.
You deserve better than what he is giving you. You deserve someone who won't blame the victim. You deserve a man who will hold you, and be there for you. This boy is not a man, and he doesn't deserve you. Have your parents take you to get the rest of your stuff, and move in with them. And block him on everything
Have you been sending her money? Is the phone on your account or yours? Stop sending her money and ask her to return the phone to you if she can't afford it. Or are you afraid she'll ask for the PS5 back?
She keeps sending a screen shot because it works! Stop sending her money!
Leave. Next step from choking is your death. Get out of there.
I think you're 100% right. I am in this fearful state for some reason which is clearly is an insecurity issue. Many times she has stated that she's mine and that I shouldn't force it so much. I don't believe her sometimes because wouldn't she want to spend as much time with me as possible. I'm too old for this drama.
For context, I was married for 21yrs. This has been my first relationship since my divorce. Dating again is so unfamiliar to me and I'm trying to navigate through all the nuisances. It's basically trial and error for me at this point.
Idk about studies but I think you could find some easily, but I thought it was common knowledge about only child’s, they usually end up far more selfish and loners than those with siblings. It’s because they didn’t have that kind of kid on kid interaction and learning conflict mitigation within family’s, it’s not just something school can make up for. I don’t think I’ve met a single child who also didn’t wish for siblings, usually the big thing I hear when talking to them is that their childhood was lonely and they sometimes resent their parents for not bringing along a sibling for them to have companionship with. It’s not cruel to a kid to have them as a single child but it ain’t exactly setting them up for success.
I think you’re right
I know that of course, and talked about it with her a lot before I left, and I agree with you on the last part of your message, but I love her and I can’t control my emotions at 100% unfortunately… My friend is going to leave again in about 15 days so we’ll see how it turns out