I did once and she said she was disappointed that i dont trust her. She said he was just a texting buddy and she loves me very much. She was angry with me and we didnt talk that time. I was ready for break up. At the end she start consoling me back but never mention about the problem. And now she still text that man. Idk is it me that in wrong or her.
You can not care more about his health than he does. If you do, it will slowly drive you mad. I speak from somewhat similar experience. If you care more than he does, then you will slowly become consumed when you have no power over his life and his choices. You will eventually become resentful. Do you think his parents are monsters for abandoning him? Of course not, they are human too. They have realized what I stated, and it took too large a toll on them.
The healthiest thing to do is just ignore him. Either leave the apartment, or get him to leave and find a disability friendly home. Staying in this mess right now and keeping the status quo will destroy your mental state
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This is a brother problem. If he lets her disrespect you, then he isn’t caring about your relationship. Set clear boundaries and try to rebuild an individual relationship…. But don’t give an ultimatum.
He told you to cry it out when you told him you have anxiety? That is extremely callous and wrong for him to say this to you. Not only is he treating you as a friend he can get intimacy from whenever he wants it, he’s also not treating you as a person with feelings which you absolutely are.
It’s very obvious that he is uncaring toward you and cold. He only sees you as good for one thing, and you are so much more than that. I’m so sorry that you have been treated this way by someone, but even though I know I’m just a stranger on the internet, I’m proud of you for making the decision to move on because you’re making the right decision.
The first step would be that you should block him from all social media platforms. Block his number as well and block any other forms of contact you had with him where you have an open line of communication. I also suggest deleting any and all photos you have taken together if you have them stashed away anywhere else and deleting all texts from him and any screenshots of your conversations.
Your end goal is to move on from this relationship and to lessen your feelings for him until you have finally accepted what happened and are able to fully move on. I also highly suggest talk therapy with a therapist you’re truly invested in talking to that can help with strengthening your self-confidence and help you to think more deeply about what happens in your life and your relationships. I have a therapist I absolutely adore and she has helped me to see so much that I couldn’t before. She’s a blessing and I consider her an angel in my life because I don’t know what I would do without her to help me to mentally work through things I honestly couldn’t do myself.
Things will get better, I promise. This will take time, but as you climb the mountain, you’ll get closer and closer to the peak and will fully be able to say you no longer have feelings for this person and have moved on from them. Have faith in yourself. You are a good person, you are worthy, you are beautiful, and you are important. No one can ever take your value away from you, no matter who you encounter or what happens in your life.
Ah yes, I congratulate you on just now discovering the entire concept that context and setting determines whether certain behaviors are acceptable or not.
The real core of what I am saying is, if the relationship is okay she WOULD MAKE TIME for it, but she’s not. You want reassurancd, but I strongly advise you to see what’s in front of you. You’ve asked her already in various ways if things are okay, and you’ve gotten semi-answers multiple times telling you that there’s not really a “between us” there anymore. I think on some level you need closure, and I get it, but I really truly think it’s over.
Instead of asking her what she wants, own what you want and just tell her. Then ask her how she feels about that. If you just say, “what do you want out of this?”, it sort of puts her on the spot if she isn't sure about your feelings or working through her feelings. But saying instead, “I am not interested in casual hook ups; I would like to progress to a potential real relationship. How do you feel about that?”. Then she knows exactly where you stand and you've opened the dialogue with trust rather than putting her on the defensive right away.
I'm super curious to know how exactly he thinks this will work?
Some men just aren't….I dunno…. experienced enough or up to par.
Depends – do you want to spend the time training him, or get one already who knows how to thrust?
I did once and she said she was disappointed that i dont trust her. She said he was just a texting buddy and she loves me very much. She was angry with me and we didnt talk that time. I was ready for break up. At the end she start consoling me back but never mention about the problem. And now she still text that man. Idk is it me that in wrong or her.
Well said, I see your point.
You can not care more about his health than he does. If you do, it will slowly drive you mad. I speak from somewhat similar experience. If you care more than he does, then you will slowly become consumed when you have no power over his life and his choices. You will eventually become resentful. Do you think his parents are monsters for abandoning him? Of course not, they are human too. They have realized what I stated, and it took too large a toll on them.
The healthiest thing to do is just ignore him. Either leave the apartment, or get him to leave and find a disability friendly home. Staying in this mess right now and keeping the status quo will destroy your mental state
We dont want this type of person in the US
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Except “cheating” isn’t what happened here.
Cheating is a willful deception of a partner or a violation of agreed-upon rules. I don’t see either happening here in this context.
Be honest with your dad about the situation you’re in. Ask for advice from them. Also you can let your mother & father did is it.
She cheated and it didn’t work out. You can’t trust her again. Good luck.
“Goodbye and don’t let the door hit you on the way out”
It doesn’t matter that you’re all he has. It matters that you want out. Do both of you a favor and rip the bandaid off quickly.
If you drag it out it will just make the betrayal and torture worse for him. And you’ll be pissed at him because he’ll be holding you back.
This is a brother problem. If he lets her disrespect you, then he isn’t caring about your relationship. Set clear boundaries and try to rebuild an individual relationship…. But don’t give an ultimatum.
He told you to cry it out when you told him you have anxiety? That is extremely callous and wrong for him to say this to you. Not only is he treating you as a friend he can get intimacy from whenever he wants it, he’s also not treating you as a person with feelings which you absolutely are.
It’s very obvious that he is uncaring toward you and cold. He only sees you as good for one thing, and you are so much more than that. I’m so sorry that you have been treated this way by someone, but even though I know I’m just a stranger on the internet, I’m proud of you for making the decision to move on because you’re making the right decision.
The first step would be that you should block him from all social media platforms. Block his number as well and block any other forms of contact you had with him where you have an open line of communication. I also suggest deleting any and all photos you have taken together if you have them stashed away anywhere else and deleting all texts from him and any screenshots of your conversations.
Your end goal is to move on from this relationship and to lessen your feelings for him until you have finally accepted what happened and are able to fully move on. I also highly suggest talk therapy with a therapist you’re truly invested in talking to that can help with strengthening your self-confidence and help you to think more deeply about what happens in your life and your relationships. I have a therapist I absolutely adore and she has helped me to see so much that I couldn’t before. She’s a blessing and I consider her an angel in my life because I don’t know what I would do without her to help me to mentally work through things I honestly couldn’t do myself.
Things will get better, I promise. This will take time, but as you climb the mountain, you’ll get closer and closer to the peak and will fully be able to say you no longer have feelings for this person and have moved on from them. Have faith in yourself. You are a good person, you are worthy, you are beautiful, and you are important. No one can ever take your value away from you, no matter who you encounter or what happens in your life.
This is your life not hers go and live it she chose her life she cannot on-line hers and yours also.
Ah yes, I congratulate you on just now discovering the entire concept that context and setting determines whether certain behaviors are acceptable or not.
These texts sound like a guy who was looking to hook up, or gladly would if the opportunity arose. Set him free. He’s not the one.
The real core of what I am saying is, if the relationship is okay she WOULD MAKE TIME for it, but she’s not. You want reassurancd, but I strongly advise you to see what’s in front of you. You’ve asked her already in various ways if things are okay, and you’ve gotten semi-answers multiple times telling you that there’s not really a “between us” there anymore. I think on some level you need closure, and I get it, but I really truly think it’s over.
Instead of asking her what she wants, own what you want and just tell her. Then ask her how she feels about that. If you just say, “what do you want out of this?”, it sort of puts her on the spot if she isn't sure about your feelings or working through her feelings. But saying instead, “I am not interested in casual hook ups; I would like to progress to a potential real relationship. How do you feel about that?”. Then she knows exactly where you stand and you've opened the dialogue with trust rather than putting her on the defensive right away.