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Why are you still there, they are a couple of using bums
It's not cultural, he gets away with what you let him, from the very first time he treated you like shit or insulted you, broke your boundaries, they're all red flags to be taken note of, but you didn't and he continued, then the brother can see he could do it too. They sound like a horrible family, why would you want anything to do with them.
You must leave for your own sake, he's never going to change, you know deep inside he won't. He's already shown you himself as a person, this is how he is
Do a plan, pack your stuff, if he starts with his shit, call the police and say he's stopping you from leaving
Then you need to sort out yourself, help with self esteem, so you never let another loser treat you like that again
You can also tell because labor and birth take a lot longer than 3 hours and most of the teens who write this miss details like this due to a lack of life experience. OP would have know whether his wife was effaced and dilated already if she was getting normal prenatal healthcare but that wasn’t figured into the story. Clinically speaking getting from first labor to baby out in 3 hours would be considered precipitous labor, which is unlikely as OP never explains why labor and delivery were so quick.
Op. As a person who took care of their very ill mother because of her manic depression. Dont. Dont do this to yourself at your age. The work I had to put in. The sacrifices I made. Tbh in hindsight idk if I could do it again. Whatever made me pull though was a combination of desperation and a will to see things through to the end that honestly broke a part of me. You cannot tie your future to her. Not like this.
? You could give the dude a heads up, but seeing as they aren’t together or have any real history, he doesn’t/shouldn’t really have any say in the matter
I disagree. Sometimes being a man comes with being thick as pig shit. I could be as charitable as to say he doesn't realize how incredibly stupid he's being here. In my experience, the women who have told me they'd always be there for me, and would love me forever, were always the first to cheat. Not all women, but, you do need to set a standard for yourself as a man, as to how you intend to navigate a relationship. The way he refuses to equate his parents relationship with his own implies this is just an untested value he's never previously considered. Most men have at least one incredibly stupid belief that doesn't get tested. Perhaps this is his.
Take the kid and file for full custody and divorce her before she does.
If you keep him in your life, sooner or later, the violence will extend to your children and they will never forgive you for that, nor should they.
your good. i’m literally just a person on reddit. who gives an actually hoot lol
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Bro gay people HAVE to date gay people how do you think a lesbian won't date another lesbian/bi woman or gay men date another gay/bi men
So wait – you were 15 and he was 29???
I probably would of gone nc a while ago if it wasnt for my little siblings on my dads side.
Why are you still there, they are a couple of using bums
It's not cultural, he gets away with what you let him, from the very first time he treated you like shit or insulted you, broke your boundaries, they're all red flags to be taken note of, but you didn't and he continued, then the brother can see he could do it too. They sound like a horrible family, why would you want anything to do with them.
You must leave for your own sake, he's never going to change, you know deep inside he won't. He's already shown you himself as a person, this is how he is
Do a plan, pack your stuff, if he starts with his shit, call the police and say he's stopping you from leaving
Then you need to sort out yourself, help with self esteem, so you never let another loser treat you like that again
Codependents Anonymous exists, and I know a few people who found it helpful.
The problem is that we’ve gone out already.
And the last thing I said to him was I loved surfing and asked if he’s surfed here.
You did the right thing. But he should dump you.
You can also tell because labor and birth take a lot longer than 3 hours and most of the teens who write this miss details like this due to a lack of life experience. OP would have know whether his wife was effaced and dilated already if she was getting normal prenatal healthcare but that wasn’t figured into the story. Clinically speaking getting from first labor to baby out in 3 hours would be considered precipitous labor, which is unlikely as OP never explains why labor and delivery were so quick.
Op. As a person who took care of their very ill mother because of her manic depression. Dont. Dont do this to yourself at your age. The work I had to put in. The sacrifices I made. Tbh in hindsight idk if I could do it again. Whatever made me pull though was a combination of desperation and a will to see things through to the end that honestly broke a part of me. You cannot tie your future to her. Not like this.
? You could give the dude a heads up, but seeing as they aren’t together or have any real history, he doesn’t/shouldn’t really have any say in the matter
I disagree. Sometimes being a man comes with being thick as pig shit. I could be as charitable as to say he doesn't realize how incredibly stupid he's being here. In my experience, the women who have told me they'd always be there for me, and would love me forever, were always the first to cheat. Not all women, but, you do need to set a standard for yourself as a man, as to how you intend to navigate a relationship. The way he refuses to equate his parents relationship with his own implies this is just an untested value he's never previously considered. Most men have at least one incredibly stupid belief that doesn't get tested. Perhaps this is his.