A dumb reason? Dude this is a fundamental incompatibility. You are not soulmates. This isn’t something you can negotiate or compromise on, and you both deserve a chance at living the lives you both want.
There are other options for having kids. If she wants to be pregnant, you could get a sperm donor. If she’s open to adoption, You could go that route. Either way, being honest about your results is essential to maintain trust and the health of your relationship.
As sad as you feel, your son is his own person. He has his own life and his own family which they are planning to grow.
I feel like you may have constantly pressured him to return to home over the past 15yrs because “it's the norm” whereas he wants to branch out, expand on himself. He doesn't want to be in his home town and your constant pressure is only pushing him further away, literally and metaphorically.
He's an independent adult who knows what he wants. You can either choose to support him or drive him away.
She wants me to pay half of it as her bday present
A dumb reason? Dude this is a fundamental incompatibility. You are not soulmates. This isn’t something you can negotiate or compromise on, and you both deserve a chance at living the lives you both want.
There are other options for having kids. If she wants to be pregnant, you could get a sperm donor. If she’s open to adoption, You could go that route. Either way, being honest about your results is essential to maintain trust and the health of your relationship.
As sad as you feel, your son is his own person. He has his own life and his own family which they are planning to grow.
I feel like you may have constantly pressured him to return to home over the past 15yrs because “it's the norm” whereas he wants to branch out, expand on himself. He doesn't want to be in his home town and your constant pressure is only pushing him further away, literally and metaphorically.
He's an independent adult who knows what he wants. You can either choose to support him or drive him away.