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Honestly I get what your friends are saying, at his age he is probably wanting kids and marriage soon where as you are just basically entering adulthood, you're at two completely differnt point in your life.
Frankly, I think everyone should on-line on their own and be responsible for bills, housecare, and the responsibilities financial and otherwise of running your own life before moving in with someone. I acknowledge the current economic situation makes that impossible for some.
‘However, your GF doesn’t seem to have a very good grasp of what being independent and managing all your life requirements means and you two have not been dating long. Frankly you two are still in the honeymoon stage of your relationship, figuring out if you could be compatible long term and want to be.
I think you need to be honest and upfront with her. Tell her you are not ready to move in together, and you are concerned that she is not willing to take on the financial and mental responsibilities of managing a household as a partner not a dependent. You both need time to really think about how you see the future working with the two of you and you need to talk to each other about if those futures and timelines are compatible. And before you move in together you need to discuss and come to mutual agreement on how to manage finances (bills, emergencies, how you will manage major purchases), household management (chores, repairs, etc), visitors and socialization, problem Resolution, communication all the unglamorous things that can’t guarantee a successful relationship, but lack of will guarantee relationship problems.
My favorite way to put this into perspective is to think of a person that truly cares about you, your mental health, well-being, and wants others to appreciate your value. For me, it’s my dad. If you don’t have someone like that in your life, I am so sorry and I would be happy to share my dad with you. He wants you to be happy, confident, and treated with only kindness, love, and respect by your SO.
So you pick out that person and pretend that they were watching the way your SO is treating you happen on live TV.
If they watched this and you would:
• feel the need to make excuses for, or come up with an explanation for the way they’re treating you • try to create some way to make it seem “not as bad as it looks” • feel embarrassed or ashamed for them to witness the interaction, like you need them to see an edited version and not the entire live! version • be embarrassed of the way you respond to them(SO) • know that the person watching would be very upset by what they’re seeing. • tell the person watching that they have (pick one) mental health issue and sometimes they say mean, abusive, hateful things or even hit you but it’s not their fault. They can’t help it because they’re diagnosed with (pick one).
These are all signs of emotional, physical, or sexual abuse. While I was younger and dating, as soon as someone said something a little off I’ve always asked myself, “What would my dad have to say about this?” If my dad wouldn’t like how they’re treating me and the SO isn’t sorry, that’s my cue to collect my belongings and leave. I don’t deserve that. Thank you, next.
If this applies, my dad says you need to leave. The longer you wait, they harder it will be to leave. God forbid you guys bring a baby into this kind of situation.
Also dear god, DONT pretend that the person watching will be seeing the um… intimate acts. Gross. Same judgement applies, but you shouldn’t think about your parents or whoever else this person is while you’re doing the deed. ?
I think the biggest problem i see: Your breast are a part of you. You don't have a discussion if you get this surgery, you already have them! So he behave like this about something you can't change. What does he expect?! That you remove them? And did he ever tried to understand why you did it. Like you said, he liked your breast. And so often women with small breast have just problem with her self-esteem because in school they hear stupid shit and if they get older they sometimes get to men who also makes comments. Maybe he should ask himself if he ever made fun of a girl/woman with small breasts.
If he says “i'm turned off by your fake breast” but use porn to jerk off, he is the biggest hypocrite. As if he see there natural bodies.
Kick her ass out! Jesus Christ mate, have some self respect. Block her and never talk to her again. Let them both relapse. You are worth so much more than someone using you for your house and money.
I think you were right in ending the relationship. I don’t think anyone should ever discuss details about past relationships. It’s past stuff and best left in the past. But… the secrecy in chatting with this guy is concerning.
Yeah if he get seriously hurt then maybe. It was an Ebike
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Honestly I get what your friends are saying, at his age he is probably wanting kids and marriage soon where as you are just basically entering adulthood, you're at two completely differnt point in your life.
Yes, when I mentioned gifts I meant was about flowers and cakes only.
Don’t let her move in.
Frankly, I think everyone should on-line on their own and be responsible for bills, housecare, and the responsibilities financial and otherwise of running your own life before moving in with someone. I acknowledge the current economic situation makes that impossible for some.
‘However, your GF doesn’t seem to have a very good grasp of what being independent and managing all your life requirements means and you two have not been dating long. Frankly you two are still in the honeymoon stage of your relationship, figuring out if you could be compatible long term and want to be.
I think you need to be honest and upfront with her. Tell her you are not ready to move in together, and you are concerned that she is not willing to take on the financial and mental responsibilities of managing a household as a partner not a dependent. You both need time to really think about how you see the future working with the two of you and you need to talk to each other about if those futures and timelines are compatible. And before you move in together you need to discuss and come to mutual agreement on how to manage finances (bills, emergencies, how you will manage major purchases), household management (chores, repairs, etc), visitors and socialization, problem Resolution, communication all the unglamorous things that can’t guarantee a successful relationship, but lack of will guarantee relationship problems.
Tell her not in person.
I’m not 25 yet
I said I wonder why they think it is. I didn't say it was not.
My favorite way to put this into perspective is to think of a person that truly cares about you, your mental health, well-being, and wants others to appreciate your value. For me, it’s my dad. If you don’t have someone like that in your life, I am so sorry and I would be happy to share my dad with you. He wants you to be happy, confident, and treated with only kindness, love, and respect by your SO.
So you pick out that person and pretend that they were watching the way your SO is treating you happen on live TV.
If they watched this and you would:
• feel the need to make excuses for, or come up with an explanation for the way they’re treating you • try to create some way to make it seem “not as bad as it looks” • feel embarrassed or ashamed for them to witness the interaction, like you need them to see an edited version and not the entire live! version • be embarrassed of the way you respond to them(SO) • know that the person watching would be very upset by what they’re seeing. • tell the person watching that they have (pick one) mental health issue and sometimes they say mean, abusive, hateful things or even hit you but it’s not their fault. They can’t help it because they’re diagnosed with (pick one).
These are all signs of emotional, physical, or sexual abuse. While I was younger and dating, as soon as someone said something a little off I’ve always asked myself, “What would my dad have to say about this?” If my dad wouldn’t like how they’re treating me and the SO isn’t sorry, that’s my cue to collect my belongings and leave. I don’t deserve that. Thank you, next.
If this applies, my dad says you need to leave. The longer you wait, they harder it will be to leave. God forbid you guys bring a baby into this kind of situation.
Also dear god, DONT pretend that the person watching will be seeing the um… intimate acts. Gross. Same judgement applies, but you shouldn’t think about your parents or whoever else this person is while you’re doing the deed. ?
I think the biggest problem i see: Your breast are a part of you. You don't have a discussion if you get this surgery, you already have them! So he behave like this about something you can't change. What does he expect?! That you remove them? And did he ever tried to understand why you did it. Like you said, he liked your breast. And so often women with small breast have just problem with her self-esteem because in school they hear stupid shit and if they get older they sometimes get to men who also makes comments. Maybe he should ask himself if he ever made fun of a girl/woman with small breasts.
If he says “i'm turned off by your fake breast” but use porn to jerk off, he is the biggest hypocrite. As if he see there natural bodies.
Kick her ass out! Jesus Christ mate, have some self respect. Block her and never talk to her again. Let them both relapse. You are worth so much more than someone using you for your house and money.
Guess who's not straight and definitely not faithful…
I think you were right in ending the relationship. I don’t think anyone should ever discuss details about past relationships. It’s past stuff and best left in the past. But… the secrecy in chatting with this guy is concerning.
Friend group poisoned her against you. Not much to be done.
I'd honestly tell her that it's nice she's taking a year off, but that you won't be there waiting for her at the end of it.
Do not buy her a dog.