I mean, agreeing to cheating is by definition not cheating. I don't know, the fact that she refused to go back to them and that they tried to black mail her into returning makes me think she really did regret this mistake. And (as far as I know), this is the only mistake in 8 years. It'd have to take more for me to throw that all away, especially now that we have a kid together.
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Regardless of his situation, I don’t think he should be taking his frustrations out on you and making that an excuse for how he’s been towards you.
It’s not fair for you. I mean sure you can respect his feelings and give him space but it’s cruel to call you clingy for showing love. I think now would be a great time to sit down and talk to him about how this is making you feel while also trying to understand what he is so agitated about and trying to support him while not forgetting that you don’t deserve to be treated like this regardless.
I have my frustrations and my fiancé gets stressed as hell from work too but we both agree to vent about it and move on and not let our work lives affect our personal lives.
I hated my job and it made me cry but I never took it out on my fiancé and he was always there to support me and vice versa.
Yeah you should leave and let her find someone better, honestly you are every girl's worst nightmare when it comes to dating. Hope your (hopefully soon to be) ex realises that she can do better
why is everyone making the boyfriend the bad guy and not the boss???
I would guess because OP mentioned her boyfriend's “jealousy” which is understandable and relevant in a cheating situation, not a situation in which his girlfriend is being sexually harassed. He's also pressuring her repeatedly into taking the actions he wants, and is clearly making her even more stressed and anxious.
This is her choice, and she said he's making himself out to be the bigger victim. Pressuring someone who is already overwhelmed about being harassed is not helpful.
He can certainly discuss with her the pros and cons of reporting or not reporting, but coercion and constant pressure isn't going to do anyone here any favors.
This is wildly inaccurate. It depends on the company. My company has hired pregnant women and given them their full maternity leave. We have paternity leave too. The only downside is they have to use all their PTO before taking leave. That doesn’t make sense to me
I’ll make this brief: prepare yourself to potentially raise these twins on your own, and ask yourself if that’s what you want. Consider alternatives to keeping them, because…
It’s ultimatum time: tell him it’s you and the twins or her. He has a responsibility as a father to give his entire focus to you and the twins, and not have this side relationship with an ex. Further, I’d consider making him marry you to obtain legal benefits, and establish grounds for divorce and support if he cheats on you with her.
Raising one kid is hot. The world is littered with stories of fathers coming up with excuses to run off for a few hours when the mother needs them the most. How long will it be after giving birth that he finds things too stressful (and you unable to have sex for at least six weeks) and he runs off to his “healer” for comfort?
You said it only takes you seconds to see what he clicked on. It only took him seconds to click LIKE. What’s your goal here? To get him to stop clicking LIKE, to stop scrolling or what ?
It's probably not allowed.
Answer is in the title, I think. ?
OP seems like they are desperate to obtain attention from him.
I didn’t know I could just buy Christmas gifts to make up for cheating? Strange world
I mean, agreeing to cheating is by definition not cheating. I don't know, the fact that she refused to go back to them and that they tried to black mail her into returning makes me think she really did regret this mistake. And (as far as I know), this is the only mistake in 8 years. It'd have to take more for me to throw that all away, especially now that we have a kid together.
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Everyone who cares about you knows that this is a mistake.
What does that tell you?
Everyone who cares about you knows that this is a mistake.
What does that tell you?
Everyone who cares about you knows that this is a mistake.
What does that tell you?
Regardless of his situation, I don’t think he should be taking his frustrations out on you and making that an excuse for how he’s been towards you.
It’s not fair for you. I mean sure you can respect his feelings and give him space but it’s cruel to call you clingy for showing love. I think now would be a great time to sit down and talk to him about how this is making you feel while also trying to understand what he is so agitated about and trying to support him while not forgetting that you don’t deserve to be treated like this regardless.
I have my frustrations and my fiancé gets stressed as hell from work too but we both agree to vent about it and move on and not let our work lives affect our personal lives.
I hated my job and it made me cry but I never took it out on my fiancé and he was always there to support me and vice versa.
Scale?
dude is dating his mom
Nice to know! Good luck
Yeah you should leave and let her find someone better, honestly you are every girl's worst nightmare when it comes to dating. Hope your (hopefully soon to be) ex realises that she can do better
Well he is crazy insecure and shouldn’t be in a relationship with you if he can’t trust you.
If NC did he block her everywhere? How did she text him? Did you ever review their messages? His phone?
why is everyone making the boyfriend the bad guy and not the boss???
I would guess because OP mentioned her boyfriend's “jealousy” which is understandable and relevant in a cheating situation, not a situation in which his girlfriend is being sexually harassed. He's also pressuring her repeatedly into taking the actions he wants, and is clearly making her even more stressed and anxious.
This is her choice, and she said he's making himself out to be the bigger victim. Pressuring someone who is already overwhelmed about being harassed is not helpful.
He can certainly discuss with her the pros and cons of reporting or not reporting, but coercion and constant pressure isn't going to do anyone here any favors.
Wish I had an award to give you.
The creative writing try-hards are out in force this morning!
She is not the one making excuses… He is the one that said it is the adhd ?
This is wildly inaccurate. It depends on the company. My company has hired pregnant women and given them their full maternity leave. We have paternity leave too. The only downside is they have to use all their PTO before taking leave. That doesn’t make sense to me
This is all sorts of wrong.
I’ll make this brief: prepare yourself to potentially raise these twins on your own, and ask yourself if that’s what you want. Consider alternatives to keeping them, because…
It’s ultimatum time: tell him it’s you and the twins or her. He has a responsibility as a father to give his entire focus to you and the twins, and not have this side relationship with an ex. Further, I’d consider making him marry you to obtain legal benefits, and establish grounds for divorce and support if he cheats on you with her.
Raising one kid is hot. The world is littered with stories of fathers coming up with excuses to run off for a few hours when the mother needs them the most. How long will it be after giving birth that he finds things too stressful (and you unable to have sex for at least six weeks) and he runs off to his “healer” for comfort?
Yeah I know how to read signals
You said it only takes you seconds to see what he clicked on. It only took him seconds to click LIKE. What’s your goal here? To get him to stop clicking LIKE, to stop scrolling or what ?
Wow, that's crazy. Hope you're okay after looking for the news story ❤️❤️❤️