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ur right, maybe I need to focus more on what was done vs what wasn’t and I’ll take that advice and work on becoming more appreciative. I promise though I did show my appreciation for everything that day.
Is this the guy who took your virginity, doesn’t respond to your texts when he’s busy, and your dates consist of hooking-up at his place (ie he thinks a date is you going over and sucking his dick?). Sheesh.
You need to work on your self-esteem, lady. He’s interested in you because he sees a soft target.
You might want to ask him how he plans to prove to you that he’s not cheating. Unfortunately most of the time when men start making cheating accusations without any reason to, it’s projection as they are cheating themselves.
I swear if you apologize you're doing nothing but a disservice to yourself. What you said wasn't a fraction of what she said. She completely degraded your morals, your marriage, everything about you and she's acting like a victim because you called her condescending which isn't an insult, that's simply calling out how she's treating you, and a jealous bitch. Maybe you all don't curse, but I do, and I would have said much much more than that. She literally said you're a gold digger in a fake marriage for money but you're the villain because you called her a jealous bitch? A.) She's being a bitch and B.) What other reason would someone insist their friend is a gold digger in a fake marriage to someone who buys her off and cheats on her just because she's shallow enough to to only be in a marriage for money and also that your husband is controlling. Every single person that thinks you're in the wrong and owe anyone an apology needs some fucking perspective holy shit.
My gut feeling is that she was looking for a way to end the relationship with you already, and pulling you into this situation/conversation was her ticket. Ghost her.
He doesn't really say he won't he says he wants us to get along and work on it. I see a pattern and this is the last month I said and if there'd a fight he moves. Even if there's one any time this year he moves. He always cooks, cleans, buys me nice gifts, takes me on vacations I pick and pays, pays for all of our dates, pays rent, likes the same music, we are bother runners, same tv shows, same foods, same politics. He just has shady tactics to win any disagreement like putting me down or attacking my character which is abuse and also yelling and triggers my anxiety when he yells. I can't tolerate that. I read about narcissistic abuse. It seems he does or says something to get a reaction from me so he feels he won. Like the breaking up when he has already purchased a 6k diamond. My aunt thinks that's crazy to break up the same week unless she said he got cold feet. He broke up in an angry way though. I had a nice boyfriend for 9 years and had him move out for us to break up because he stopped working and didn't help clean or pay. It was very sad and final to have him move and for the best however I still loved him a lot and he was in many ways a great person. So the final type decisions suck. I do have to look out for my physical, emotional and mental health.
I have responded and made other comments about things you've said, yes. And what of it? This is a public forum I am not limited to a single comment per post ffs
He's not working so I don't understand..he's at home.. he always says he can't meet up unless it's super early. I'm normally fine with that but for today I'm not well and I still planned to make the effort I just postponed are date by 1 hour but he still didn't seem to like it. The fact he can inly do an hour I don't know if it's worth going
Also thankyou for the advise I've read your words especially about prioritising myself so I will do my best to do that! Thankyou 🙂
He’s told you that he’s never going to give. Ever. Just receive. I call bullshit on his reasons. But. Even if he’s not a total liar, he’s unwilling to even try. He doesn’t care enough about you to try. He’s not getting help. Why would he? He’s got his perfect partner. You are tolerating this. Don’t. Move on.
The family was very wary when she first introduced him to us and expressed our concern her about dating an older man. But after getting to know him over the years, he was the best thing for her. She stopped her clubbing & drug use and settled down. He was the best thing for her. In reality is she pursued him. She pushed to move in with him, she pushed him to get married, and she pushed to have 3 kids. Now she wants to go back to her footloose lifestyle but in order to do so without loosing the respect of her current social circles she needs to make him look like a abusive sack of crap, which he is not.
Nancy swings both ways… she’d be more than happy to get that action with my wife
Nancy swings both ways… she’d be more than happy to get that action with my wife
Been married 23 years now and my husband still tells me I'm sexy even though I don't see it. ??? Don't believe that crap he's spewing.
You haven't told the guy this needs to stop yet?!!!
That's the biggest red flag here. Because you don't actually want this affair to end is what I read from that.
You’re in the wrong sub. You’re looking for hot wife’s. The sub where women voluntarily cheat on their husbands without remorse.
Thank you
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ur right, maybe I need to focus more on what was done vs what wasn’t and I’ll take that advice and work on becoming more appreciative. I promise though I did show my appreciation for everything that day.
Sorry, but he seems like a cheesedick.
Is this the guy who took your virginity, doesn’t respond to your texts when he’s busy, and your dates consist of hooking-up at his place (ie he thinks a date is you going over and sucking his dick?). Sheesh.
You need to work on your self-esteem, lady. He’s interested in you because he sees a soft target.
You might want to ask him how he plans to prove to you that he’s not cheating. Unfortunately most of the time when men start making cheating accusations without any reason to, it’s projection as they are cheating themselves.
Mom was not super rude. Wife is being a bit unreasonable. You could have said it isn’t a good time as well.
I swear if you apologize you're doing nothing but a disservice to yourself. What you said wasn't a fraction of what she said. She completely degraded your morals, your marriage, everything about you and she's acting like a victim because you called her condescending which isn't an insult, that's simply calling out how she's treating you, and a jealous bitch. Maybe you all don't curse, but I do, and I would have said much much more than that. She literally said you're a gold digger in a fake marriage for money but you're the villain because you called her a jealous bitch? A.) She's being a bitch and B.) What other reason would someone insist their friend is a gold digger in a fake marriage to someone who buys her off and cheats on her just because she's shallow enough to to only be in a marriage for money and also that your husband is controlling. Every single person that thinks you're in the wrong and owe anyone an apology needs some fucking perspective holy shit.
My gut feeling is that she was looking for a way to end the relationship with you already, and pulling you into this situation/conversation was her ticket. Ghost her.
He doesn't really say he won't he says he wants us to get along and work on it. I see a pattern and this is the last month I said and if there'd a fight he moves. Even if there's one any time this year he moves. He always cooks, cleans, buys me nice gifts, takes me on vacations I pick and pays, pays for all of our dates, pays rent, likes the same music, we are bother runners, same tv shows, same foods, same politics. He just has shady tactics to win any disagreement like putting me down or attacking my character which is abuse and also yelling and triggers my anxiety when he yells. I can't tolerate that. I read about narcissistic abuse. It seems he does or says something to get a reaction from me so he feels he won. Like the breaking up when he has already purchased a 6k diamond. My aunt thinks that's crazy to break up the same week unless she said he got cold feet. He broke up in an angry way though. I had a nice boyfriend for 9 years and had him move out for us to break up because he stopped working and didn't help clean or pay. It was very sad and final to have him move and for the best however I still loved him a lot and he was in many ways a great person. So the final type decisions suck. I do have to look out for my physical, emotional and mental health.
hahaha i’ve been there too, thinking I was the next virgin mary smh
I absolutely bawl when I'm angry. It's horribly embarrassing but I can't help it.
I have responded and made other comments about things you've said, yes. And what of it? This is a public forum I am not limited to a single comment per post ffs
He just wasn’t as interested as you are. Sorry, it happens.
Just try not to take it personally and know that he is missing out on a good thing.
Turn your attention to finding a partner who is more interested in you.
He's not working so I don't understand..he's at home.. he always says he can't meet up unless it's super early. I'm normally fine with that but for today I'm not well and I still planned to make the effort I just postponed are date by 1 hour but he still didn't seem to like it. The fact he can inly do an hour I don't know if it's worth going
Also thankyou for the advise I've read your words especially about prioritising myself so I will do my best to do that! Thankyou 🙂
They’re people saying whatever will make them money.
Stop watching them, they’re filling your head with poison and they’re going to make you so paranoid you cause the demise of your own relationship.
He’s told you that he’s never going to give. Ever. Just receive. I call bullshit on his reasons. But. Even if he’s not a total liar, he’s unwilling to even try. He doesn’t care enough about you to try. He’s not getting help. Why would he? He’s got his perfect partner. You are tolerating this. Don’t. Move on.
The family was very wary when she first introduced him to us and expressed our concern her about dating an older man. But after getting to know him over the years, he was the best thing for her. She stopped her clubbing & drug use and settled down. He was the best thing for her. In reality is she pursued him. She pushed to move in with him, she pushed him to get married, and she pushed to have 3 kids. Now she wants to go back to her footloose lifestyle but in order to do so without loosing the respect of her current social circles she needs to make him look like a abusive sack of crap, which he is not.
I ended up giving up gaming.
It was hot at first but over time you don’t actually miss it and you then realize what a time drain it was with no actual return.