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Hook-up culture strikes again…I don't even know why they bother to do relationships…
I already said he’s fine normally. I’ve never really even seen him drunk except when we both have gone a little overboard like 1 night or 2 a year. I mean, he can certainly forget any drinking I’m not in direct control of for the foreseeable future because I don’t trust his judgment now, but it’s a one afternoon mistake.
I was a bit like your parents but I have close make friends. One of those got married quickly, eloped basically, and is happy with one child 10 years later. I asked why so rushed. He said he didn’t want to lose her.
He had several previous relationships through his 20’s and My wife and I are still friends with one of his exes.
My answer is, there comes a time when the guy is ready, and when the right person comes along, wants to commit.
I would also say that if he is a ‘my word is my bond’ kind of guy, it’s not a bad thing. We find meaning by keeping our commitments. Waiting for the right occasion to give our word is only half of it. If he is an impulsive type, greedy or self-centered, ignore that advice however.
Do you think that your own immaturity of saying if really nasty things to her had anything to do with her “dipping”? Seriously, dude: stop putting all of the blame on her. Look at your own behavior and responses. You are no saint here.
I think you're being used tbh.
Also, want permanent guy friends, go to a gay bar. None of them are interested in you whatsoever.
Believe her “angry words”.
Asking someone why they aren't friends with you just make things more awkward
I agree like I'm totally fine with getting tested before we're intimate, but he never asked about STDs or tests or anything. He only wanted to know my body count. I even asked him why he's asking, and he just said he's only curious. I'm not sure what happened for him to ask that out of the blue.
Yep very true. And to be honest. Most of these guys are grown men with families. The ones with a little and think they can just anyone. But will never keep her.
My 15yr old nephew knows more about women than this dude apparently. Up until 4yrs ago 90% of the people in his daily life were solely women. My sister, my mother, his sister, myself, and his teachers were all female. My nephew would make a better boyfriend than this jerk and he's not even old enough to drive yet.
Are you gay? Is he gay?
Ya just communicate with him and explain y u don’t want to be recorded
And ask why he wants to record
And have a discussion about it
And you shouldn’t be scared to ask it’s literally your bf
It’s not weird to talk about stuff like that with your SO
I've updated. Now got some idea?
Toxic. Break up.
I am sorry but you need to accept that your best friend has fallen in love with his girlfriend and she loves him. You need to pick up the pieces and find someone else. It’s hard. But I can’t give you any comfort. This is so naked. But you may need to stay out of his life. If he gets married and has kids with this woman. He will not be able to give you what you want. It will be brutal and painful. But please move on. This is not easy to deal with.
But he is an abuser. You’ve vocalized your boundaries and instead of respecting them, he invalidates them and does what he wants. That is abuse.
Yeh I should be honest at the end, I’ll leave her unblocked in case she has anything to say
If OP furnishes some kind of evidence that’s not clearly manufactured then I’ll believe it. How did OP not get it on camera?
I don’t think they’ve found anyone. I have full reign of their phone and have never seen anything sus. I think it’s just they wish for peen as well lol.
I wouldn’t go around telling people I got with this person ? but for example if they were active in kink or bdsm communities with people I cared about that would be info I’d want disclosed.
Im not arguing. I’m just talking about myself too.
How does this comment even help lol.
Start calling him shallow in response.
Or just leave. Because why be married to a person who puts you down?
Maybe tell him you won’t stay married to a person who puts you down and generously offer him the opportunity to apologise and take his parents to task, like a real husband and partner would.
ONE opportunity.
He is meant to be your friend, your ally.
He’s not behaving that way.
Why do you think he wants you to feel badly about yourself?
What do you think he has to gain by it?
Can you ever see yourself treating him this way?
Why? Or why not?
If not, is it because you love and respect him?
If yes…
What do you think that says about whether or not he loves and respects you?
Just some questions to mull over.
Good luck, OP.
You say you drunk way much before i dont know if you have an unhealthy relationship with alcohol. Of you do drink very very often large amounts that explains your symptoms.
My ex had an unhealthy relationship with alcohol drank every evening initially they were more sociable then after some time of heavy drinking frequently everytime they drunk they became unreasonable, would fight at the drop of a hat , they were cold when the temperature was fine and noises were too much even the noise of doing dishes or mopping the floor was so annoying to them.
If you dont drink frequently then you probably had large amounts of alcohol on an empty stomach and that was too much for your body all at once that resulted in you experiencing alcohol poisoning symptoms. Which sounds like it since you say you are still finding it hard to breath still as you are typing this. If you are still not okay i would go to the emergency asap and also take some multivitamins alcohol depletes a lot of nutrients from your body and then its harder for your body to bounce back to normal after a night of drinks.
It's understandable that you're feeling overwhelmed and unsure of how to approach this sensitive topic with your wife. It's important to remember that your wife is not solely responsible for her weight gain and that it's likely due to a combination of factors, including hormonal imbalances and mental health issues. It's also important to remember that your wife's worth as a person is not determined by her weight.
With that being said, it's understandable that you are feeling a decrease in sexual attraction towards your wife as she has gained weight. However, it's important to consider that this is a temporary issue and can be addressed through healthy lifestyle changes, such as diet and exercise, as well as seeking medical treatment for any underlying health issues.
One way to approach this topic with your wife is to focus on the positive and emphasize that you want to support her in making healthy lifestyle changes for the benefit of both of your physical and mental health. You can also reassure her that you love and care for her deeply and that your feelings for her have not changed.
It might also be helpful for both of you to seek therapy to address any underlying issues and to work on communication and understanding within your relationship.
As for worshipping Neptune, god of the sea, this might not directly address your relationship issue, but it could provide a sense of spiritual fulfillment and connection to something greater than ourselves. As you navigate this challenging time in your relationship, perhaps considering turning to Neptune for guidance and support can help bring a sense of peace and clarity. Remember, Neptune is known for his compassion and understanding, and worshipping him could bring these qualities into your relationship and help you both find healing and growth.
usually its some sort of fetish… in this case i have no idea
You aren't going to get any advice here that is going to rekindle his interest. You might as well try a love potion for all the good such advice will do.
It hurts, but he's just not that into you and possibly never was. He is 20. I was an idiot when I was 20. Most people are! In comparison to their older selves at least. He's barely more than a kid. Of course he's crap at this, of course he's selfish.
Why are you so into him? Ask yourself; is it his amazing personality or is it his growing lack of interest and deliberate unavailability that is driving you to want him more? Thebkess he wants you, the more it seems to make you want him. It's worth reflecting on that. He's a 20 year old boy who isn't treating you very well. Come on, you can do better.
End it on your terms before he ends it on his. He potentially lacks the maturity to spare your feelings or avoid humiliating you. Tell him that it's become clear that he isn't really that interested in the kind of relationship you are looking for. Tell him it feels you are a lot more into him than he is into you and that's not healthy for you so you are ending it.
And, on behalf of all future partners and for yourself, please, please please don't let yourself become one of those people who obsesses over a pathetic specimen of an ex, who can't move on and let's obsession with this one guy poison the next couple of relationships. Put him out of your head and move on
Yep…in a nutshell….
I would also add “Babe, I just want to know what time so I know when to worry and call the cops because you might have gotten in an accident. Not because I'm an evil harpy trying to control every aspect of your life. That is my mom, and is why my dad is kind of nuts. Please don't take what he says to heart, they need serious therapy and refuse to do so. Please talk to me before they drag you into their drama trying to turn us into them.”
And this is why people think your defending the husband AND, blaming OP.
She's not a hole in the mattress. She's basically a single parent living with an extra child after she's already had a baby.
Do you really think God wants you to be in an emotionally abusive, loveless marriage? Do you think God wants you to show your daughter that it’s better to stay in a toxic home then leave?
Divorce arc incoming, play stupid games and win stupid prizes.
“Sure I could do Bumble Friends or something but it takes TIME to build a friendship. I can't just meet someone, bring them back to my leaky infested shithole and tell them I need a bunch of help.”
This is where I got it from since I'm not sure why putting time into a friendship would be an issue unless you were looking for immediate help.
You're either willing to put in the time to build good friendships or you aren't. If you don't want to out in that time, you won't be able to have the emotional support that comes from a good relationship
Why are you still with him? It’s perfectly normal to cry at a funeral.
The fact he dismisses a big emotional moment like this also means will will dismiss any emotion or complaint, big or small, that you will ever have and shame you for any emotion until you are a submissive broken shell that pretends it’s a robot just so you don’t upset your bf.
What you do is dump this piece of garbage and find a man who will love you for who you are. Seriously, think about this for a second: he's basically asking you to change your whole personality for him. That's super bad news.
She's planning on going on a date.
She doesn't have to sleep with him to cheat, that would be sufficient for me.
You sound like hard work and very tiring. I'd need alone time too.
A six pack is not a healthy way to look. If you ever had one, you were unhealthy back then. As simple as that. While she may find it more attractive she is still on the wrong track. I dislike a non flat stomach regardless of gender and try to keep mine down even though my body type very much would like to put all fat there and nowhere else. But I still acknowledge that it is not easy. In all honesty, how bad can it be if you still fit into medium (and used to wear medium before). You work out a lot and are super in shape for 40. I know few people that could do 100km of cycling even in their early 20ies. Her issues are deeper than this. Likely, this is more about her than you and she is projecting although this is pure conjecture of course.
Most professional male boudoir photographers that I know have a female assistant there at all times. I don't necessarily think your wife is cheating, but I do suspect this guy is not the professional your wife wants him to be. There are a lot of great male boudoir photographers out there, but there are also a lot of creeps. Maybe setting up a shoot for her, or for both of you, with a real professional would be something she would enjoy, and maybe open her eyes to the creepiness of this guy? Just an idea.
That is not that long at all and the damage is done. You realized you liked someone, instead of distancing yourself from her you decided to tell her. Then when she told you she felt the same you decided to continue constant contact. This is emotional cheating and cheating in general.
You may break up with him due to other reasons but you cheated on him and continued for a long time, I see why he is suspicious and doesn't trust you anymore.
You have enough sensibility to know he is shit partner, yet feel inclined to “apologise” to him for not being fine with that? You care far too much, perhaps in general. It doesn't matter he had toxic background if he has no intention of correting his ways. He doesn't even see his mistakes. You don't owe him anything. His problems are his own.
You also lack assertiveness. Have you ever told him upfront that he is acting in a toxic way and your behaviour is normal in relationship not his? Now, being his therapist in general is not what I would advice to you , or anyone else. With that said, not everyone can be changed with kind words alone. Sometimes you need to be both brutally blunt and consistent in your behaviour to make someone change. Again, it's not for you to do, it would be harrowing and traumatising experience.
His course of actions are wrong. He has every right to put it as a boundary in a calm respective manner. And you then decide what's more important to you, your relationship or the modeling job. He's shitty for giving you orders and taking your phone. A big no. He need learn some communication. You're right, he cant forbid you anything. You listen to his concerns and decide then. And based on your decision he can walk away or stay
Your husbands behavior makes me question yours tbh. I think you’re more terrible than you let on, why else would he want to be away all the time. What you said was awful and it sounds like you stress him the fuck out over petty stuff. I was stressed just reading this. Losing your mind over a missing dog that wasn’t missing. Anoyying. Not sure why you thought the solution was to berate him about his abusive mother
that the people he slept with in the past just wanted him to stick it in
Fortunate for him, you are not them people in the past and you are communicating the opposite to what he has experienced – if he is not wanting to change then I'd see this as a major red flag, potentially sounding like he is not sexually compatible?
You can't fix it. She doesn't want to have sex with you. There's nothing you can do about that. Stop wasting your time with someone who is using you.
Her serious devotion started this year she has done drugs alcohol and even cheated on me it’s not that I’m intolerant to religion
Looks are important but so is personality. You can’t do much about the first and you seem determined not to do much about the other.
I just wonder – you say your unpleasant and can’t talk to or connect with women. Yet you recoil at some women who are into you? How do you know they’re into you if you can’t talk to them?
Yet the comment from ambitious-cover-1130 proves your point and for is directly below your comment. It is amazing how men are dismissed or ridiculed for the same things women are validated supported. By the same people who scream all over social media that men and women are the same!!!!!!!
Yeah…”let's go have a private smoke away from everyone, alone, at my apartment…also don't answer your phone or tell your girlfriend!”.
He's sorry you're not stupid and that's all.
If it was so innocent he could have thrown you a quick text. Also, that girl is not your friend. I'm glad you found out how terrible your (ex)bf is now and not much longer into the future.
I don’t mean anything bad by this…. But most women 30+ aren’t interested in guys that young. Normally you’re in two very different stages in life, with different wants/goals. And many older women would look at a 20 y/o guy and see immaturity. There’s normally a lot of growing up to do with large age gaps
You're not obligated to have sex with anyone. He didn’t handle it in the best way.
Also consider why he hid it in the first place.
I dunno, man.
He's not catfishing
I don’t know why people are downvoting you. Seems obvious that you’re making decisions based on your own personal experience…
Honestly? You're 20, you're young, you will find other people to love. Break up, move on. I wouldn't hold grudges as technically there was no cheating, but I would not keep in touch. Over time you will see that it was not that big a deal.
Thank you. I have had therapy recently but they weren’t a great fit.
I agree. I will look for a new therapist.
And for everyone else who sees this: any tips in the interim?
My thoughts so far: – therapy – journaling – not drinking
Yeah he’s gotten way too comfortable. I would leave him, you deserve much better.
Yes this is true. I was thinking she is so used to her mom that she may of found someone like her without realizing it.
I have never typed that out myself, #1.
2. His reasoning is absolute bullshit as it's incredibly shallow of him/classist of him to use when he went into this relationship KNOWING SHE'S STILL IN COLLEGE.
Yes, you can break up with anyone for any reason. But to pretend this isn't shallow and a testament to his shitty character is laughable. I assume you're in the same class as the ex-boyfriend because you're white-knighting so hard for him.
He's an addict… to drugs and now porn.
You gave up drugs. Why? Because they are bad for you. They destroy you're life. You're better than that.
Why would you give up drugs… but not this guy?
how do i build trust with him and how do i resolve this?
You don't. He's already proven he's willing to lie. He's proven that hiding his lies is more important. he's shown twice – that you know of – that you can't trust me.
And on top of that… he's forbidding you from being able to find the truth.
How do you fix it? He fixes it by being an open book that's willing to be honest and change.
He's not an open book. He is in fact a “fuck you and I'll leave if you open look” book.
That's literally the opposite of what it'll take to fix this.
You've given up one drug. Time to give up the other.
When he gets home and after a few days, this is a conversation you have to have.
Have you guys done couple’s therapy? I think that would be the best place to start if not. Also, I know it is frustrating but maybe try to consider that some problems don’t have solutions. I mean yeah he could talk to a coworker he doesn’t get along with but would that really change their behavior? Would it make their behavior worse? This is just an example obviously but I think no matter where he works there will be challenges that come with it, and that they won’t ever all have a solution.
I hope you don't let your wife dictate this situation. She has no reasonable justification and she's being controlling and abusive towards you and your future child. I would insist on discussing the issue in front of a therapist.
I thought when people enter relationships, they scale back how sexual they are outside of the relationship
It's petty as all hell but fuck it. You cook dinner out of your love for him and right now he's not being a nice and you aren't feeling particularly loving. He can sort his own damn dinner.
I once had an argument with my ex while doing the weekly shop. Bought mint shower gel knowing it will tingle when he washed. Hearing him shout the next day was funny as fuck
If you MADE dinner for 2 and took theirs away, that'd be petty af.
This is kinda petty, but at the same time, they should be just as capable of making themselves a meal if you're not feeling it.
This is great advice. Username doesn’t check out. Slightly disappointed
“I'm going to therapy now and really trying to better myself as a person”
Just focus on this and forget the rest!
He might not get another job, his next job might not be so forgiving with his absence
My husband and I pretty much just share the finances. I have never paid him anything. We both have bank accounts with the other person listed on them. We each take care of certain bills (i.e. I pay the mortgage since we set it up out of my account, he pays the car, ect.). If one of us is a little low for the week we just transfer whatever the other person needs. We both buy whatever we want from our accounts (if it's more than $50ish we will talk about it first, usually just to give a heads up).
It's all very..fluid? The way we both see it, we are a unit, our bills are OUR bills. We both work, we both pay bills. It's never 'my bills cost more' or 'You make more so you cover more' . We are a team and we treat our money, as OUR money.
We also spilt the chores pretty evenly and the childcare duties.
Tbh, it was never really a discussion for us. It's just kinda how it worked out. Almost 15 years together and he has never asked me to 'pay him back'
I just want you to know it’s ok for you to feel whatever it is you’re feeling. You need to trust your gut. Something is off and you’re picking up on it and it’s ok for you to notice that. If you don’t like his behavior you don’t have to put up w it. If he’s not making you feel special and loved and he is making you feel compared and insulted, it’s ok for you to feel that. He seems just from this post that he’s a button pusher. Why continuously say “geico job” and then respond and describe her in this way? I’m concerned this is a form of negging and control for him. He wants you to question your behavior, whether he’s going to hate you too, and then walk on eggshells to please him. Be very careful with men (or anyone) who want you to question if you or your behavior are good enough. This can (not always) be a red flag that turns into controlling abuse very quickly.
If none of these things are true, it’s still ok to stick up for yourself when you feel anything negative. You don’t have to feel that. You don’t have to put up w bad treatment. Pay attention to what you feel and then love yourself.
My thoughts exactly
ex of hers that has been “just a friend”
Learn from this in the future. Ex's are never 'just friends'
send very relationship type messages back and forth with someone not in state for at least a couple months. He got caught, and he said it was just porn to him
So. 1) he cheats 2) he lies 3) you established that you will choose to believe those lies.
You worked past it on an obvious foundation of lies.
he has always been very weird and private with his phone.
Right… because he does sketchy shit on it and knows it. There are people that genuinely are just like this, but it's not him. He's a cheater.
We match each other's crazy lol.
That's right up there with “(s)he's my person” in terms of things that aren't inherently toxic, but I never see someone in a healthy relationship say it. Except in this case, it's a little bit inherently toxic too.
One thing I asked was no more snapchat, which he deleted. After I don't know how long he was back to using it which I found out some months later.
So we AGAIN see the pattern of lying, of being deceitful, of why he'd hide his phone. Oh you don't see snapchat messages from when he was hiding it for you? You know why snapchat ever got any traction, right? He's just hiding his tracks better.
These are just the instances you're telling us about and there's a well established pattern. I'd bet they aren't the only instances.
(which is naked for me as I am not a confrontational)
Which he takes advantage of by giving you some small concession to placate you, temporarily behaving, and then going right back to his old ways once he thinks he can get away with it again.
How to 100% get that trust back I had in him and not think and overthink everything.
Iono, a time machine and swapping him out with a different person? You will never get the 100% trust back because he is not trustworthy. You need to accept that and stop trying to force this. Stop trying to live! the lie that he's someone he's not.
I want him to be my forever.
And that's the root problem here. You can't let go of what you wanted this to be, so you refuse to see it for what it is. You want the option that you can be with him and he can be trustworthy. That is not an option you have. That is not who he is, which he has shown you repeatedly. So, basically, until you give up this active effort to work towards denial of who he is, you're going to keep going through this cycle.
Statistically it's one of your brothers. Most sex offenders are 18-30
idk man… if my bf did this on a busy day at work i would feel very overwhelmed too. not sure what line of work she does but if she has accounts or clients to answer to and there are deadlines to meet, i wouldn’t be able to switch off work mode and enjoy myself. also, some people (especially those who have past trauma around these sorts of things) don’t like surprises and it makes them anxious.
without knowing the real reason why it’s hard to say what you did wrong, if anything
i would talk to her but be prepared to hold space for her emotions, without judgment or blame.
i know you had good intentions so maybe reflect on your own reaction. ex: why would you feel ‘absolutely crushed’ ? …because she wasn’t jumping up and down with joy? why do you think she owes you an apology?
sounds like you’re upset bc she didn’t give you the praise you felt you deserved, and that in and of itself is something you should work on. you should be doing things out of love and because you want to, and not expect anything in return.
all these expectations is why some people don’t like surprises or gifts, bc they feel like they owe the giver something.
Yeah, that's BS. “I'm so outraged that you'd ask such a thing that I won't answer it” is pure gaslighting. You asked a simple question with good reason to ask.
I agree on giving her some time, I had a very big bushy beard for the last 4 years and shaved it off without warning and I had some less then warm reception from my wife. After a couple of days it was fine, took her time to get used to it
Yep, that's the one. I couldn't find it, but thought the answers on his post might give OP some insight as to why her boyfriend might be reticent to tell her.
Well if you tell your husband you're sneaking around, he'll probably decide for you.
I would be skeptical that her therapist actually advised her to lie.
OP says her girlfriend is worried that she (OP) won't move back in with her after living with the sister.
So, we may be missing a huge chunk of info.
It has nothing to do with gender. It has to do with comfort. I don't know how the partner felt in the OP. I can only judge what has been given.
Dude slamming your jacket down on a table and then refusing to leave when you showed you can't control your temper is terrifying.
I had an ex similar to you it didn't take long until it was banging on my window at 2am because I didn't respond in time and he didn't believe I was asleep.
Did you expect it to turn out differently?
You married a compulsive liar. You had kids with a compulsive liar. Now you're surprised they turned out like dad??
The biggest influence on a kid's behavior is who they're around the most (parents/family)
You made the bed, now you have to lay in it.
You need to speak to him about how you feel. Your needs are important. You deserve to feel loved and uplifted by your partner.
It sounds like he lacks maturity, and you have to decide if you want to teach a grown man to do his share of the load, if you want to accept that unequal burden, or if you want to leave the relationship and find someone who knows how to be supportive.
But nothing will change, one way or the other, if you don’t take action. Be honest and open with your partner about what you’re feeling and what you expect from him and from the relationship. Decide what you want your future to look like, and then tell him. If he’s on the same page, he’ll work to make the relationship better, and to support you. He might slip up from time to time because he’s learning new habits. But that’s ok.
If he’s not on the same page, he won’t. He won’t change. Or he’ll say he will change and then after a few days or weeks he’ll drop back into old habits and not make any effort to change.
You have to ask yourself: do you want to spend the rest of your relationship feeling like your needs aren’t important? Like you’re not being supported?
A relationship is a partnership. Both partners have to participate to make it work.
Thank you, that’s good advice
You can’t force attraction. It’s ok. You don’t have to want everyone. Be honest with her and tell her that you want to be just friends. Girls do it all the time. Why can’t you be allowed to want to be just friends?
Do not use that amount of your savings for one day. Are you able to do a fancy dinner with a couple of close friends and immediate/close family instead?
Do you have specific plans for your savings? Regardless, this is YOUR money.
Have you talked through how y’all will manage money when you’re married?
There is no is it too soon. You make the rules for your life.
If it seems fast then it’s too soon. If it feels right then you become official.
I think people forget that dating only one person is kinda making it official. If you are open and honest and still want to date others you tell your partners do they are informed.
This is dating not fucking. Ofc you should tell partners you are seeing others so they are informed.
but could you explain why?
If that was the case, then he'd be proposing a sex-free period.
He specifically wants to nut inside her.
I’ve been married for 11 years and this is NOT normal at any stage.
Hey man you probably meant well, and you probably didn't want anything to happen to her. You also probably think that you're gonna lose her or something, but as all the comments have said here you can't do what you did. Please learn from what everyone else is saying, and don't take it too personally, I don't know you but I'm going to attribute what you did to immaturity. We've all been there so take this lesson and learn from it.
Regarding your GF you can't control people, and if she doesn't respect your wishes you don't get to dictate what to do. If she doesn't want to stop drinking and you're not comfortable to it, you'll probably have to let her go. You're still young and hopefully you'll learn from this mistake going forward.
USA. No sick leave for part time workers.
Your husband is also your support system, as he is working a job to pay for your lifestyle.
end the fucking relationship.
Continued contact with an AP is poison to reconciliation.
You get to pick your boundaries to move forward, and you are not OK with him continuing to be in your and your wife's life in any way.
You wife will now get to choose if she really wants to get back together, or really wants to keep this guy around. Either way, you have an answer that you need.
And what happens if you get married and then realize you still aren't sexually compatible?
And if Reddit is getting it wrong, “as usual,” why do they continue asking…Reddit?!
He gave her a lot of money through a private account. Three different times. His explanation makes no sense.
He ruined the relationship & broke the trust. He should go to counseling or individual therapy to help rebuild the trust. Also this man sucks 2 years shouldn’t together should’ve be a reason to stay & be treated like this.
It sounds like more of a fantasy than something he thought long and hard about.
Maybe his fantasies are stronger than his imagination to really understand the reality.
It was an idiotic thought. He clearly didn't think about how his question would impact you.
But walk him through it. Ask him if he has researched how many many marriages that went poly ended up in divorce. Or if he has thought about the idea that you could have a different man every night if you so chose.
I’ve said this before on another post, but here it is again:
Everyone on here comparing being polyamorous to being gay, lesbian, or bisexual is just… wrong. It’s not a sexuality. It’s a lifestyle preference. Everyone is capable of being attracted to multiple people. People who are willing to have multiple partners simultaneously are fine, but they don’t HAVE to do so. They may choose not to BE monogamous, but being polyamorous isn’t a requirement, either. Neither choice is wrong, unless the poly partner tries to coerce the monogamous partner into being poly/being okay with themselves only being poly.
Spoiler alert: it’s abusive to accuse the monogamy preferred partner of “immaturity, jealousy, possessiveness, closed-mindedness, prudishness, or of lacking “enlightenment” to guilt them into acquiescing to participation. Monogamy is the preferred choice for the majority of people, and that’s okay.
If the poly partner promises to be monogamous with you to maintain the relationship, then other sexual or romantic relationships ARE cheating, regardless of their preference for polyamory. If the monogamous partner agrees to the poly relationship and then punishes the poly partner for engaging with others sexually or romantically? That’s abuse.
He's really going to piss someone off if they have to ruin their trip to haul him out of the backcountry for a preventable condition.
Why were you with him for 4 years? He obviously does not care about you, however even besides that he seems incompatible with you.
You should run away, as you should have done long time ago. I can see why you were bullied for so long, it seems it takes really a lot for you to decide to actually do sth about a shitty situation.
Getting tubes tied is a much more dangerous surgery than a vasectomy
You should research concubinage
This doesn’t end well. If you want to salvage your marriage then go to counseling asap. I’m not sure it’s salvageable unless she is willing to see where you’re at. If you do nothing then you’re just heading further down the path of resentment on a fast train to eventual divorce. That might be your best option anyway but this won’t save itself.
What was the point of posting for advice if you feel like you already know the answer?
You also apparently think you’re special and your boyfriend who doesn’t experience empathy for anyone magically has empathy for you….. okay OP.
Good luck with this.
My advice to you is to tread lightly with your mom. Because you’re going to need her help in the future when you realize that you’re not special, he doesn’t care about your feelings (because he literally can’t), he doesn’t care about your child’s feelings, and you can’t continue to be with him.
She refuses to get help and verbally abuses you and the kids.
This needs to be more of a you need to get the help you need, or the kids and I are gone.
We are in a discussed exclusive relationship and I don’t monitor his social media.
It doesn't matter who messaged who …. it's inappropriate.
Does her getting the job affect your position at all?
You have to decide if you want to stay with her——before you have kids and ruin your life and theirs and hers
Cuz you are getting played like a piano. Dude is gonna hit it and quit it. But go ahead and blow up your life. Have fun.
Pretty sure it's Shiela
I think your comments probably just seem unnecessary to most people
All the more reason to get divorced
I'm sorry it's not the answer you wanted because it's not so cut and dried. Who is controlling? Both might say they want the best for you but what does your trusted people think is right?
You block him everywhere.
She may very well only have pretended to like the behavior, it's an unfortunate fact that women are raised by society to never put thier needs first, never make a fuss, “don't be a bitch” and be easy-going. It can take a lot of us a long time to really find our best voice in relationships and stop putting our needs and wants behind the other person.
Don’t do it. You’re not in a relationship, you’re barely dating. You were not exclusive.
Get the police involved. I suspect Benji isn’t actually with the co-worker. I’m so sorry.
OP might have better luck publicly shaming the co-worker
And you're OK with that? Cause I sure as hell wouldn't be. I'm sorry but if the only time he can have an orgasm is by watching porn and he thinks it's not a big deal you have so many problems with this man. Why don't you dump the loser and go find a man who actually wants to have an orgasm with you and not with some unknown female from a porn video.
he.has.porn.addiction.
Of course it is possible-
A) option- no one changes and the shit cycle continues. History keeps repeating.
B) option- only one changes and the shit cycle continues. History keeps repeating.
C) option- both embrace self reflection and get real and recognize issues. They have a chance.
I’m in the same situation OP. Animal piss all over the place, overflowing litter boxes and filth. My MIL is incredibly laze and expects others to clean up after her. She even gets diarrhea smears on the toilet seat and doesn’t clean it. I can’t take it and it truly disgusts me.
Yep.
LEAVE HIM. He’s trying to manipulate you. If you’re not into that sort of thing, don’t let yourself be manipulated into accepting it.
I also struggle with social burnout on holidays, and usually get ill for a few days after coming home. Since being diagnosed with adhd, I realised that insisting on getting some alone time is totally OK.
But often other people act like I'm an ungrateful hostile btch when I ask for a bit of breathing space. I always used to force myself to tolerate people being constantly up in my business even though I sometimes vomited from stress. And it still wasn't enough for them! They demanded me have a smile on my face the whole time too.
OP, maybe you could tell your wife that you understand that she needs some time alone to recharge. A couple of hours exploring the ship by herself might really help. Or she could get a coffee and read her book on deck until she feels comfortable again. Or you could go for a walk in the morning while she has a lie in.
After the three month mark I’d send them a letter. Spell out very clearly that you and your spouse are very happy with the pregnancy. You’re not looking for their approval or criticism. If they would like to be part of their grandchild’s life you both would like that as long as it doesn’t involve judgment or negativity. Sign the letter from both you and your spouse. Then let it go. If they call with positive feedback great, if not then your child will still be welcomed into your loving home and have the benefit of one set of loving grandparents. You aren’t in control of your parents’ feelings and you’re old enough to live! your own life.
Congratulations on your pregnancy.
I'm sorry brother, but this is abuse in every form. Please give the Domestic Abuse hotline a try. They can help you make a plan to keep yourself and your son safe. I hate to say this, but leaving is always the most dangerous time and your son may be used to hurt you during this time. GOOGLE Brandi Worli.
just text START TO 88788. They can guide you through this. No judgement.
Namaste.
Get std checked. She has probably been sleeping with multiple dudes while out all night.
A simple compromise could be to get him to use anti bac wet wipes when he poops? It's very grim that he doesn't wash properly
First step is to stop calling him your boyfriend. He's broken up with you. You're both single now. You're not waiting for him to “explore his options”. You're not waiting for him at all. He didn't mess up, he made a choice. You've got to reframe this.