Press right there to start video
Room for online video chats Nice_love_lola
Nice_love_lolalive sex stripping with Live HD
22K Share
Press right there to start video or
Room for live! sex video chat Nice_love_lola
Model from:
Languages: de,en
Birth Date: 2003-10-07
Body Type: bodyTypeThin
Ethnicity: ethnicityWhite
Hair color: hairColorBlonde
Eyes color: eyeColorGreen
Subculture: subcultureRomantic
What is a hen do?
Finding happiness with being alone is a good thing, sometimes it comes easier to some than others.
Important tip. Get a group of close friends you can spend time with for when you feel the need to spend time with a person. Group… Not singular. One person burns out easy… And when you're not with your friends go do things for YOU. Hobbies that you can include in alone are great!
That's how booklets are made ?
Why can’t she hang out with your friends? Then it’s a win-win
Might have to be very direct with him,walk up and grab him by the package and say”john boy,i want you NOW”.something like that maybe…?
Might have to be very direct with him,walk up and grab him by the package and say”john boy,i want you NOW”.something like that maybe…?
OP is 100% a narcissist. Yikes.
She is abusive fam,then goes about love bombing you. Don't tolerate that from her, it will get worse
Exactly? I’ve been a nanny to three kids and did everything for them plus helped with homework, cooked and still kept the house clean.
Lol could make an effort. As a stay at home wife with one kid it is not that much work to keep the house clean and since she’s a at home and he’s the breadwinner that’s what she should be doing. If she were the breadwinner and he was staying at home it would be expected for him to do most of the chores as well. You people want to be sahm and barely do anything at home.
I just want him to choose me over his addiction, it hurts a lot
OP definitely do this in future
Stupid advice part II
You are 86 days sober. I don’t know if you’re in AA or if you’re going it alone. If you’re in AA, call your sponsor. If you’re doing it on your own, listen to me: do not put yourself in a high-anxiety situation where everyone, including your SO, is drinking to get drunk. Willpower only goes so far. Protect your sobriety.
This is a way bigger issue than his poem history tbh
Well then he's shit out of luck. Either he moves out or stops complaining.
I think we agree, I mean, for me it is a progress people cannot make move on drunk people without repercussion.
Coworkers do it all the time, so in the case of OP, it was either borderline SA, or full consent, and for a long time .
You said she came a couple times before penatration? If that's the case, that's where this intense feeling comes from. If she came she had a huge flood of endorphins along with a lotttt of hormones. I wouldn't say it's normal, but it's not surprising. I'm a women and when I was 18/19 those feelings are so over the place. Even now as an adult after sex I can get overwhelmed.
Definitely talk to her about it when she's calmer, and when that happens please take her words at face value. Try not to get in your head about it and remember it'll be okay❤️
It seems like a semi-rebellious and hilarious way to push boundaries for the sake of seeing what happens. In other words: teenagers gonna teenager
It seems like a semi-rebellious and hilarious way to push boundaries for the sake of seeing what happens. In other words: teenagers gonna teenager
It seems like a semi-rebellious and hilarious way to push boundaries for the sake of seeing what happens. In other words: teenagers gonna teenager
How exactly is she stupid? Seriously blaming her the victim for his bad behavior. She didnt know 8 months ago he was gonna do this. Hold men accountable for their shitty actions instead of blaming her
I hope you give her a chance. You might regret it if you don't.
Alright, old lady. People are agreeing with me so….?
For me personally the only thing that would help with a crush like this is time and space away from the person.
Fuck, now I’m scared. No nausea, balance issues or twitches. But now I’m definitely going to see if I can get him an MRI.
Hopefully not for much longer .
I think you need to have a serious talk with your wife about rehoming the puppy.
Also, do not have kids with this person.
Please work on yourself and valuing your peace!
Don't
Is the first time she’s physically assaulted you in response to being touched? Either way, that’s a major problem and I think you made the right choice. Let her realize the extent of her problem, maybe even offer a chance at reparation down the line if she keeps going to therapy and truly works out her issue, but I don’t think full no contact is exactly they right move.
She needs to be made well aware of why it’s not okay and why you’re no longer going to let her do that to you. You need to make it clear that she did this and it’s up to her to make it right. Make the same clear to her mother and sister too. I wish you luck OP.
People like her upset me, it gives us folks dealing with anxiety a bad name? I don't know. I don't like that this is excused as an anxiety issue, I have it, I take responsibility and apologize, I go above and beyond to be ok and do the work and make sure I don't hurt others, and when I do I accept what I did and make sure people are ok.
This is abuse and you need to leave
Hello /u/Wydglo,
Your post was removed for the following reason(s):
Your title did not include at least two ages/genders or was not formatted correctly
Posts must:
include details about the involved parties including ages, genders, and length of relationship, and
request advice in real situations involving two or more people
We are enforcing the two rules listed above by making all titles start with ages/genders in the following format:
[##X][##X], [## X][## X], or [##-X][##-X] where ## is the age and X is the gender (currently M, F, T, A, NB, FTM, MTF but more can be added). You can have more than two ages/genders listed, but you must have at least two at the beginning of your title. Here is an example:
[34NB][88-F] We are two people in an example post
Please resubmit with a corrected title.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
I would be happy if my wife went out and had a good time while I was sick. Nor reason for both of us to be home and miserable. But I also like to be left alone when I’m sick.
If my wife got sick, I know she likes to be fussed over and to feel nurtured when she’s sick, so I would cancel my plans to stay home.
(OP in whiny voice) Why doesn't anyone understand I'm the victim? I posted here so everyone could sympathize with me and tell me that I'm right! Wah! Wah!
Yeah i'm disturbed by that too.
The situation is weird because you go from not even knowing if you want to date him, to feeling entitled to his time, then he tells you he wants to see other people, you tell him someone else asked you out (unnecessary) and now you’re upset.
I think with all that’s going on with you, it would be wise to work on yourself and want you want/how you feel without giving this guy mixed messages. Maybe instead of ghosting him, you could be honest and tell him you don’t know where your head is at and you need to sort yourself out alone.
As a fellow brick just accept him, eventually he will crack but dont force it.
Shes not remorseful, she hates that she got caught.
File a complaint about the therapist.
Please understand that a normal, developed good intentioned man would never ever do something like this. This is insane and you need to stay away from him. He doesn’t love you, this is not love. Love is not basing your relationship on the condition of how you look. It’s also not about matching his healthy lifestyle that’s bullshit. This guy is nuts and I bet this isn’t the first red flag. Do not get back with him!
You know he is and always interested in sex. He never really hid it. So you knew this , you went back got the attention you want it. Previous person comment was correct
“I can’t leave him, It simply isn’t done”
Yeah well then building a relationship with your kids is off the table.
In a few years they won’t even come to family dinner anymore.
I'm sorry, you're on Reddit and we're seldomly kind.
So, people complaining about casual sex being bad is your “unpopular opinion” BUUUUUUT, you’re a champion of the “body count” bullshitery?
Makes perfect (non)sense. Thanks for clearing that up.
This makes me think of my ex bf when we were 17 and he'd up and leave during conflict and then would come right back, angry that I didn't chase after him. So immature. I say let him go.
Are either of your names one that could work as a first name? Might be weird but it’s another sort of compromise if you don’t want to hyphenate or choose a new name together. Are you dead set on one child? If you had two, you could split the last names.
You can be pity about it by doing the following: 1. Throw away every spray bottle he buys. 2. Spray him back whenever he sprays you. 3. Give him the silent treatment since he is not interested in hearing you. 4. Do whatever you want. If your opinion doesn’t matter to him, his should not matter to you.
Now this might be enough to shake him up and make him rethink his behavior, or he might aggravate the assault. So, before you follow any advice, please think about what kind of person he is.
Girl….no. He wants his cake and wants to eat it to. He is clearly very controlling but is ramping up this behaviour. You deserve better than everything he is offering you! Run don’t walk out of this relationship it’s clear he doesn’t give you the respect you deserve. There are so many red flags in your post that the best thing you can do is get out as soon as possible.
I know you are heart broken right now but I promise you will heal. There is someone out there who will love you as you deserve to be loved. Gather your strength and stay strong. Just imagine this was your friend in this situation and she came to you for advice. How would you feel if someone treated your friend like that?
Wow! Yes. He’s ‘forgotten’ what hot chicks look like? How bloody insulting!
This sounds like one of those stupid situations where she finds out her fiance has a crush on you. She baits you into a fight and now she can justify to her self getting rid of you
I meant gossip such as “I heard they are thinking of closing our call center!” That's not mean-spirited, it's useful information. My best work friend used to come to me for technical help, but she reciprocated by telling me the accountant was fired for embezzling – when the office was under a strict gag order not to talk of the matter. (It happened on a day when I was absent and all I wanted was to know what was going on!)
It just kind of trips me out because, while not hideous, I'm not all that conventionally attractive, and I've also sort of viewed that what attracts people to me is the way I carry myself (which I think is graceful, and classy), and my warm personality. It feels like he is viewing me as attention seeking/seeking validation because of insecurities I have. Like, that the je ne said quoi / sexiness I possess is actually driven by compensating for what I perceive myself to lack.
Option 2. Contract: never go into a business without a legal contact. You can help with funding providing you get a monthly balanced statement and percentage of said business also a return on your investment but you're only helping to finance only. Due to how your finances are established.
10:1 he wants you to join your funds so he can have access to your money and it's not really about starting a business.
Contract contract contract!!!!
Repeat after me: I deserve better and there is no point in being with a person who doesn't know what they want and don't make some effort to show me that I'm important to them.
This wouldn't sit well with me either man. This seems extremely unsafe. There could be a number of things tbah could happen. Not to mention it also sounds like it could be a hook up or lead to one. If she refuses to change her mind in going, I strongly recommend you go with her. If she refuses this option, I'm really leaning towards her having the intention of hooking up with him. At the very least, anyone in the right mind, especially a female would want their husband or SOMEONE they know to come for her safety.
This situation sounds so sketchy to me
I'm curious why this is a distinction for you.
Is one situation better than another? I mean besides the obvious financial situation. I'm struggling to understand what the difference is in these two examples on a relationship level.
He actually got up to grab food that he ordered for us, and when he came back I think I had already moved to my friend’s bed. I don’t think he planned on leaving me passed out on the floor, if anything he would have woken me up to eat and then brought me to our room. So maybe he missed the opportunity to redirect me and he felt hurt when he saw me asleep with another guy / decided to leave me there..
Indeed these are friends we drink with / stay the night with often so I never felt like I was in danger.
I agree on the drinking part. I’ve decided to go sober for a month for sure since it already has been affecting my short term memory.
I just got out of a very similar relationship
Don’t wait for her to change, cause she won’t. Dump her. Date someone who actually likes you and wants to hang out with you.
Let her go. It’ll sting for a week but you’ll find someone way better who actually makes you happy.
Omg, I just read this after I posted a response. I can’t believe he’d be happy for you to go through the trauma of an abortion and all it’s possible complications just because he doesn’t want to wear a condom. I’m even more disgusted.
This is not a nice person op, please dump him. There are many much nicer men out there who will respect you
Is she a SAHM? Always cringed onto always a baby on the book? Honestly it's not you. When your a mom your kids are allllll over you, and just some time not being touched, gropped or people in your space. It's…. it's heaven.
Get a night off, cook, run her a bath with candles let's her decompress. Then dry her off, message her and let her fall asleep.
I know that sounds anti climactic to you, but that after kids is the long game for play. That's going to lead up (eventually) to some of the best fulfilling sex of your life. The intimacy, trust,and love. It will be 100% worth it.
He doesn’t want advice, he wants validation. He is getting it from you, as you claim if she doesn’t finically support him, it means she doesn’t give a shit about him!
Here are all the times where I said that she doesn't have to financially support him:
it can sometimes feel unfair that he has to struggle and work so hot to afford rent and groceries, while she has it much easier because her parents pay for everything. But he never said that she has to pay for him because of it. Neither did I.
I didn't tell him to mooch off of her or to act passive agressive about it. My advice was the same as yours, that he should talk to her about it and say it's out of his budget.
It doesn't mean she has to support him.
no, I don't beleive that (rent and bills are a sign of love).
All I said is that she shouldn't steal rent money that is owed to her parents, and that they should do things together that are within his budget. I never said she should pay his bills, don't put words in my mouth.
I have said 5 different times that she doesn't have to financially support him, and yet you still keep repeating that I have said the opposite. I may as well be talking to a wall. Clearly you're just a troll so I'm done responding, have a nice life.
I think it would be different if she was obviously overweight to begin with, and it was clear she was on a weight loss journey. One or two well-intentioned compliment would probably be well received in that situation, but it does not seem to be the case here.
It obvious he doesn’t love you anymore and is only with you because of your kid
have u never heard of couples that propose to eachother? if she proposed to him it would give them a new proposal w out it being a redo. it makes sense
my friend (21F) ignored my boundaries and kissed me ssxually assaulted me (21F) when she was drunk
Fixed that for you. She sexually assaulted you. What she did was a massive breach of trust, and is absolutely not okay, in any reality and regardless of her attempted justifications
You should consider investing in a couple of waterproof mattress pads to protect your mattress from further damage.
You’re talking about your fiancé here. This is bigger than finances.
Your worry is certainly not unreasonable, but it’s still completely unreasonable that your immediate action wasn’t to reach out to him and ask what the fuck is going on?
Are you usually asking for plans on the same day? It sounds like that. I think this is easily solved by asking her the day before. She’s busy making plans because she has no way of knowing that you are thinking about making plans for later in the day. Make sense?
Ah, it’s the signs spammer, but with out the weird spaces. And if it’s not, take a Women’s studies course to explore you neurosis, don’t post this shit on a relationship advice forum.
Communication?! You want OP to communicate?! Don't be bringing that type of positivity to Reddit. We either demand they break up or drag the OP for miles.
Communication?! You want OP to communicate?! Don't be bringing that type of positivity to Reddit. We either demand they break up or drag the OP for miles.
Interesting. I wish I could be as mature as you one day. I find it offensive especially since it was done in secret and was with an old fling.
Divorce him and let your divorce attorney know about his cheating and etc.
Do you make plans with her? Like, do you make an actual plan with an actual date and ask her to book that time with you to do something? Do you tend to be more of an introvert and prefer to stay home on your days off?
It’s hot to offer much advice without more details.
Based solely on your OP, it doesn’t seem like she wants to spend time with you and maybe it’s time to move on. But then I think about my situation and I wonder what she’d say.
My partner prefers to spend his free time watching TV or playing video games. I like to spend my free time doing my hobbies and volunteer work. We eat dinner together during the weeknights and have a date night every Friday but after dinner and on the weekend? I’m gone a lot doing my own thing.
When my partner does plan something, I’m on it! But I book things a few weeks in advance usually so if he just has a surprise day off? Chances are that I already have things planned having thought he wasn’t going to be around.
I dunno. If you don’t feel like your needs are being met, you need to tell her that you’d like to spend more time together. But if she’s more extroverted and you’re more introverted, it may be that you need to put some effort into actually planning things with her vs just expecting her to stay home.
You said you’ve got a dog…plan a hike and a picnic and take the dog, go for a walk after dinner. Go to a dog park. That’s inexpensive and can be some nice quality time for all!
That’s pretty crazy. Like, seriously it’s a pillow. I have back issues and I use one sometimes instead of my boyfriend even while we are sleeping in the same bed. It’s great for hip support. He sometimes does the same. It’s not like we hate cuddling with eachother – it’s quite the opposite. And when my boyfriend is gone I love taking naps with the body pillow because it takes up the space of another person and reminds me of him. I could understand if it was an anime one but you literally specified it’s a normal body pillow. If your wife is getting worked up about something THIS small, dude, what else is going on? Are you seriously going to put up with this? Ask yourself if you see the relationship being healthy and happy for both of you if the relationship continues this way. If not, try couples therapy. If that doesn’t work/your wife doesn’t want to try couples therapy then don’t keep wasting more of both of your time when you could be having happier and healthier experiences elsewhere and get a divorce. It’s not fun. It’s terrible to think about starting and many people just avoid divorce and settle for an unhappy marriage to avoid the trouble. As humans, we hate change. However, you don’t see those people living their best lives and they’re often unhappy. Do yourself a favor and know when to call it quits.
You are about to have a baby. Quit.
Did OP state that she was a veteran or had a horribly traumatic childhood?
I wouldn't consider it cheating, depending on the conversation. But if your current bf has set that boundary, it would definitely be a violation.
Late to the show. BUT has this exact situation with my ex wife. She tried to explain it away too. But after 13 years of marriage it transpires. She was at the hotel fucking another guy all afternoon like the GPS suggested!!!
Going to play devils advocate and say he was looking for details because how she reacted during intimate attempts. Not everyone is clued in on even the more basic ways to handle SA relationships at all. Resources about education and assistance absolutely suck so it's unfortunately something that'll continue to happen for a while.
Are you sure this isn't a YOU issue? What has she done that you to trust her so little? What happens if you are indeed wrong? You are basically calling your wife a liar and a cheat and questioning her as a person in general.
Also, if you are so sure she is cheating, why not just leave? Eventually, if she is proven innocent, then you may have ruined your marriage as no woman wants to put up with such serious accusations based on insecurities that are your responsibility to fix, not hers.
Not your monkeys….. he can then sleep in the car they have a place to sleep
Ehh. I don't have children but I'd say “don't stay for the kids”.
They'd be miserable if you're miserable anyway so might as well seek haooiness elsewhere.
Now, marriage always deserve a second chance so counselling is good. But be prepared to accept things as they are if he's not gonna put efforts into cooperating.
Exactly what an undercover cop might say lol
If you found out you were pregnant, and immediately decided abortion was the route for you, please do not flip flop and bring a child into this world because you overheard your boyfriend vent to his therapist. If you didn’t jump for joy and start planning for the baby, you don’t want a baby. It’s completely normal – even applauded, really – that your boyfriend is in therapy and has a healthy outlet to share his feelings and concerns. If he felt strongly about keeping the baby, I’m sure he would’ve made more of an effort to talk to you about your options. Do the right thing for you ♥️
If you found out you were pregnant, and immediately decided abortion was the route for you, please do not flip flop and bring a child into this world because you overheard your boyfriend vent to his therapist. If you didn’t jump for joy and start planning for the baby, you don’t want a baby. It’s completely normal – even applauded, really – that your boyfriend is in therapy and has a healthy outlet to share his feelings and concerns. If he felt strongly about keeping the baby, I’m sure he would’ve made more of an effort to talk to you about your options. Do the right thing for you ♥️
Arfarfarf. ????
I mean you didn't really have in your wedding party to begin with only when your parents asked, that says it all really. Now he has done the same and you're upset? He actually asked you if had anything against meaning he actually considered you in the first place unlike you.
You can tell him how you feel and that you want to be in the wedding party, 2 best men and 2 maid of honours doesn't sound bad to me.
He works nights and sleeps all day he has off 2 days a week, I was able to have the job for 3 months and my parents would watch the kids but they unfortunately couldn’t do it anymore due to time
He works nights and sleeps all day he has off 2 days a week, I was able to have the job for 3 months and my parents would watch the kids but they unfortunately couldn’t do it anymore due to time
I was married 28 years until my husband died 3 years ago. We never went through each others phones, or exchanged phones, or any of that garbage. Trust wasn’t an issue. If people have to be vigilant about trust and check up on each other, they shouldn’t be together.
First of all, I’m sorry this is happening to you.
Second of all…I think you should just sit her down and tell her something like…
“GF, I don’t know how to tell you this, but I recently received some very bad medical news and I wanted you to be prepared for the possibilities. (Insert diagnosis/ specifics)”
She is going to be upset no matter what, you can’t exactly break this news in a way that she’s be happy (and if you did, I highly doubt that her happiness would make you happy)
Best to just get it over with.
Didn't you leave her on read? Why would she talk to you again when you didn't answer when she talked to you last time?
I just don't know how we got from completely fine friendship to this… Was he ever jealous of my other friends? No. So what switches in some people's head? I just don't understand it and it makes me sad and hopeless ?
Guess just asking if anyone has had something similar happen to them and some advice for dealing with a situation like this
Bro I meant “trans” as a prefix. It’s a root word. That’s… Yeesh. But you’re correct that “ciswomen” are not a thing, because cis is a root word used as an adjective, & we’re writing in English, so we don’t shove adjectives into the front of a word without a space. Again, hope this helps! But with a little less “hope” this time, because you seem pretty set on being wrong 🙂
You either need to tell him that you want to be celibate or split up with him. It’s not fair to keep this from him and it’s a little bit selfish to try. Soon enough he’ll start questioning if he’s doing something wrong.
But this is what it is. I texted her on 2 feb. But now its march. My FRIENDS text me in few hours.
What we’ve got here is clearly just an anti-red pill porn story.
If you’re already feeling uncomfortable then you’re NOT marrying the right person. You should not have any of these doubts before such a big commitment. What your fiancé is doing is not right. You shouldn’t use in the heat of moment as an excuse for his behavior. You DO know that you don’t want to continue living like this. This is your opportunity to fix it. Make the right decision for yourself and happiness.
Just ask yourself, why is he with someone 20 years younger? Usually after the honeymoon phase passes, you will see the answer.
Instead of forcing yourself on her, find someone with similiar needs
He asked you for a casual hookup, you agreed. He didn’t really owe you more.
That said, he sounds like an f boy in general.
Trust that there are way better options for you out there. Don’t get hung up on this random guy just cause you have to see him all the time at work. Move on asap and don’t look back. You don’t wanna get caught in his f boy mess.
If you had posted you were 19 and 21, I might have excused her TO A LIMITED degree, and would have chalked this up to immaturity OP, and a simple issue of growing up a bit. But honestly OP she is 31she is or should be mature enough and have enough experience to know this is not typical, she has an incredibly one sided standard, and that just does not work healthy relationship. OP honestly that she seems to like constantly digging on and insulting you and your friends, and has stated you are lucky to have her. Is a common tactic of abusers, It's a deliberate attempt to make you feel insecure, to make you believe you will never get anyone better, in order to manipulate you into taking the abuse.
If you are done be done with it,, if you want to try therapy and work on it, you can but this often does not change a person who is intent to keep control, many abusers even those that are more subtle about it will tell therapists exactly what they want to here. acts better for a while and then slip back into the same pattern. Abuse is not just physical and verbal abuse can often leave deeper scars. Is this the kind of future you want?
That's the term I was looking for: placeholder. 🙂
ITA.
OP is the placeholder. The ex is not ready to be fully committed to her, so there you go. Once he does and decides that she's “the one,” OP will get that apologetic “I'm sorry, but I fell back in love with my ex” break up talk.
WTF.
FUCK YOU for lying. for cheating. for LYING ABOUT A CHILD! to someone whom you “love”?
for reaching out to the ex.
you deserve eachother. go with the ex and free your husband from your toxicity!!!!!!
No
Fair point. I should’ve phrased it as the history isn’t as big a deal as the lying, but you are correct in that history can be a big deal to some people.
Move on. There is another woman in the picture.
he has already heard back from 2 schools, just waiting for the rest he applied to. i agree with you, i would’ve been there supporting him no matter what, but it just doesn’t sound like he wants that. very unfortunate but the truth. feel like the only reason why he reached out to talk & try things out again is to sleep with me.
You meet every other week, but have a mortgage together??
I used to hold cigarettes for a friend anytime I got caught with them. Did you see her give back the phone? Any other proof this is true?