I am completely misunderstanding this timeline. Try to figure out how you’re placed as the father. If you had a vasectomy in January, a baby would not be born until October or November. It’s not possible for you to have a vasectomy in January if her to have a baby in July. It also should not be possible for you to have a vasectomy in January, her to get pregnant in July, if her to have already had the baby. Unless I misunderstanding the timeline, I don’t see you as the father. Number one is take a paternity test. The average pregnancy is 40 weeks or 10 months. It would’ve also been free to do it if you had done it in the hospital.
Guilt is good. You have a lot to feel guilty about. I carry some guilt. I still think about it often. It helps you to be a better person. Go forward. Be a better human. Try to forgive yourself.
Wait till valentine's day if you want to buy some jewelry, it will be 6 month-ish, you'll know more about her taste. I'd have freaked out if my SO bought me some after only 3 months together.
your gift is amazing and thoughtful while jewelry is thoughtless and expensive. go with your gut if you really like this girl, if she's as sweet as you say I'm sure shell love it and shell love that you show you listen to her. plus 3 months in? you've got plenty of time for jewelry gifts, valentine's is just around the corner 🙂
Was likely faked tho. Finding daughter, just happens to be in foster, so adopting. Hospital gives them settlement payout in less than a month regarding a years old incident. All while verifying dna and searching fosters. They already bought house hours away with money same month to start fresh. Husband manages to chime in on socials for his side
As someone who was not favoured by one parent, please consider leaving him. You have no idea the pain and trauma it’s caused knowing my own mother wanted nothing to do with me for weeks on end but loved my sister endlessly
I don't even have to waste my time reading all of this. You are an asshole and have asshole friends. You don't deserve anyone as a girlfriend. You don't have your own thoughts, opinions. You cannot even see how wrong it's to make plans with your GF for NYE, but in that plan she has to leave at 9 so you and your friends can do drugs. Like WTF? You have all year to do drugs! I don't even understand she agreed to such a stupid plan, I would have gone to a party and told you to go fuck yourself. On top of that you broke up because your friends told you to? LOL And they also told you to block her? These friends don't care about you, they are just saying shit and seeing if you ruin your life because they said so.
My eyes went WIDE reading 20k for all that…for a house ALONE, ANYWHERE in the country, that would be utterly fucking insane, in the best way. I can’t imagine a serious house that isn’t six digits in price in this day.
Then you pointed out that OP didn’t even have to pay rent for years and…yeah. I know we’re not even in that sub right now but YTA OP.
Not remembering because you got drunk doesn't equate to rape. She has this fetish and more than likely is completely into it while under the influence, probably even orchestrating it.
The other commentor has the right idea. Stop drinking if the outcome is scaring you. Have a conversation about this with your husband. Explain that you are out of control and scared for the things that happen when you drink. You'd like him to not act on these things because you can't control/remember. If he tries to force you, then you have a problem.
Your girlfriend just wants to spend time with you. That's very understandable in a relationship. You spend time together and do fun things together. Make new experiences. Her love language might even be quality time (or it's at least important to her). If you don't spend time with her, she thinks you don't care about her.
Now, it's understandable that you don't have the time. You're a very busy person. But you can't be in a relationship if you don't have that time. So you either have to give up other things, or end the relationship. It sucks, but that's how it works.
If you move further away, you will have even less time. So ofcourse she's against that.
I do feel I can trust her to an extent it’s just the way things started and all that I know about her past is what makes me worry and I’m already an anxious person
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HEYY,i really wanted to thank you for being here for me when no one was,today I've completed 6 months with him and turned out she lied ab sm stuff and tried to make up apart,anyway,so rn,he's with me, we've gone ghosted with each other from everyone, we're each ithers' only friend,we are connected whole day,we watch Netflix tgt,we sleep tgt,study together,go to institute together and everything,thankssss
To be extremely blunt: You’re living like a teenager, whereas your gf lives like an adult. If you move in with her, she’d have to be your mommy and she knows that. Stop being a bum and take some initiative in your destiny
Makes perfect sense and I appreciate the input. I am just looking to bang at the moment actually. I'm great with being single. He agreed with me when we initially talked about all this and agreed for just a sexual arrangement.
There's a couple reasons for it; his religion prohibits conversion and he'd lose his family if he did. He is more family oriented as opposed to me. Also I do not actively practice my religion as much.
You keep mentioning one ex, have you just fucked one person? she might be more understanding if she realized you didn’t really know what you were doing.
Don't argue with people like that bud, just save your brain cells and scroll through
He’s just being honest. Don’t call him a asshole, just move on.
Could not have said it better myself!
!RemindMe 1 day
Nope. I know happily married women who never thought they were going to marry this guy who was there friend.
Things are going to end again, unfortunately.
I am completely misunderstanding this timeline. Try to figure out how you’re placed as the father. If you had a vasectomy in January, a baby would not be born until October or November. It’s not possible for you to have a vasectomy in January if her to have a baby in July. It also should not be possible for you to have a vasectomy in January, her to get pregnant in July, if her to have already had the baby. Unless I misunderstanding the timeline, I don’t see you as the father. Number one is take a paternity test. The average pregnancy is 40 weeks or 10 months. It would’ve also been free to do it if you had done it in the hospital.
Guilt is good. You have a lot to feel guilty about. I carry some guilt. I still think about it often. It helps you to be a better person. Go forward. Be a better human. Try to forgive yourself.
Wait till valentine's day if you want to buy some jewelry, it will be 6 month-ish, you'll know more about her taste. I'd have freaked out if my SO bought me some after only 3 months together.
your gift is amazing and thoughtful while jewelry is thoughtless and expensive. go with your gut if you really like this girl, if she's as sweet as you say I'm sure shell love it and shell love that you show you listen to her. plus 3 months in? you've got plenty of time for jewelry gifts, valentine's is just around the corner 🙂
That's not a bad idea maybe I'll post there too
Was likely faked tho. Finding daughter, just happens to be in foster, so adopting. Hospital gives them settlement payout in less than a month regarding a years old incident. All while verifying dna and searching fosters. They already bought house hours away with money same month to start fresh. Husband manages to chime in on socials for his side
As someone who was not favoured by one parent, please consider leaving him. You have no idea the pain and trauma it’s caused knowing my own mother wanted nothing to do with me for weeks on end but loved my sister endlessly
Obviously a genetic test. Paternity. And then divorce and custody, if it were me.
You’ve been dating for 8 months and you haven’t met irl yet?
This person is not what you are looking for. Do yourself and them a favor and gently break up with them.
I don't even have to waste my time reading all of this. You are an asshole and have asshole friends. You don't deserve anyone as a girlfriend. You don't have your own thoughts, opinions. You cannot even see how wrong it's to make plans with your GF for NYE, but in that plan she has to leave at 9 so you and your friends can do drugs. Like WTF? You have all year to do drugs! I don't even understand she agreed to such a stupid plan, I would have gone to a party and told you to go fuck yourself. On top of that you broke up because your friends told you to? LOL And they also told you to block her? These friends don't care about you, they are just saying shit and seeing if you ruin your life because they said so.
You are pathetic.
My eyes went WIDE reading 20k for all that…for a house ALONE, ANYWHERE in the country, that would be utterly fucking insane, in the best way. I can’t imagine a serious house that isn’t six digits in price in this day.
Then you pointed out that OP didn’t even have to pay rent for years and…yeah. I know we’re not even in that sub right now but YTA OP.
She knows dude. She knows.
Seems a bit early to be engaged no?
Not remembering because you got drunk doesn't equate to rape. She has this fetish and more than likely is completely into it while under the influence, probably even orchestrating it.
The other commentor has the right idea. Stop drinking if the outcome is scaring you. Have a conversation about this with your husband. Explain that you are out of control and scared for the things that happen when you drink. You'd like him to not act on these things because you can't control/remember. If he tries to force you, then you have a problem.
Your girlfriend just wants to spend time with you. That's very understandable in a relationship. You spend time together and do fun things together. Make new experiences. Her love language might even be quality time (or it's at least important to her). If you don't spend time with her, she thinks you don't care about her.
Now, it's understandable that you don't have the time. You're a very busy person. But you can't be in a relationship if you don't have that time. So you either have to give up other things, or end the relationship. It sucks, but that's how it works.
If you move further away, you will have even less time. So ofcourse she's against that.
Would I be a complete idiot if I gave it to her?
Yes.
That is all.
The grass is always greener. It’s easy to be attracted to an idea, rather than a person.
Why are you still a SAHM?? Your youngest is 17. Get a job or volunteer or something. You’re just bored.
Yep. Another way I’ve heard the same thing expressed is “you lose them how you got them”
The wanting to work with kids thing is sus
He pursued, asked me out. He moved. It turned casual.
I just know he’s been playing me this entire time
I won’t say that to him.
But.. I think I went too far
I do feel I can trust her to an extent it’s just the way things started and all that I know about her past is what makes me worry and I’m already an anxious person
I think you would have noticed severe allergies and asthma far sooner than now.
Despite his behaviors being clear signs of coke use, his actions after the callout are clearly the classic liars defense.
Run, it’s not going to get better.
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HEYY,i really wanted to thank you for being here for me when no one was,today I've completed 6 months with him and turned out she lied ab sm stuff and tried to make up apart,anyway,so rn,he's with me, we've gone ghosted with each other from everyone, we're each ithers' only friend,we are connected whole day,we watch Netflix tgt,we sleep tgt,study together,go to institute together and everything,thankssss
I don’t want to divorce him
Genuine question given what you've written here: why not?
I was going to tell you. But I'm way too embarrassed. So I'll only give three key words/phrases:
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To be extremely blunt: You’re living like a teenager, whereas your gf lives like an adult. If you move in with her, she’d have to be your mommy and she knows that. Stop being a bum and take some initiative in your destiny
Makes perfect sense and I appreciate the input. I am just looking to bang at the moment actually. I'm great with being single. He agreed with me when we initially talked about all this and agreed for just a sexual arrangement.
Wow. Thank you ?
Thought a restaurant was public.
He's having them around her frequently enough to start causing caregiver burnout.
I know. Prob would handle better if they didnt live together.
There's a couple reasons for it; his religion prohibits conversion and he'd lose his family if he did. He is more family oriented as opposed to me. Also I do not actively practice my religion as much.
You keep mentioning one ex, have you just fucked one person? she might be more understanding if she realized you didn’t really know what you were doing.