You probably have a low sex drive because you are married to a selfish asshole. If you get rid of his cheating ass and concentrate on YOU and your kids you will probably be a lot happier!!
Hey, if you don't feel like answering this, it's fine. I'm just curious. I saw a post on your profile about taking a wounded cat home. As a diagnosed sociopath, why did you do that? Because you don't feel empathy right?
You need to make a decision. If you decide your boyfriend is the one, you cut contact with the other guy, lust over him from the distance for a little while and work on your relationship with your boyfriend. On you decide against your boyfriend and break up with him. Then you can go for the other guy get some excitement, but likely will end up single down the road. You shouldn't let your attraction to the other guy make the decision for you. Instead ask yourself: If there was no other guy, would breaking up with my boyfriend even cross my mind?
I agree. I’ve been trying to get counseling with him forever. He’s always refused to go. As far as harming myself, I can say I am past that. For the first month he was gone I was really really low and overwhelmed. I couldn’t handle the amount of things put on my shoulders. Thankfully, I am past that.
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Exactly, so she tells her husband she had feelings for another man, I don't see the point of such a harmful statement when she could have just removed herself from the situation without disturbing his peace and trusts.
Honestly I’d rethink this relationship. If he thinks pedophila shouldn’t be prosecuted and isn’t so bad, let’s just try to prevent it…..that’s a major issue. I’d be terrified to leave my kiddos with the grand parents in case the uncle just drops by to visit. I’d be too scared to trust anyone in that family. They are all fucked up for letting this happen. If he thinks his kids getting molested isn’t so bad, that’s just… I can’t.
You're 26! Calm down, you're still incredibly young and when all your currently getting engaged/ married friends are juggling families, careers and divorces in two or three years time you will STILL be young.
Setting yourself age goals puts yourself under way too much pressure if you’re already feeling like this. Life doesn’t suddenly change at 30, things happen when they happen, and you often find that partners and opportunities come along when you least expect it. Just try to enjoy life for what it is now and the rest will come later.
Lots of people aren’t having kids until mid-late 30s these days anyway. I’m 30 and kids aren’t even on my radar right now. Plus, 4 years is plenty of time even if you are set on getting it done before then. Just don’t feel like you have to rush yourself, enjoy your life as an independent person while you can.
No you need to just stop. You need healthy boundaries. He's not who he seemed to be you can't just be giving imposters the benefit of the doubt. This is a time in life to grow in wisdom. And I'm sorry to say it seems that my generation was not able to keep yours from continuing to perpetuate cycles of misogyny. You need to be careful when you operate in a world that is filled with people who are blindly unaware of how they on-line with a double standard based on some nonsense gender lottery.
You need to look out for yourself and you need to take care of yourself.
Doing this would literally show that OP could be potentially capable of “baby trapping” because it is a wildly unhinged thing to do. Why would you one up an absurd claim by making extreme public posts omg
The baby trap is possible. Idk why the rule of three always seems to help sort things out, but here goes:
She’s already pregnant and she needs to “assign” an identity to the eventual father on the birth certificate.
She’s in a relationship and she wants a baby, but for some reason, conception has not occurred. Finding a pinch hitter is one of the oldest solutions out there.
She wants a baby and then wants you to get lost, or she wants a baby and then she will probably want you in the picture.
In both 2 and 3, finding a healthy younger man as a sperm donor is a quicker and less expensive method of conception.
That doesn’t mean that this is what’s going on, and I’m not judging anyone at all. If I’m not in their shoes, with their expectations and/or past experiences, I don’t dare do such a thing
He always says “I'm busy, I was doing something” and then later that same day when we're talking about his day he'll say “I didn't do much today, just some cleaning”
Not being ridiculous at all, like you said if the shoe was on the other foot, he’d be pissed. He needs to send her a text in front of you saying that on reflection it was inappropriate of him to exchange numbers and that he’d be deleting her number from now on, then he should block her.
It probably wasn’t anything malicious or had any intent on his part, but an attractive woman paying him attention would have been such an ego boost to him.
This happened to me too. I still feel so stupid about it many years later. I was 19 and he was 17, (he had told me he was 18) thank god I lived where the age of consent was 17 but it could have been a very bad situation. Like, life ruining.
For me the lie is more than enough to end the relationship, but if you’re going to continue seeing her pls verify she is actually of age.
Waiting for OP's messages to blow up from the catdaddies of reddit
You probably have a low sex drive because you are married to a selfish asshole. If you get rid of his cheating ass and concentrate on YOU and your kids you will probably be a lot happier!!
Hey, if you don't feel like answering this, it's fine. I'm just curious. I saw a post on your profile about taking a wounded cat home. As a diagnosed sociopath, why did you do that? Because you don't feel empathy right?
You need to make a decision. If you decide your boyfriend is the one, you cut contact with the other guy, lust over him from the distance for a little while and work on your relationship with your boyfriend. On you decide against your boyfriend and break up with him. Then you can go for the other guy get some excitement, but likely will end up single down the road. You shouldn't let your attraction to the other guy make the decision for you. Instead ask yourself: If there was no other guy, would breaking up with my boyfriend even cross my mind?
I agree. I’ve been trying to get counseling with him forever. He’s always refused to go. As far as harming myself, I can say I am past that. For the first month he was gone I was really really low and overwhelmed. I couldn’t handle the amount of things put on my shoulders. Thankfully, I am past that.
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I think she means they get on like a dumpster on fire
Exactly, so she tells her husband she had feelings for another man, I don't see the point of such a harmful statement when she could have just removed herself from the situation without disturbing his peace and trusts.
i don’t know if i feel comfortable doing that, he can get very upset and may refuse to leave/threaten suicide (has done in past)
Honestly I’d rethink this relationship. If he thinks pedophila shouldn’t be prosecuted and isn’t so bad, let’s just try to prevent it…..that’s a major issue. I’d be terrified to leave my kiddos with the grand parents in case the uncle just drops by to visit. I’d be too scared to trust anyone in that family. They are all fucked up for letting this happen. If he thinks his kids getting molested isn’t so bad, that’s just… I can’t.
You're 26! Calm down, you're still incredibly young and when all your currently getting engaged/ married friends are juggling families, careers and divorces in two or three years time you will STILL be young.
Setting yourself age goals puts yourself under way too much pressure if you’re already feeling like this. Life doesn’t suddenly change at 30, things happen when they happen, and you often find that partners and opportunities come along when you least expect it. Just try to enjoy life for what it is now and the rest will come later.
Lots of people aren’t having kids until mid-late 30s these days anyway. I’m 30 and kids aren’t even on my radar right now. Plus, 4 years is plenty of time even if you are set on getting it done before then. Just don’t feel like you have to rush yourself, enjoy your life as an independent person while you can.
No you need to just stop. You need healthy boundaries. He's not who he seemed to be you can't just be giving imposters the benefit of the doubt. This is a time in life to grow in wisdom. And I'm sorry to say it seems that my generation was not able to keep yours from continuing to perpetuate cycles of misogyny. You need to be careful when you operate in a world that is filled with people who are blindly unaware of how they on-line with a double standard based on some nonsense gender lottery.
You need to look out for yourself and you need to take care of yourself.
Leace her and take the cat.
Doing this would literally show that OP could be potentially capable of “baby trapping” because it is a wildly unhinged thing to do. Why would you one up an absurd claim by making extreme public posts omg
I’m not saying that it’s a certainty, but:
The baby trap is possible. Idk why the rule of three always seems to help sort things out, but here goes:
She’s already pregnant and she needs to “assign” an identity to the eventual father on the birth certificate.
She’s in a relationship and she wants a baby, but for some reason, conception has not occurred. Finding a pinch hitter is one of the oldest solutions out there.
She wants a baby and then wants you to get lost, or she wants a baby and then she will probably want you in the picture.
In both 2 and 3, finding a healthy younger man as a sperm donor is a quicker and less expensive method of conception.
That doesn’t mean that this is what’s going on, and I’m not judging anyone at all. If I’m not in their shoes, with their expectations and/or past experiences, I don’t dare do such a thing
Do you two joke around normally. It sounds like it was just a harmless joke.
He always says “I'm busy, I was doing something” and then later that same day when we're talking about his day he'll say “I didn't do much today, just some cleaning”
Not being ridiculous at all, like you said if the shoe was on the other foot, he’d be pissed. He needs to send her a text in front of you saying that on reflection it was inappropriate of him to exchange numbers and that he’d be deleting her number from now on, then he should block her.
It probably wasn’t anything malicious or had any intent on his part, but an attractive woman paying him attention would have been such an ego boost to him.
right, yeah emotions vs logic bro. love makes u do stupid things or whatever version of love this is
This happened to me too. I still feel so stupid about it many years later. I was 19 and he was 17, (he had told me he was 18) thank god I lived where the age of consent was 17 but it could have been a very bad situation. Like, life ruining.
For me the lie is more than enough to end the relationship, but if you’re going to continue seeing her pls verify she is actually of age.