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I don’t even have anything helpful to say about whether she’s trustworthy or should say something about staying in contact with her ex, I just want to add my useless comment that I think people who break up but still “share custody” of pets are some of the dumbest people alive.
Ultimatums rarely work out especially for the person that issued said ultimatum. He doesn't want to get married. You can't force him to marry you. And do you really want to spend your life with someone who is so half-hearted that you have to practically beg him to propose? Idk but it sounds like this relationship has run its course
This is a really manipulative answer. “We share two houses” but one is hers and I smoked in it and one is mine and I don’t smoke in it.
Before when you dated, he thought he was lucky to be dating you.
NOW he feels like he owns you! You're his girl, his property, his arm-candy.
There was one specific dress that I loved and he told me it's a no and I started crying. We almost broke up over this one dress until he asked me what I care more about, him or the dress.
This is not a choice between him and a dress! This is a choice between him and your own autonomy as an adult! He does NOT get to make choices for you (much less issues edicts that you must obey).
Tell him this relationship doesn't work for you anymore. Tell him you're looking for a man who can be a full-time partner who supports you and your dreams, not a daddy (tell him you've already got/had one!)
Tell him he needs to find a girl who's willing to be obedient, and that's not you! Then DUMP HIM and BLOCK HIM everywhere. He's shite!
So what you do is plan something and say “we're going you can't say no or back out if it. If you do we need to have a serious conversation about the future of our relationship”.
Basically he is asking for permission to bang your wife with your permission. The fact that your wife didn't totally dismiss the idea and cut contacts with him tells a lot!
If you didn't know it is not your fault. However if you ever try to see him again it is. Cheating destroys people, frankly his spouse needs to know. His kid? Cheating would destroy his family, his wife who I would almost guarantee does not know or found out. People commit suicide over cheating. Most can't eat, sleep or function for years. Some never trust or love again. Do not contact him again and be part of something so despicable.
I am sorry this happened, grieve and move… I would tell his wife though only because she deserves to know, and he will cheat again.
Yes I am just paranoid. I think the way i seen my parents relationship I feel like if I was to control it I’d be able to avoid that. But I also should consider that it takes two in relationships and not all relationships are the same. I appreciate your guidance I apologized to him and told him that if he chooses to leave the relationship it’s okay I understand but he said he wants to stay together! I just need to work on myself properly, maybe therapy will help! Thank you again!
Yes I am just paranoid. I think the way i seen my parents relationship I feel like if I was to control it I’d be able to avoid that. But I also should consider that it takes two in relationships and not all relationships are the same. I appreciate your guidance I apologized to him and told him that if he chooses to leave the relationship it’s okay I understand but he said he wants to stay together! I just need to work on myself properly, maybe therapy will help! Thank you again!
Great point, do not put that responsibility on them.
Great point, do not put that responsibility on them.
If you didn't know it is not your fault. However if you ever try to see him again it is. Cheating destroys people, frankly his spouse needs to know. His kid? Cheating would destroy his family, his wife who I would almost guarantee does not know or found out. People commit suicide over cheating. Most can't eat, sleep or function for years. Some never trust or love again. Do not contact him again and be part of something so despicable.
I am sorry this happened, grieve and move… I would tell his wife though only because she deserves to know, and he will cheat again.
You weren’t expressing a concern. You were complaining in a weirdly comparative manner. I get him being annoyed about that, but that still doesn’t validate him calling you names.
But to answer your question — he does this because you allow him to. You stay with him after he does it.
So yeah, you should break up.
You deserve so much better than that. Someone who says you look great, sexy, beautiful, very hot, whatever it is. I’ve been in that relationship, it’s awful and it took way to long for me to figure it out. There is someone out there that will tell you all of those things and mean it, I found it and it’s amazing. Gained 15lbs and I’m still all those things according to him lol.
Be kind to yourself and loose the 180lb man child, you won’t regret it.
Lol to be more clear it’s not like the carpet is a crime scene. It’s probably pretty clean to most peoples standards. I just cringe to think what gross stuff from the city sidewalks is tracked up in my house.
Thank you for the advice!
Your boyfriend sucks. Dump him, you’ll find someone who will not only enjoy but celebrate and encourage you loving your body!
I made a new friend and in recounting my relationship history to her, I completely forgot about a 7 year relationship I was in lol.
When the dude doesn't matter, you forget. Get over it.
You're more alone with an abusive man than you would be if you're single and able to date.
You lost me after the first paragraph. Why are you still with him? Of course he still has a thing for her. And it's not going away.
I'm genuinely surprised at how many people are saying OP is in the right here. He's not moving the “goalpost” because OP's goalpost has and continues to be unreasonable. People who have slept together, especially as far back as what OP indicates, that far in the past can and if they see their relationship as platonic then that's what it is, platonic.
That said if OP can't deal, bounce, they were friends before you and they'll be friends after you. I say that to say this, OP's unwarranted jealousy is a her problem. He tried to placate you, they couldn't because asking to cut out a friend, especially one that has been a friend years, is unreasonable and should never have been asked of their partner.
The word “boundary” isn't a master key to get people to bend to your will and it's getting exhausting how many people treat it as such.
They're friends, they had sex literally years ago, if OP can't get their head around that then by all means break up. For whatever reason OP sees the situation as a issue, or because buzz words are in vogue, a “red flag”, even though their partner went through the motions of bending to her will. After seeing that he tried OP came away with the thought that their partner is the issue when they're not.
This is OP's issue.
Yes. I spent almost ten years of my life ping ponging back and forth with a terrible person, and had no context to know that it was a poor choice. However, I had to be the one to take stock of why things continually spiraled out, reflect on why was I continually miserable and what changes could I make to feel better, accept that I had no control over the other person because and a lot more control over my choices and my participation, and finally broke the cycle by admitting that nothing good came of our interaction – I never blamed him, as it was apparent he triggered something in me that replicated the dynamic I had with an abusive parent. At the end of the day, it was on ME for continually putting myself in the line of fire, over and over, as if history wasn't a glaring red flag. I take full responsibility for my choices and actively work to not repeat them.
However. A toxic relationship does not excuse someone for being helpless when it comes to managing their own emotions and mental health – that mindset indicates a fundamental lack of maturity for a serious romantic relationship and a need to actively self-reflect and pump the brakes considerably while getting to know someone.
If someone is in the early stages of dating or in a situationship, and they “cheat” or actually cheat, or whatever, and the other person decide to stick around even though it is profoundly stress inducing (which we are all just presuming based on OP's history) that's on them for putting themselves into a situation that is not even fully formed and already disastrous. And if they can't make good choices in the early stages of dating someone in terms of discerning healthy partners or knowing their tolerance for certain things / boundaries, that's on them to get help for without everyone making excuses and unilaterally villainizing the other person.
Ask him to explain and provide proof of what you supposedly did. Ask your friends if he has shown them any proof either. At this point it's he said vs he said. And he's the one who had the burden of proof.
We all mess up. It's not possible to be a perfect parent. You're doing the best you can right now and you're really taking care of her in a great way. Glad you're able to help her and simultaneously work on yourself and your bond with your daughter. Might i ask what kind of attorney you retained to help you with this?
Yea definitely that text wasn't for you.
Stay out of it.
There's no chances of them finding out, trust me on that. But he might cheat again with another person, and the wife will eventually find out. There's a chance my BF will forgive me even if he knows, like he did the last time. I don't think he will leave me.
His old personality was just pretend because he needed something to make up for his looks (in his eyes). Now that he’s conventionally attractive he thinks he can afford to be honest. So unless his body goes back to how it was before, his mind won’t either.
Consider dumping her and finding someone who lives near you. Dating is a series of job interviews for your life partner, and it sounds like she's bombing it.. so just tell her it's over.
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So on Thursday I took my stuff and left my gf and her kids house and moved back to my place. My best friend told me she was psycho/dangerous and to please just find anyone else. Since then she’s been begging me to come back and I feel guilty for leaving her but I’ve told her it’s better off we aren’t together anymore. I’ve broken up with her multiple times and she’s the only gf I’ve had that I break up and she makes me feel bad so I come back. She just promises so much for our future and is so supportive of me but since I’ve been with her I ended up isolated from everyone else. I crave a home life, wife kids etc and she offered that to me. But people have told me she’s lovebombed me and her track record is 2 kids, 2 different fathers and I’ll probably just be the 3rd. I have no kids of my own (1 miscarriage) 100k a year and have my own place with no debt. I got with her because we started working out at the gym together and I was lonely. She has tried to convince me that I love her and we would be perfect together and idk what to do. When I’m with her I feel like she’s got my back but I don’t trust myself in a long term relationship with her. I just feel like with her specifically, if it gets bad, I’ll dip out. She keeps telling me that she knows eventually I’ll stop dipping out. I’ve never done that to any of my other ex’s. I just am curious if anyone else has been in a situation like this and what to do. Every day she makes me feel guilty I’m “not at home” with her and her kids and it does bother me because I didn’t hate that life. But I feel like I will keep leaving her so I’d rather just end it – but she keeps pulling me back in.
There are certain antidepressants that don't have as much an effect on the libido as SSRI's do. Venlafaxine (SNRI) has worked for me in the past, but there is also Wellbutrin. If your wife wants to discuss a change with her doctor, she should.
I really don’t want my family or friends knowing this is happening. I’m so ashamed of myself
Well welcome the working world. Almost all of us have some people like this. You need to record her tantrums and tell whoever is in charge. There has to be someone in charge somewhere.
I just heard a comedy skit about how moms do so much shit for everyone in the family that they could never have secret families. ?