Nope, that was on him, he made that poor judgment call. You didn’t have an obligation to say anything. If there was any real speculation that you were cheating, he probably would have done a better job of figuring it out, which at that point he’d definitely find out the dude is gay and he was wrong. He made a rash decision without any conversation and jumped to conclusions. Not worth the hassle imo
Just message him back and ask him. I think Christmas is somebody's birthday, and maybe it reminded him that he had forgotten to wish you a happy birthday when he should have several months before.
It sounds a lot like your Mom gets anxious and then has to attack you to have a solution for her anxiety. It’s not you, it’s her. There’s nothing you can do except boundaries and changing your reaction to the circumstances. Your parents have serious issues and are being very unfair to you. They’re set in this pattern unless they suddenly wake up (extremely uncommon) or until they get really shook up some how which is exceptionally hot for someone to do.
Please read a book on toxic relatives and establish good and appropriate boundaries and guidelines for when and how to walk away when they do this.
He’s going to find out eventually. Better to tell him now rather than have him find out from someone else. Because if that happens he’ll break up with you for lying to him. And if breaks up with you for not being a virgin then it only shows he cared more about your virginity than you as a person.
Two different situations would lead me to differing interpretations.
I'll say something, on a topic I'm more knowledgeable about, get ignored. Then deal with all the huffing and puffing while he gets frustrated trying to work it out… just for him to google it and see I was right. ??
I'm not smarter than the guy, by a long shot. But this specific topic I knew more about and got completely pushed aside. ? I don't care about not being “treated like an authority” I care about the fact he worked himself into a bad mood, just to not try what I suggested.
In that case, yeah, might have some “authority issues”. Sometimes other people know a bit more and giving their suggestion a go won't kill you.
Another situation could be someone that just thinks they're an “””authority””” for no reason. That's totally different, because they're just saying they're superior to you. ? Which is sooooo narcissistic.
Up to you to figure out if it's the first one or the second one in this case. ??♀️
maybe she also has PMS. Say sorry and buy her a box of new cookies.
but watch out if there would be more of this type of behavior, cause it would be difficult to live! with Long-term
You've got this!
Nope, that was on him, he made that poor judgment call. You didn’t have an obligation to say anything. If there was any real speculation that you were cheating, he probably would have done a better job of figuring it out, which at that point he’d definitely find out the dude is gay and he was wrong. He made a rash decision without any conversation and jumped to conclusions. Not worth the hassle imo
Just message him back and ask him. I think Christmas is somebody's birthday, and maybe it reminded him that he had forgotten to wish you a happy birthday when he should have several months before.
It sounds a lot like your Mom gets anxious and then has to attack you to have a solution for her anxiety. It’s not you, it’s her. There’s nothing you can do except boundaries and changing your reaction to the circumstances. Your parents have serious issues and are being very unfair to you. They’re set in this pattern unless they suddenly wake up (extremely uncommon) or until they get really shook up some how which is exceptionally hot for someone to do.
Please read a book on toxic relatives and establish good and appropriate boundaries and guidelines for when and how to walk away when they do this.
Yep I know surgeons bringing in close to a million and they pretty much on-line paycheck to paycheck. I’d be more concerned with her spending habits
He’s going to find out eventually. Better to tell him now rather than have him find out from someone else. Because if that happens he’ll break up with you for lying to him. And if breaks up with you for not being a virgin then it only shows he cared more about your virginity than you as a person.
I don’t at the moment. I just don’t appreciate behavior like that even if I’m not planning on dating.
How long does he typically play video games for? And how often does he work?
Two different situations would lead me to differing interpretations.
I'll say something, on a topic I'm more knowledgeable about, get ignored. Then deal with all the huffing and puffing while he gets frustrated trying to work it out… just for him to google it and see I was right. ??
I'm not smarter than the guy, by a long shot. But this specific topic I knew more about and got completely pushed aside. ? I don't care about not being “treated like an authority” I care about the fact he worked himself into a bad mood, just to not try what I suggested.
In that case, yeah, might have some “authority issues”. Sometimes other people know a bit more and giving their suggestion a go won't kill you.
Another situation could be someone that just thinks they're an “””authority””” for no reason. That's totally different, because they're just saying they're superior to you. ? Which is sooooo narcissistic.
Up to you to figure out if it's the first one or the second one in this case. ??♀️