If you never ask him why he’s doing it, you’ll never know what his motives are! I’d frame it in a non-accusatory way and focus on why he’s reacting to your requests this way rather than how his actions are making you feel like a bad partner, at least at first. If he’s doing it on purpose to make you feel bad, that’s obviously on him, but if he’s not then he isn’t responsible for making you feel bad when you’ve never brought up this issue. If he’s a good partner in other ways and you two can usually talk things out calmly, no reason not to give him the benefit of the doubt imo.
Pull your phone records. See where the majority of his texts/calls are going.
If you never ask him why he’s doing it, you’ll never know what his motives are! I’d frame it in a non-accusatory way and focus on why he’s reacting to your requests this way rather than how his actions are making you feel like a bad partner, at least at first. If he’s doing it on purpose to make you feel bad, that’s obviously on him, but if he’s not then he isn’t responsible for making you feel bad when you’ve never brought up this issue. If he’s a good partner in other ways and you two can usually talk things out calmly, no reason not to give him the benefit of the doubt imo.