And he's got you thinking he's “depressed and anxious so I never wanted to be too very hot on him.” This is all manipulation. Please end things now, you already have more than enough reasons. Continuing will only see your relationship getting worse and worse, until you can't even remember what a healthy boundary looked like… he won't get better if you stay, and if you stay, his abuse will expand beyond the (already intolerable level of) verbal kind.
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And he's got you thinking he's “depressed and anxious so I never wanted to be too very hot on him.” This is all manipulation. Please end things now, you already have more than enough reasons. Continuing will only see your relationship getting worse and worse, until you can't even remember what a healthy boundary looked like… he won't get better if you stay, and if you stay, his abuse will expand beyond the (already intolerable level of) verbal kind.