I’ve know many situations now where women have lied about SA. I’m not saying it happens a lot, but it does happen. I personally hate the “listen to the individual” mindset. You need evidence and proof in situations like this. You can’t just say “they raped me” and have absolutely no proof for it. Yes, she could be very traumatized but this is a very serious situation that needs to be dealt with. If the man doesn’t suffer consequences then he may continue this behavior. Or, if she is lying, then rumors could spread and that man could look like a rapist when he is actually innocent. It could ruin his life.
I made a mistake with not telling anyone and not reporting the crime. Many other women have and now rapists are living their lives guilt and consequence free. If anything, knowing that has brought me more trauma then anything.
Get a rape kit, report the crime, and then get therapy and self-care. You cannot just say something and expect everyone to believe you with 0 evidence or proof. That’s not how law works and not how the world works.
Your girlfriend does not want to be in a monogamous relationship with you right now. If she did, she wouldn't be “cuddling” with other guys.
Your girlfriend is intentionally deceiving you about her interactions with other guys.
Do you need a billboard? A skywriter? She only wants to get married because it will be harder for you to end the relationship when she “officially” gets caught cheating.
Ok yeah that makes sense. So maybe next time he goes out for a boys night stay on him about communicating with his friends to see what kind of night it's gonna be
I’m offended my boyfriend was responsible and didn’t want to risk knocking me up. You aren’t mature enough to be having sex.
I’ve know many situations now where women have lied about SA. I’m not saying it happens a lot, but it does happen. I personally hate the “listen to the individual” mindset. You need evidence and proof in situations like this. You can’t just say “they raped me” and have absolutely no proof for it. Yes, she could be very traumatized but this is a very serious situation that needs to be dealt with. If the man doesn’t suffer consequences then he may continue this behavior. Or, if she is lying, then rumors could spread and that man could look like a rapist when he is actually innocent. It could ruin his life.
I made a mistake with not telling anyone and not reporting the crime. Many other women have and now rapists are living their lives guilt and consequence free. If anything, knowing that has brought me more trauma then anything.
Get a rape kit, report the crime, and then get therapy and self-care. You cannot just say something and expect everyone to believe you with 0 evidence or proof. That’s not how law works and not how the world works.
That's okay, just wanted to inform you because OP might miss reading your insight if it was directed to me it would go to my alerts rather than hers.
Your girlfriend does not want to be in a monogamous relationship with you right now. If she did, she wouldn't be “cuddling” with other guys.
Your girlfriend is intentionally deceiving you about her interactions with other guys.
Do you need a billboard? A skywriter? She only wants to get married because it will be harder for you to end the relationship when she “officially” gets caught cheating.
Dump and leave.
Ok yeah that makes sense. So maybe next time he goes out for a boys night stay on him about communicating with his friends to see what kind of night it's gonna be