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When we were dating (over two years) we didn’t have issues to this degree.
Two years might seem like a lot for a 21 year old who barely started living life as an adult, but in reality two years isn't much. I think you'll realize how little two years is when you grow older and how people can't be judged based off only two years. I would be surprised if they become completely different when you have been with them for 10 years, but two years is nothing. People can behave unnaturally to maintain the status quo for a few years, but marriage or when you've been together long enough, people start to lower their guard and act like their usual selves. You haven't been together long enough to really see who she is and you overestimate the value of two years. They say you should marry someone when you truly know them and like their authentic sides, but it sounds like that isnt what happened. You should end it if things are clearly not working, but there is no point in making a mistake and not learning anything from it just to repeat the same mistake.
Nah still gross. Plus I ain’t sayin she’s a gold digga
My friend, google “stonewalling.” My therapist told me about it because my partner sometimes does this, too. It is extremely toxic and dehumanizing, even if they don’t consciously intend for it to be, it is. And it’s known as one of the “four horsemen of the apocalypse” for relationships because of just how toxic and damaging it is.
I would not stand for it. Period. Thankfully, my partner only does this very occasionally and is trying to work on never doing it at all. He’s aware it’s a problem and I’ve told him point blank we will not last if it continues. You should do the same. And set an internal timeline for yourself, whether it’s 3 months or 3 years, for when you will leave if there hasn’t been meaningful, lasting improvement. Because you cannot live! the rest of your life like this, and your child should not grow up in a household where this kind of toxic behavior is tacitly considered acceptable or normal. Your son is watching and learning more than you even realize. No matter how great your husband is otherwise, this borders on emotional abuse. It is and should be a dealbreaker.
And do not listen to his BS justifications — “I ignore you because if I don’t, I’m afraid I’ll say something horrible” — really? So you, a 42 year old man, still haven’t learned basic communication skills? You, a 42 year old man, don’t trust yourself not to verbally abuse your wife? If he can’t communicate with his own spouse openly and respectfully in moments of disagreement, he is a child who is not ready for a serious relationship. And both you and your kid deserve better.
I’ll tell you what I’m doing. In my case, I am giving my partner time and space to work on this issue, because he is perfect and sweet otherwise, but MORE IMPORTANTLY, he has demonstrated a real and sincere desire to fix this. So in the meantime, while he attends therapy and works on this issue, I’ve told him that if he stonewalls me again… I’ll be leaving for a few days. Not out of punishment. But rather for my own mental health. My therapist suggested that if my partner isn’t going to talk to me anyway, there is no sense in forcing myself to on-line in a painful and dehumanizing environment. That will only make the resentment grow. They suggested I get a hotel room for a few nights and use it as an opportunity to be selfish, engage in some self-care, draw a warm bubble bath, go to the spa, enjoy a quiet meal alone, watch a movie I’ve been wanting to see, lose myself in a new book, spend some quality time with relatives (your son), etc. Basically live as though I’m single (minus any cheating) for a while. This has the dual purpose of 1) getting yourself and your child out of a toxic/borderline emotionally abusive environment, and 2) teaching your partner that this behavior won’t be tolerated, and that you won’t just sit there and passively accept it any longer.
It’s empowering, and you should try it. So much of stonewalling is about control — it puts them in the driver’s seat of the argument, it forces you to beg and plead for basic communication, which completely (and often intentionally) distracts from the substance of the original disagreement, and gives him all the leverage in the relationship.
Take it back.