I think that even having the conversation is a big clue that she is, in fact, bi. Idk I'm a straight cis man so maybe I'm way off base there but I didn't have to kiss a woman to figure out that I'm attracted to them & I didn't have to kiss a man to figure out that I'm not attracted to them. Maybe someone that's actually bi would disagree with that & I'm open to learning if I'm wrong here but it seems like something you'd already know if you're questioning it.
That said, I personally wouldn't have a problem with my girlfriend kissing girl. I might start having a problem if it was getting in the way our relationship but I wouldn't feel jealousy in the same way that I would if I thought she was into another guy. Granted, it seems most people view it like “cheating is cheating regardless of genders” but I don't think I'd have the same internal struggle of comparing myself to the other guy & trying to figure out what they have that I don't.
If it were me, I'd tell her to go for it & then kind of reevaluate our relationship based on how that goes. It's either that or you go ahead and break up now because trying to stop her from doing it isn't going to go well.
I’m sorry you had to deal with it too. Thank you ?
I think that even having the conversation is a big clue that she is, in fact, bi. Idk I'm a straight cis man so maybe I'm way off base there but I didn't have to kiss a woman to figure out that I'm attracted to them & I didn't have to kiss a man to figure out that I'm not attracted to them. Maybe someone that's actually bi would disagree with that & I'm open to learning if I'm wrong here but it seems like something you'd already know if you're questioning it.
That said, I personally wouldn't have a problem with my girlfriend kissing girl. I might start having a problem if it was getting in the way our relationship but I wouldn't feel jealousy in the same way that I would if I thought she was into another guy. Granted, it seems most people view it like “cheating is cheating regardless of genders” but I don't think I'd have the same internal struggle of comparing myself to the other guy & trying to figure out what they have that I don't.
If it were me, I'd tell her to go for it & then kind of reevaluate our relationship based on how that goes. It's either that or you go ahead and break up now because trying to stop her from doing it isn't going to go well.