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I’ve also experienced sexual trauma, and to me this sounds like an unhealthy coping strategy. Promiscuity, hyper-sexuality, and putting oneself in dangerous situations are all ways that rape victims can cope. It sounds counter intuitive, but in my case was a combination of trying to own my body again, feeling dirty and like being “used/abused” was all I was good for (after all, why else would this happen to me?), and a twisted wish that maybe if I got unlucky enough I would just die, then I wouldn’t have to deal with what I was feeling. Not to say that’s for sure what is going on, but just some insight that may be helpful.
That being said, it also isn’t healthy for you to put yourself in a protector role. Rape is a very difficult thing to get through in a relationship, none of mine survived. All of those people loved me, but it hurt them too much for them to watch me hurt myself, even indirectly. I was pissed and felt abandoned at the time, but now I understand and don’t feel any ill will towards them, and am glad they recognized it was unhealthy when I couldn’t. This ain’t to say that you can’t stay with your partner, but just to be aware that this can easily get unhealthy for you, and you need to protect yourself and your own mental health.
Others have already pointed out the issues with her going out, and that her friends may not be the best if they are letting her get into these situations regularly and seem to be fine with it. What I would add, is that in short this could be a trauma response. Is your girlfriend in therapy? Has she talked to anyone about this? I would strongly suggest that. She may not want to, and if she has already tried she will likely say it didn’t work. It can take multiple therapists to find one that works, it took me about 4 years until I found the therapist that really helped me. I did EMDR, and found it really effective after having tried talk therapy, CBT, and few others. But everyone is different.
For you, I would also advise seeking out therapy. This may be traumatic for you as well, and it seems like you are already casting yourself in an unhealthy failed protector role. If you choose to stay with her, couples counseling may be helpful as this will likely strain your communication and lead to unhealthy habits in the relationship. Don’t feel guilty for protecting yourself and your own mental health if it comes to that, and in the meantime I recommend encouraging her to pursue therapy. If she is unwilling to do that, I would reconsider the relationship and at least set firm boundaries. You can’t control her, but you can tell her you aren’t comfortable with something. If she can adjust and respect that, great, if not, it’s time to go.
Best wishes for you during this time, I know this is difficult to go through for both of you.
thank you, that makes me feel less crazy