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Ahhh, okay. This is gonna sound harsh, dude, but trust me when I say this: you guys don't know what love is. You're kids. If you're in therapy right now, keep it up. Something reached a point where you needed to be there. You've got your whole life ahead of you. This isn't the rest of your life.
Stay focused on working on you. Everything else will fall into place as you get older.
How old are you both, and how long have you been together?
Regardless, ignoring the fact that you “saw messages” (which would indicate that you don't trust him, and seemingly rightfully so), your boyfriend sent an objectively inappropriate message.
Before I even get into my own anecdote, let's just focus on the situation here. Let's say you “discovered my boyfriend on a [straight women] reddit and saw messages he sent to one of the women asking if they'd give him jerk off instructions if he sent them a dick picture?” Would you be good with that?
Let's address two further things from there; your boyfriend needs instructions on how to jerk off? That's absurd. Second, why did he need to come in hard with a dick pic? Maybe he's just fucking stupid (yes) and/or a terrible negotiator. But why not start with just asking for jerk off instructions? Your boyfriend was throwing out dick pics off the bat. Did he send you dick pics often? I hope you say yes to that, because if not, that should confirm further all of this.
To move away from this, no one would suggest you're crazy to be shocked by the situation at hand. It's awful all around. But I think you're focusing far too much on the subcontext, which again we all understand.
So how do you move past it? You live! and learn? If you're honest with yourself, did you notice this long before this point?
yeah fr if she was interested she could just ask bf to watch b4 hand and skip those times
So, I decided not to say anything else to him I’m definitely an over thinker and I wonder if I went too far when I asked him if he knew when he was coming back for a visit.
I called you immature. A word you used to describe yourself in your own post. And I stand by it because that’s exactly what you’re being.
At the end of the day you have a person your age that you’re extremely close to who is having a baby. You’ve voiced the fact that you’d wanna be pregnant at the same time that’s the BAM. It makes the likelihood of pregnancy seem more real to him. It’s actually an extremely good thing to have multiple forms of birth control. But if you think it’s cause he’s cheating…the issues in your relationship have nothing to do with fertility.
If people can’t respect your time, then they won’t respect you
Ehh. Can you imagine having kids with him, living there, his mum will insist on doing ALL the childcare so you can go back to work.
Your boyfriend is telling you right now how it's going to be, listen to him, thank him for being upfront, and decide for yourself if it's worth it.
You are most likely right; the pastor is looking out for his own (and his family's) best interests. However, much of what the pastor is saying is pretty much Christian rhetoric – forgive, turn the other cheek, etc. If OP is a religious bloke (sounds like he is), perhaps seeking unbiased guidance from another religious figure would prove helpful. A pastor who does not have any skin in the game, or better yet, one from a different city who doesn't even know the families involved. Even someone who knows that “Jim” is a pastor's nephew may not be unbiased because of “loyalty to the clergy”, so it would be best for OP not to mention such details when seeking guidance.
I am not sure that this would give OP the comfort he needs (the message of forgiveness is likely to be the same), but perhaps hearing it from someone else may be what he is looking for.
A better option in my mind would be one that does not involve religion; get couples counselling from a registered therapist. They will help to guide you and your wife through your feelings and help you to put behind you what you can, deal with what you cant, and help you move on. Whether that is through divorce, or reconciliation, I feel that would be the best first step.
Good luck OP. I am sorry for what you are going through and I hope you find the comfort you desire and deserve.