Honestly, going through the ectopic was one of the most traumatic experiences I’ve ever had and I’ve had a lot of those lol as well as 6 other pregnancy losses. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.
7 years down the line and a lot of therapy later, I can recognise and understand that it absolutely wasn’t the right time. We were living in university halls, off a combination of student loans and part time minimum wage work, trying to complete our degrees (I dropped out later that year and returned in 2020), and 3+ hours away from our families that lived in opposite directions.
We wouldn’t have made that choice ourselves – I genuinely wasn’t strong enough myself to consider it as an option having already had a miscarriage at 19, even though somewhere in my mind I knew it was probably the best one to take – but it was taken out of our hands. We’re now 28 and 26, 7 years on, in established careers, 3 years into owning our own home, and he has his masters whilst I’m finishing up my bachelors (although it’ll probably be put off for a year as my dissertation is otherwise due around the same time I’m due to give birth!).
I was terrified it would break my relationship too, but we’re still here! You made the best and right decision for you and your relationship, and that’s all anyone can ask and hope for. I wish you and your boyfriend well and all the luck in the world in your futures ❤️
You got your money back yes? Run away and be thankful. Paying for her boob job is like paying for a meal another guy is going to eat….
Honestly, going through the ectopic was one of the most traumatic experiences I’ve ever had and I’ve had a lot of those lol as well as 6 other pregnancy losses. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.
7 years down the line and a lot of therapy later, I can recognise and understand that it absolutely wasn’t the right time. We were living in university halls, off a combination of student loans and part time minimum wage work, trying to complete our degrees (I dropped out later that year and returned in 2020), and 3+ hours away from our families that lived in opposite directions.
We wouldn’t have made that choice ourselves – I genuinely wasn’t strong enough myself to consider it as an option having already had a miscarriage at 19, even though somewhere in my mind I knew it was probably the best one to take – but it was taken out of our hands. We’re now 28 and 26, 7 years on, in established careers, 3 years into owning our own home, and he has his masters whilst I’m finishing up my bachelors (although it’ll probably be put off for a year as my dissertation is otherwise due around the same time I’m due to give birth!).
I was terrified it would break my relationship too, but we’re still here! You made the best and right decision for you and your relationship, and that’s all anyone can ask and hope for. I wish you and your boyfriend well and all the luck in the world in your futures ❤️