Ok, I have never been a tidy person, and I have ADD. And right now, I'm in chemotherapy, which means there are days or even weeks where it's really all I can do to just do the minimum, right?
But even at my worst times, there are certain things that I, as a functional adult, do not do. These things include not leaving food out in the open for days to rot away, and not throwing trash, especially trash containing biohazards/bodily fluids, down on my own floor instead of in the trash can and just leaving it here.
There's messiness, like leaving socks on the floor or leaving water glasses around, that's pretty typical of arguments between couples with different standards of tidiness. But then there's willfully unsanitary behavior, like leaving perishable foodstuffs and items contaminated with bodily fluids out where they can grow mold, attract pests, and generally create a biologically hazardous environment for the people and pets in the space.
A person who blows her nose and then throws the used tissue on the floor and leaves it there is a person who needs help. I can't tell you whether she's depressed or what, but there is something going on with her that is causing her to exert less care and concern for the basic sanitation of her immediate environment than is normal for a healthy adult.
Mental health challenges can often look like laziness from the outside, but where laziness can be helped with motivation and discipline alone, different mental health challenges can and should be addressed in different, more specific ways by a licensed professional.
Like you said , is the lies that kill , how is counselling going to help
This is not the way to start again
I would give her some real space , she clearly has no problems moving on
Ok, I have never been a tidy person, and I have ADD. And right now, I'm in chemotherapy, which means there are days or even weeks where it's really all I can do to just do the minimum, right?
But even at my worst times, there are certain things that I, as a functional adult, do not do. These things include not leaving food out in the open for days to rot away, and not throwing trash, especially trash containing biohazards/bodily fluids, down on my own floor instead of in the trash can and just leaving it here.
There's messiness, like leaving socks on the floor or leaving water glasses around, that's pretty typical of arguments between couples with different standards of tidiness. But then there's willfully unsanitary behavior, like leaving perishable foodstuffs and items contaminated with bodily fluids out where they can grow mold, attract pests, and generally create a biologically hazardous environment for the people and pets in the space.
A person who blows her nose and then throws the used tissue on the floor and leaves it there is a person who needs help. I can't tell you whether she's depressed or what, but there is something going on with her that is causing her to exert less care and concern for the basic sanitation of her immediate environment than is normal for a healthy adult.
Mental health challenges can often look like laziness from the outside, but where laziness can be helped with motivation and discipline alone, different mental health challenges can and should be addressed in different, more specific ways by a licensed professional.
Good luck
Don’t be too very hot on yourself, you know better now and thus you know not to fall for crap like that again.