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I don't think it'll ever feel like it's disappeared fully. But in super busy times you might have to actually focus on if for a moment to remind yourself, if you don't see her for a bit. But overall, you will always feel it. It will just feel different from how it does now. Less pressuring and more soothing.
That's my favorite type of humor ?
Nope. You were at best inappropriate. Delete. Block. Move on.
Pro Tip: Don’t put yourself in a position to be tempted. No ‘drinks with colleagues’ if you’re attracted to one. No texts or websites you would be embarrassed by if your partner found out. Being loyal isn’t always easy, but a clear conscience is priceless.
Drop the rope!
I had an ex do this to me too. I was so upset and hurt by his lack of care. He even canceled the date so I could “rest”. I didn't want rest, I wanted someone to hold my hand
Anyway.
I was never able to get over it. It was an absolute deal breaker for me.
Just need to ask yourself if you would treat him the same, and why is it acceptable that he isn't treating you how you want to be treated. Ignore the autism for a second, maybe he was really tired, but did he even see you the next day?
Yo Kay so I'm a trans man (29m) so 1) yes. I know transitioning is expensive. You seem like an extremely selfless person, and I can only imagine how appreciative your Gf is towards you for doing this for her. But uh, 2) she should be accepting that full time job. Working on personal development is great and all, but not if she's doing it on YOUR dime. It's very important you have a clear conversation with her and let your expectations known. You're your own person with your own life and goals too – and just like every other human out there, you would probably enjoy the opportunity for personal development. If that money is enough to make a difference in your life (aka, you're not filthy rich) then please do not feel guilty for communicating that you need a payment plan to begin. That's the least your Gf can do to show how much your support has meant to her through this journey. You work your ass off for money, never feel guilty for financially responsible concerns.
I had some friends that went thru the exact same thing. She cheated on him with another woman and used the excuse “it's not cheating because they're girls”. FUCK THAT! Their marriage ended up falling apart because this was the wedge she drove in the relationship. Bro, you deserve better. If she fucks her friend when she's “drunk” imagine what she will do if a really attractive guy wanted to do the same thing. Bullshit. Dump her ass cheating is cheating
I’d ask her. No shame in admitting a phobia and asking for moral support.
Some good points here. I do regret marrying so young (meaning myself and her) but it is what it is.
She’s never lived alone and doesn’t really know what it means to have expenses unfortunately so there’s that disconnect.
Truthfully, I don’t pay for much while she’s away at school. She’s takes care of herself in terms of misc. expenses but when home I pay for everything.
She does expect me to pay for everything because I’m the man which is partly the problem bc then comes the entitlement imo.
He physically cheats. Ex wife emotionally cheats.
And his ex was 18 when he was 24.
I feel bad for the ex who got used twice by this guy.
thanks for the advice. yeah we became exclusive back in Oct. but the 2nd visit was cancelled because she got sick. she has a pto day in jan id love to see her then
Most of what you described are not signs of an early pregnancy but since you have a positive urine test (even a faint line is considered a positive result) you should get a blood test asap.
She works.
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Sounds like a bunch of issues. He is probably addicted to porn. He also sounds like a straight up asshole.
If you’ve been together 12 years, why do you think he’s going to change? Have you not been trying to make things better over this time? I bet you have, and things have probably stayed the same or gotten worse. No reason to think anything will change.
I bet you could do better
You hang on for a little bit she is the mother of your child you can't just walk away from the jump. Give her some time to figure her shit out. It was her dog to do whatever she wanted with. As long as she doesnt get rid of his dog it's not really his problem.
But yes hormones can and do have such an influence on your personality and decision making. Its not every one but I have seen very calm and pleasant patients go batshit crazy on prednisone and I have seen mothers that didn't pick their kids up for months due to postpartum. So yeah some of it you have to laugh off like waking you up at 3 am to go get pizza flavored ice-cream.
She did a shitty thing and is going to have to deal with it once she is clear. At least she rehomed him somewhere where she can get him back when she realizes how much she messed up.
The guy she said not to worry about
The guy thats on stand by offering a shoulder to cry on
The guy she said were just good friends
The guy that never cared about ruining your relationship
” How do I fix this? For my ex and my colleague that had feelings for me in the first place”
Well you don't . Nothing will make this better. Make your peace and move on. Stop stringing along your ex. Not hating just being realistic.
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I’m not saying boys will be boys “though to be fair, boys will be boys, since they are boys”.
What OP does is up to her. As for my conversation with you, I’m merely suggesting considering empathy over whatever juice you’re getting from a sense of moral superiority.
Because the reality is, if you were this young man – literally, born of his parents on his birthdate with his exact dna and experiences, in the exact world/timeline he has experienced, you’d be doing and thinking the exact same things.
Perhaps because I have stated that our ENM is just about the sex for me. I've not developed feelings for anyone else. It's just this one guy who I have known for a long time and have been friends with.
I honestly am worried for your girlfriend over this. If a 12-year old can get a so-called adult this upset, I really don’t want to know how you treat your girlfriend..
I’m a pos I guess
This is the best advice. You don’t need a label, and certainly not if it’s going to cause you stress. On-line your life as you feel right, it sounds like you found someone really special.
Honey, why do you believe this is as good as it gets for you? Why are you accepting this as what you deserve?
A good therapist can help you get to the root of why you would stay in a relationship that doesn't meet your needs for 12 years!
Honey, he's not the one. You need to focus on loving yourself enough to demand better. You deserve a soft life full of love and a partner who contributes meaningfully to that, you are worthy you always have been.
It’s anonymous so you may as well tell us all the details….. there’s not going to be much useful advice without the rest of the story
I would imagine he will also be more dangerous if he were to know that she's actually pregnant. She definitely does not need to let him know that she's pregnant and that she's leaving. I'm definitely afraid that she would be harmed.
I'd also not date a guy who's actively friends with a woman who admitted feelings for him. Either he gets rid of her or we have to discuss some serious boundaries he has to set with that friend. More distance, a lot less texting, hanging out etc…
Nobody would like this scenario.
Sing the song “Everything you can do, I can do better” for added effect.
Sing the song “Everything you can do, I can do better” for added effect.
If she's lying to you about all these big events, like someone intimidating her in her own home, or threatening her life, what smaller things is she lying to you about?
I don't understand why you would still trust her, when she's making up stories for no real reason other than attention.
The only thing you can do is sit her down and tell her you know she's lying. Don't get overly emotional or angry, let her get mad if she wants, but calmy tell her what you found and that she's caught out. Go from there. She needs therapy and you really should encourage that. This isn't normal, nor is it healthy for either of you.
It's actually quite disturbing, and it's pure deception and manipulation.
Well since you reconnected I recommend to never open a relationship again do a quick research on this sub about open relationships and you will see how 99% of them end horribly
Ah, you're one of those people who think you're going to change others, huh? It's way easier to find someone who's cleaner by default
No, it isn’t cheating.
I’m glad you shared this & sorry you got downvoted. I think most people just don’t know you can fly domestically in the US without a license…. They still CAN deny you but also can approve you
Ummmm. Overreaction on her part. If you didn’t care who cares. It’s not like you’re going to get her number, and sleeping on a stranger is kinda embarrassing, not really romantic or whatever your girlfriend was worried about. A girl around our age fell asleep on my boyfriend’s shoulder last week on a flight. We laughed about it. He pulled the armrest up and crawled halfway into my seat. If he wasn’t bothered by her sleeping on him (he was), I wouldn’t have cared less. Hell, at first he also felt bad and let her do it for a little while, but very quickly decided he was uncomfortable. She woke up and apologized. He wished her well. The world kept spinning.
I would talk to her and ask her why she felt disrespected. Like why specifically. If you guys can talk it out and hear each other out that is like the best case scenario, but if she doesn’t want to hear you out, I would consider this a pretty big red flag. Maybe you can validate her concerns and reassure her your intentions and you can both move on. Personally, I would not want to be with someone who made trivial stuff like this a big deal, that sounds exhausting. But misunderstandings also happen all the time too, and sometimes people’s feelings are hurt for reasons we don’t understand, or reasons that aren’t rational.
was dating this guy who only showed me love and affection as we got to know each other.
What does this even mean?
Fuck around [with other men], find out.
the saddest part is, you fucked some other dude because a coworker said your husband was cheating. you didn't have any evidence, nothing. you never showed him an ounce of trust, and now you expect it?
he won't divorce you because he can't. you ruined a good thing. you made your bed, lay in it
to prevent herself from becoming attached too quickly
So all she is saying is that for the time being she doesn't want to be exclusive.
Should I just cut my losses?
If you think she is really special, it's up to you, you can take a chance to see where things go, or you can move on because this just isn't for you.
Im typically a date one person at a time kind of guy and just don't want to invest too much time, energy, and emotion into someone who “has other options” is she dangling a carrot in front of my face? Does she just need time to get over her last relationship (8 months ago) or is she just seeking attention and validation from multiple men? Is this ever a good idea?
The answer to all of this is basically: are you willing to take a chance on her?
Should I just keep it casual?
This is exactly what you'd be doing with her for now because at the moment that's all she is available for. If you are okay with that for now, go for it.
If I could crochet I’d slap that on my wall
Gotta love people claiming to pro choice only to treat people with an abortion like shit and making it all about themselves.
Op, this man doesn't respect your boundaries, your body, or your feelings. If he doesn't like the feeling of protection, that's fine, he can say that, and you two can choose to do the deed less often. However for him to get upset and grumpy just because you don't feel comfortable risking pregnancy and sti's, that's entitled behavior. It's a very big red flag. Op, are you sure you want to continue a relationship with this person?
it was a joke, hence the lol
This is a ridiculous thing to have on TV while working, it's exactly conducive to a professional setting, which is what your home is during working hours. He is the outlier here, not you. He can get a tablet + headphones to get the visuals+sounds he needs to be productive.
Remindme! 5 days
Bruh… not another one ??
First, I am sorry for grammatical errors, English is not my language. Second, thank you very much for your words. I think what I have to do now is distract myself and as you said, I'll give myself time. I do not know what else to say. Thank you for taking the time to write your comment, feeling understood makes me feel better and your advice to spend my money and time on myself will come in handy. I hope this doesn't cause me a big trauma. Yesterday I went to have coffee with a friend and we ranted about men, at least at that time I was not aware of whether she had written to me or answered. I'm going to stop taking the mobile for a while. I have a question, let's see if you can answer me, how could I trust a boyfriend again after this? Thank you again❤️
My girlfriend and used to do that. It is a sexy way to wake your girlfriend up if she's into that sort of stuff.
That's what I'm intending to do now (follow what diet she wants to me have while I'm on medication). And you're right, I have no intention of fighting with her about this and going against what she wants. I definitely don't want to get back into that position where I've been having 40°F fevers for an entire month only because it was left untreated for too long.
Woosh
I suspect this is actually about more than vaccines.
Do you understand that with every response you are not reinforcing that you love your wife or your relationship with her, you are saying you are out of this 25 year old's league? Understand that in EVERY response you are not defending your honor or your love for your wife, you are saying if the coworker gave you the time of day, you would be all over it.
I wore a condom all the time even if my girl was on the pill. It was just insurance really. Glad I got into wearing them when I started having sex. Now with a vasectomy I have no fear lol
Your boyfriends concerns sound sincere. You shouldn’t get off BC because you start using condoms. Both aren’t 100% and it makes sense to stay on both. It’s good your being honest about your feelings on abortion but perhaps you guys should stop having sex for a bit while you figure this out. He should get to feel comfortable and you need to respect his wants. Maybe your not compatible anymore due to the desires of both of you. I think his feelings and wanting to be double safe should win out if breaking up isn’t something you want to do.
Plenty of side chicks are ok seeing their married partner once a week, but they always want him to stay over and that’s what your husband is doing. The fact that you can’t go with them at the last minute is the biggest red flag of all, because your husband needs time to switch gears from his original plan. When men cheat , there is ALWAYS unexplained time (ahem, 12 hours EVERY Saturday) and unaccounted for money. Look a lot closer at your finances. I’ve been where you are now.
If after 3 months there is talk of sex with other people, the relationship is over.
how long have you been ignoring her red flags?
She is not pregnant…do not confront her and make a fool of yourself. Just because she is quiting smoking and doesn't want to drink…doesn't mean she is pregnant. I quit smoking and I can't drink because I'm on an extreme low carb diet…if she says she's dieting then believe her. She is trying to be healthy.
So…..how'd it go? ?
Nah, let him figure it out, he needs to learn to handle money and prioritize.
Sounds like you shouldn't be dating if you find someone “liking” a photo offensive. And it wasn't done “in secret.” No one has to tell you every single thing they do on social media.
Than say what your actual problem is with stepping in, because this makes it clear it’s about you, not the situation. It’s that you might experience threat in the situation while you are currently not. You’re talking about your personal experience becoming more negative. The situation is already a violent one, just one you’re happy to ignore because it’s happening to someone else.
Did you ask him if someone raped you while y’all are together and you got pregnant, if he’d still want to keep that baby? I’m really curious…
When my last dog passed, I kept a small bit of her fur in the same box as her paw print that was taken at the time of her passing. I don’t think it’s strange necessarily. You might have more quirks than you realize however and that just didn’t vibe with him. I say move on and find someone who understands you better.
It depends on your appetite for difference and debate (I love it), but in a good relationship that's often where personal growth comes from as it helps you challenge your beliefs, explore your blind spots and be able to connect with more people.
Enjoy getting to know her and discussing things like this in detail.
What the actual fuck. As someone who carries a bigass tactical knife in her purse, this woman is nuts and the comment about being careful if you refuse sex is rapey as hell.
Dude, I understand you wanting to hold on the last possibility on it being an error… But you know exactly what happened and that she is lying. It's too big of a coincidence to be true, we know it, you know it.
It is unfortunate that it is so late to divulge this but you must. The child is a big responsibility and it will only get harder to leave from the birth onwards. Dont try to forge on if its not in you. Best to not destabilise the family after.
The relationship was doomed from her decision, you should have been more honest with yourself earlier in and made it easier all round.
It is unfortunate that it is so late to divulge this but you must. The child is a big responsibility and it will only get harder to leave from the birth onwards. Dont try to forge on if its not in you. Best to not destabilise the family after.
The relationship was doomed from her decision, you should have been more honest with yourself earlier in and made it easier all round.
Haha what did you mean by “yo”? Sorry, unfamiliar with this but sounds random & funny.
I’ve heard that many men can get easily intimidated by women who earn more, are more objectively attractive etc. BUT I think this person is rude and likely not the genius she is portraying to be.
She doesn’t even view you as a friend? Find someone who does and let her find Mr Perfect.
Forgot to also add that if she doesn’t want to tell her dad, should I go, call him and speak to him myself?
Go speak to a therapist, reddit can not help you to move on
Go speak to a therapist, reddit can not help you to move on
I definitely struggle with transaction love, so it’s very easy to count and say the Xyz I gave you is not equivalent to the x you gave me.
I think I’ll use the specific language you provided. Thank you for this comment 🙂
Op THIS!!! If you want to bond with kids, your wife should work too! Dont sacrifice your time with kid and compromise with your wife and this man!! She should know how to contribute income to the home too!
It’s too bad you already confronted him, the move would have been to have your sister say something like “it’s okay, I actually liked it” and see what he says.
It was either meant for her, hoping the above would happen, or it was meant for someone else. No matter who it was for, it was unsolicited (because if someone asked for it he would have already had their message open) which means he’s acting like a pig and a predator. Gross. Time to start talking to a lawyer.
What does your therapist say?
If you arrive and see your sisters boyfriend and your partner wasn’t invited whats stopping you from leaving. You’re co-signing this blatant disrespect by staying at an event like this with them
I want someone I'm meant to be marrying to show some care, but that seems to much to expect.
If you are insecure… do not ask about previous partners. Just dont.
If you can accept that a romantic relationship isn’t going to happen, then drop her a birthday text.
Just wish her a happy birthday.
Don’t say anything else.
As a single mom I don’t think you’re an asshole, no. It’s her job to make her kids behave or punish them for misbehaving. I understand that she’s hurt and probably traumatized from her ex husband but she can’t project that onto you, you can only deal with so much especially when she’s not correctly dealing with her kids’ outbursts. I don’t blame you.
There’s nothing wrong with romance. Just gotta keep it balanced out with self awareness and devotion to your role of fatherhood. Good luck to you.
Yeah, this is fair. I’ll give an example: our sex life tanked during the pandemic due to lack of care from, I think, both of us, but I was more fine with it than he was, and when he tried to go to bat for it I was defensive and lashed out for months despite his trying to communicate gently and calmly. So now we’re in a place where we’ve agreed I need to be the leader in keeping our sex life vibrant, introducing new things and shepherding us through them, learning to be more seductive, etc. This has been very hot for me, but I have made improvements that I’m proud of.
So a couple nights ago on our last night out of town I tried to come on to him (not very creatively) but he kindly communicated that he wasn’t feeling well and a shower would help. But before moving towards the shower he started getting turned on, and touched me but in a way that was uncomfortable for me, and I reacted with a weird unsexy sound, a couple of times, instead of calming down and analyzing the situation and communicating to him in the same kind way he communicated to me. That put him off, and I tried a few minutes later to acknowledge how that fit into a bad pattern we’re trying to break of me being weird instead of confident and communicative sexually; then I tried to tell him why I reacted like that, and it spiraled down from there. It wasn’t the time to try to explain why I wasn’t turned on enough for that; he just wanted me to communicate better. Then we got into a fight where I was trying to stand up for my right to be the authority on my own body (which I of course have a right to, but on the other hand I’ve bought into a lot of toxic shit over the years that has had undue influence on how my body feels, which I’m trying to undo) and that just was never the point of why he was upset in the first place. It was our last night of privacy in a hotel before going back to our roommate, and I should’ve steered us back toward intimacy, but instead I was letting my ego and fear get in the way. So now we’ve been in a multiple-day situation where he’s just very upset and doesn’t feel like I’ve cared for him well at any point, but I don’t know what to do – he’s right that I didn’t do a good job communicating and that I’ve mostly not known what to do. I know he’s at the end of his rope, and every time we get into this pattern I feel like I know less and less how to break us out of it.
I imagine much of this sounds batshit from the outside; I wish I could plop you in the relationship to see the ways that I’ve been really passive and neglectful and not a great partner, and then the context would make more sense.
I agree about couples counseling and that this may not be the right relationship.
Here is all you need to ask yourself every time some bullshit like this happens. “Only one life to on-line and is this how I want my story to go” If that don’t sort you out, you have bigger problems
I empathize with her her that she is hurt. However, what's more hurtful is that he's using her, is well aware of doing so, and getting the ego boost of her groveling besides.
It's time for OP to get angry. Basically, he's asking for an allowance from her, so she needs to cut it off or demand him pay back the share of bills that she has been covering. He balks? Those locks are magically changed and OP has a lot of things at her disposal to sell…
We talked about it but he says we are not together. I believe this was talked about twice which is why I’m confused
That's a horrible thing to say and I would definitely break up with someone over it.
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This 100%
The brother sounds just as bad as the friend
I'm just baffled by this. In the morning, does she get out of bed very hot and walk away in front of step dad or keep a blanket wrapped and leave that way?
Listen, as someone in a committed relationship, being very hot in front of anyone but me (not including doctors) would be a huge deal breaker! It's weird she doesn't feel this way especially bc she's not open sexually or born into a nudist fam.
Also, her logic is flawed. She likes to sleep very hot bc it makes her feel more comfortable but then she can't sleep alone. So being naked doesn't make it any easier to sleep. She should pick one “comfort”: another person or nudity.
Listen if I had a job this would all be so much easier. But the thing is- money has never been a problem in his life. Hence why i suggested if we moved somewhere tg and he paid rent for 3-4 months I’d EASILY and happily pay him back portion I owe! ?
It doesn’t matter if it’s her dad or stepdad or mom. Sleeping very hot with someone else besides your SO is wrong on so many levels. I can’t comprehend how she thinks this is normal behavior. That whole family dynamic is something I would personally run from. Can you imagine having kids with this woman? Her moral compass is missing a few directions
I guess this is what i'm gonna do. I just hate fighting. I want peace, why can't there be peace for once? Alright, i'll tell him that. Thanks for your advice.
in what way is she asking this in a caring way lol
Not everyone is triggered by the same things. I'm only triggered by romantic conflict
Not everyone is triggered by the same things. I'm only triggered by romantic conflict
Not everyone is triggered by the same things. I'm only triggered by romantic conflict
One is a friend that happens to be female, the other is someone who he was dating
And don't forget to cancel the 'friendship'. She's too self-involved to bother with! BLOCK her and move on.
See that’s why I wanted to ask. I think it might just make me uncomfortable because I’m not really a touchy person with any of my friends and my friends are the same way so it’s not something that is normal to me. I do think that there is a boundary to what is acceptable. I didn’t put everything in detail cause it would be long af. But one thing they would joke abt is how they would fuck and to keep it a secret and I feel like that’s just a little to far for my liking. Idk tho maybe Iam bein a little crazy since I’ve never really had a friendship like that. And then this weekend when we went over to their house he shoved stuff in her mouth and said she shouldn’t have had her mouth open. That just weirds me out. Like I said tho me myself am not a touchy person so that’s maybe why I feel weird abt it. Thank you for your feedback:)
Don’t move to a state that is much more expensive and will be annihilated every year in perpetuity by hurricanes
Is repeatedly accusing someone of cheating abuse? I’d never thought of it that way. Every time I ask her about her ex she turns it on me so that makes sense that it’s abuse
This is a result of you being 18 years old, and not figuring out yet that its totally an okay thing to just communicate your concerns to get to the bottom of your own anxieties. What do I mean by that?
Just ask.
If you don't know where he stands, ask him what he wants out of your situationship. Is he looking for something serious, does he just want to hook up? Does he see this going somewhere more serious?
People waste so much time, energy, and anxiety pussyfooting around on 'what ifs' 'maybes' 'what are they thinking?' 'Oh he's not into me anymore' – when all of it has a reasonably easy solution. Just talk to them.
Tell them what you want out of the relationship. Don't be afraid about whether what you want being totally different from what they want. Its nothing you have to be embarassed about because there are two outcomes:
You either both want the same thing and you don't have to be anxious anymore because you know where each other stand.
Or you both don't, and you have clarity and can now move on with your life and find someone that does want the same thing.
TLDR – Time is precious. Don't waste it worrying. Communicate what you want. Find out what he wants. If its not the same thing, move on. Eventually, you'll find someone who wants the same thing that you do.
Plus the fact that she still does his laundry and all the cooking. As a 36 YO man, he should be doing his own laundry and cook half the time.
100% agree here ^ #asianfamily over here for me!
Text her that you don't want to see her any more. Then block her.
This woman (at 28, not a girl) is more experienced than you, has been around the block a few times, and will survive such cavalier treatment. She's got you wrapped around her little finger. Well, untie yourself.
That’s not what I’m asking, am I just supposed to let go of this friendship? I’m asking how to fix shit with her, not to just “get over it”.
You cannot make it right, you knowingly hid the fact you were with that guy the entire time, you don't even seem to want to leave your job over this. Tell your boyfriend, and don't even try toake it seem less horrible then it is, say that you're sorry, he deserves better and take the consequences of your actions
That she had an abortion a decade ago? Should she have asked him first
haha yeah girls are happy to remain committed for 6 whole months, turning down potential suitors while he doesn't actually date her. reality is not going to be kind to y'all.
He deserves to know what you’ve done. This will never be a healthy/honest relationship if you don’t. He deserves to have all pertinent information so HE can now decide if he wants to stay with you. I mean what would you want if he had done this instead?
What the actual heck are you letting being done with you?
YOU put your money into your joint account. You have no access to.
So 1) it's HIS account and HE pockets YOUR money.
2) And now he even refuses to let you use your own money.
And 3) is angry because you earn a nice sum! As he sees it arriving.
Get your own account.
STOP paying into his.
Save a bit.
NEVER move! Don't!
Get divorce/ annulment.
And take a safe contraceptive. Otherwise he will try other means to nail you to your garden door and make you unable to leave home. (Children).
Thanks for the advice. I’m already trying to prepare myself for him wanting to cut it off completely, it already feels like it is. He says the problems are we have many differences, and he’s having trouble getting past our arguments. He says a lot of things I do make his life easier, but a lot of things I do also make his life harder. I’m not perfect by any means, but after experiencing this pain I would do anything he wanted to go back to having him everyday.
let the poor man go then
Block and completely cut her out of your life. Do not even respond to her to tell her to leave you alone. She is a liar and a cheat. Move on with your life.
Is everybody in this story shitty, or was the third guy she was cheating with who got scared away actually cool?
The worst thing is she's the one who ended things and would be very mean when I would beg for her to come back, now that I'm finally trying to move on this happens. I blocked her on iMessage since in the other media im blocked already.
Ooooo ok
I agree with you. It’s interesting, isn’t it? How we seek advice from good people but most the time continue to make the worst decisions for ourselves in the long run. I genuinely wonder why that is.
Thank you for this comment. I appreciate you for being real.
Sorry my fault. Basically we've been arguing a lot and “us being okay” meaning, I'm afraid it will break us up. I don't want that
I just turned 19 the month we met so he is good.
I guess I want to know why he never saw me as relationship material or asked me to do stuff. I agree with your reasoning though so I’m trying to just fight my feelings and move forward. I’ve been on dating apps, but it’s like a job interview in a way. I am just getting to know people and see how we vibe. I’m not one to just jump in which in a way I wish I was so it would be busier to move on.
Well he threatened police action if I didn’t tell everyone I was lying and made it all up. I actually didn’t reach out to him at all or yell at him he was the one reaching out to me.
Yeah I just never got why if we were together seven years why not hang out with me or ask me to do stuff. Yet he does that with other people yet still cheats with me??
The new girlfriend is 25 and never had a boyfriend before and was a virgin and very introverted according to her family. So maybe this place along into him going for newly 19 year old me
Once a pedophile always a pedophile Once a rapist ALWAYS A RAPIST
Say it louder for those in the back ??TIME DOES NOT FIX PSYCHOPATHS ??
what will happen when your SIL or yourself have kids, and what happens if that child is a little girl? Even IF he's never left alone with the child doesn't mean he still won't be gross it just means he'll only go so far An what happens if he DOES be gross, will your husband protect your child? Or will he just brush it aside like he's doing now?
The fact that this whole family has excused the behavior like it never happened? ?????? RUN LITERALLY AS FAR AND AS FAST AWAY AS YOU CAN AND BRING A GUN WITH YOU
Because now I have people I call family who I chose, they are good people through & through who truly love me as I am.
Not everyone has this. I don't regret what I did and wouldn't go back, but not everybody has a support network or other family to fall back on.
Hmm. But, she's enrolling at the same college as you? That hasn't changed?
I hope this is fake…
But by the off chance it issant…. This is sick and gross… what he fantasizing over your sister?! Gross!!! Leave him if his real.. there’s NO getting over this
Exactly this
Do you also feel guilty because you cheat?
Asian guy? ?
Right. Why do the whole drama thing to try to catch her for evidence. Trust is broken. You do not have to have evidence beyond reasonable doubt to leave. If you stay the whole emotional burden will be on you because you will never have piece of mind.
You survived cancer and became … a worse person?
I hope you have a therapist you can talk to about all of this.