My uncle was an alcoholic and the amount that he was drinking daily was astonishing. Sorry you are going through this and I didn't mean to sound mean, my uncle lost everything he had including wife and kids and he still didn't stop. He didn't die from the alcohol itself he died because he was drunk and fell. It's absolutely devastating. Again I'm sorry you are going through this.
The fact that you had to be convinced is more problematic than you not finding extra partners, I think.
I’ve been where you are, went along with it because I loved them….but hooooo-boy, when I started getting attention, shit hit the fan. So, that’s one thing to look out for.
The biggest problem I’ve faced with poly is that almost no one knows how to do it right and most people seem to be under the impression that it’s just a way to have your cake and eat it too.
Focus more on how this arrangement is making you feel, rather than how successful you are in a situation you probably didn’t want to be in anyway.
There’s nothing wrong with being monogamous. There is everything wrong with being manipulated into situations you aren’t enthusiastic about.
Thank you! I will think on this. I’ve just been so concerned with being successful that I’ve lost sight of what’s important. I know my childhood was toxic in some ways and I honestly probably have some small trauma. I’ve always been someone who wants to contribute something to the world, and very much have an all or nothing mindset. So my natural instinct is to beat myself up when I feel like I’m not “good enough.”
Fixing lab equipment. It’s related to the field but not really want he wants to be doing.
My uncle was an alcoholic and the amount that he was drinking daily was astonishing. Sorry you are going through this and I didn't mean to sound mean, my uncle lost everything he had including wife and kids and he still didn't stop. He didn't die from the alcohol itself he died because he was drunk and fell. It's absolutely devastating. Again I'm sorry you are going through this.
The fact that you had to be convinced is more problematic than you not finding extra partners, I think.
I’ve been where you are, went along with it because I loved them….but hooooo-boy, when I started getting attention, shit hit the fan. So, that’s one thing to look out for.
The biggest problem I’ve faced with poly is that almost no one knows how to do it right and most people seem to be under the impression that it’s just a way to have your cake and eat it too.
Focus more on how this arrangement is making you feel, rather than how successful you are in a situation you probably didn’t want to be in anyway.
There’s nothing wrong with being monogamous. There is everything wrong with being manipulated into situations you aren’t enthusiastic about.
Thank you! I will think on this. I’ve just been so concerned with being successful that I’ve lost sight of what’s important. I know my childhood was toxic in some ways and I honestly probably have some small trauma. I’ve always been someone who wants to contribute something to the world, and very much have an all or nothing mindset. So my natural instinct is to beat myself up when I feel like I’m not “good enough.”