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Even accepting the technically correct assertion that there was no cheating involved, one doesn’t have to be a cheater to be a selfish asshole, a liar, or manipulative by misrepresent their current state of affairs until conveniently after getting what they want from ex.
Ex-gf would still be doing the potential gf a favor by being honest about what happened with her. The guy knows what he did would fuck up his chances with new girl even if she too thought that it wasn’t cheating by strict definition. Otherwise there would have been no need for the guilt trip or to volunteer any of that info really.
Telling someone information that almost certainly would have affected a decision, like committing to a relationship, three years after the fact would absolutely be a problem for most people in that situation.
You know she's over there right now bouncing on his man meat, right?
She’s single, no relationships as of recently. The romanticism didn’t start the second I turned 18 and nor did she push it, it was probably more me initiating it at first
Sometimes, people are just curious. Especially with new things. My first wife was a virgin. She didn't know that what she was doing hurt me in any way. And by my harsh reaction (coming from pain and frustration) she shut down in many ways. It was a destructive response. I learned from it.
Not everyone who does something “wrong” is evil.
Not everything is black and white. Good people make bad choices and decisions. Bad people make good choices. Don't make things worse by assuming the worst right away. You only know one side of the story, and not even that whole side.
That’s genuinely sickening and unforgivable. He is a horrible person – I’m afraid his needs will always come before you
If your daughter ever told you her partner did that would you tell her to stay?
i do this to get men to stop bothering me lmao
It sure as fuck gets a lot more efficient, if not easier. Everyone knows what they're looking for by then.
I keep hoping as I get older dating will get easier, but I’ve not even had a single date since I was maybe 23.
How many people have you asked out? Also, did you ever get any therapy to deal with the abusive relationships?
Is your relationship monogamous?
Take the cats cuddle them and block them. This guy sounds terrible he treats you terrible. He cheated! He is laying unreasonable terms.
Do not let him move in. Get another cat 3 cats sound perfect. Or dog from pound
Been in same boat, thing is once you looked at her phone ( as I did ) they become a bit more secretive which makes you worse… But I bet she hasn't cheated but you both will never see eye to eye on this, just do the hot part and let her go because it sounds like it's too much for you.
Depends on your goals, why you work opposing shifts, etc.
My parents worked opposite shifts for a long time, because it worked best for raising children – no need for full time childcare. They stayed very much in love, but they also had shared goals, and shared plans, including a mutual effort to spend time together, rather than it being carried by one partner.
The fact that they lived together did aid in this, sad they saw each other at least in passing daily, but they also made a point to actually spend even a short time together just about each day. It was not uncommon when I was a small child, while my mom was still on nights (she was a nurse, too), to go downstairs for a snack at like 10pm right before she left for work, and find them dancing and laughing in the kitchen.
Even not living together, though, there is no reason she can't put in more effort. I think you should sit down with her and just talk about your feelings on this, including what you both want/your goals.
Question – were those 2 scheduled you mentioned the only options given to her? And does she only work 3 or 4 days/week? Usually they have options that are shorter shifts, but more days. I work in healthcare myself, and the schedules with longer shifts like she has are usually only 3 or 4 days weekly, which should actually make it easier on her end for spending time together.
Yeah, I agree. I think more information is needed. What happened that she suddenly doesn’t trust him to approach her without verbal consent? Has she been SA’d in the past and was triggered?
Oh man this comment made me lol. Wife was like “what’s so funny”. Now she’s gonna find this thread.
Thank you for the good luck! Appreciate it.
Thankfully were not super LDR, we see each other at least one every two weeks because I come down to visit him and family. But it's definitely tough!
I think my main problem is I don't have time to see my friends when I visit because I'm busy with him and family, and then when I'm back to my uni town I don't have any friends around, gets lonely.
Will join a club now though thanks to advice I got here!
Also point out that in many states(assuming OP is in the US), sending pornographic photos of yourself is still considered child porn if you're under the age of consent in your state.
Meaning if she took photos of herself in a sexually suggestive pose, she could get arrested for distribution of child pornography.
Hell no, don’t do it. It won’t make you feel better
If you tell him be prepared for him to insist on a workplace harassment claim and punishing your work mate through the system – that’s the only way your husband is going to believe you were innocent. If not, shut up, deal with the problem and never put yourself in that position again.
Relationships are built on trust. It takes courage to trust someone and respect for them, especially if you have ever had a bad experience, but if you can't manage that, you aren't ready for a serious relationship.
I'm thinking of my now husband trusting me when I had a male childhood friend to stay early in our relationship. My husband was right to trust me, I would never cheat on him, and he knows that.
I have opened up about it.
Fortunately or not they have not witnessed it.
The gun is locked up in a hot metal gun safe. Can fit into a drawer.
I have previous incident recorded and pictures. I sent that to friends. My spouse did a good job convincing me to seclude myself from family cause they are “retards who did nothing for us.” Her words. My parents weren't like hers so they are worse and shitty. They defended me and my decisions when I married her and when we divorced. Even my decision to try and work it out with my spouse again…but they don't give us allowance like her parents were doing for years and years.
You have no clue what its like to have a piece of shit parent who didn't want you and left when you are young. Trust me no child thinks a parent is a hero for allowing a piece of shit parent to be on their life. She doesn't need a hero. She needs a loving stable home.
You're 21. Do you think you can have a future with (20NB)? In a one sided relationship? Seeing them sleep/spending time with another person.
If not.. I would suggest you leaving the relationship before someone get hurt. =/
Write a note, short and sweet. Leave your number and ask for a response. 🙂 good luck!
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My wife suggested having an open marriage early this year. We tried it. We are now in the midst of a bitter divorce. Some people say having an open relationship is great, but…. Make sure you are prepared for all possible scenarios.
Yea, the insecurity isn't like a normal jealous insecurity. For a pregnant person it's a threat to their survival. They are being abandoned at a time when they are most vulnerable. Primitive instincts come into play. Not to mention her whole body changing and her thinking of herself as gross compared to any non pregnant person. It's the absolute worst time to be doing this to a woman.
I mean she is my girlfriend. Where I’m from a person is your baby momma/baby daddy until you get married. Which is rare because most people I know are married.
Look, I had a similar discussion with my mom about this “cynicism” about it being unsafe to have an live! account and that she needed to use my accounts to make orders and the like since she was afraid of scammers and hackers. It takes five seconds with a spine to say back, “if these things are so dangerous and questionable, why is it okay for you to risk my identity and such with your orders if you are unwilling to do it yourself.” Thankfully my mother is not an asshole control freak and went, “oh, that makes sense…” Stop dating this guy, its not going to change without serious help and you aren't responsible for that nor is he listening to what you have to say.
I'm an attorney and my GF is a local TV personality who used to model. She sometimes struggles to understand things I bring up regarding politics, science, etc. I love that I get to be the one to explain them to her and get super proud when she gets it – I'm the one who helped her expand her knowledge of new concepts.
Conversely, sometimes I can't understand other things like pop culture, unspoken social cues, etc. She gets to be the one to teach me on that front.
I wouldn't have it any other way. I'm not looking to date another version of myself.
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It doesn't sound like there is any confusion, the only one you want to date is Sam. So date Sam.
So she asked for your opinion which suggests she values it, and after you shared your feelings, she said no to the sleepover.
I think it shows she is open to discussing and establishing boundaries.
This might not be the perfect time for such an emotional conversation being Christmas and all but I think there is a chance this might work out.
birds of a feather…
YES! Block her every where and stop talking to her.
There is no baby. Stay away from her. Call family lawyers and line up someone you want to work with. Start saving money.
In 9 months, if a baby is born, do a paternity test at a doctor’s office, ONLY. Your lawyer that you have now paid a retainer can guide you.
Always use your own condoms.
Good luck.
Uhmm no, it's fucking weird.
Hell no do not give him another chance. OMG he is a cheater and he got her pregnant?? So no protection i bet. OMG get out of this shitty relationship you deserve better.
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Highly doubt he would be going to a family Christmas at only 10 days.
Bro just stop. That is mad disrespectful to your wife. Have respect for your wife that just gave birth to your baby
Her behaviour is appalling. Concentrate on spending time with your mum, you will regret it forever if you don’t (I say this as someone without a mum). She should be supporting you, not the other way around. I get that her situation isn’t ideal, but you have bigger issues to deal with than a grown woman having a tantrum. Please see the bigger picture here. Merry Christmas, sending you lots of love at this difficult time.
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Men that cheat are on their pregnant partners are the absolute lowest of the low. He is a serial cheater and a liar. Get an STD check just to be safe and a good lawyer.
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Yw, the county health departments offer many services for free or near free. This is also where you would go to sign up for WIC, which will be invaluable to you if you plan on formula feeding. They do have programs for breastfeeding moms as well.
I'm on mat pay, he works Sat and Sun?
XD
Americans are really special breed. You really are so upset about his wrongthink aren't you? It's absolutely inconceivable to me since I have family and friends with many different views and it doesn't affect anyones's relation. You can have a monarchist and literal communist occasionally engage in civil debate, but not make their friendship about their political views. I know I have seen that.
Why is that that you think all of his character traits are suddenly invalid, because his political views are different? I remember CP Grey video how politics makes you have tribal mentality, it's very much the case for you. You have made a totem of the evil faction in your head and somehow being in that faction makes people into bad people and you should hate them. Absolutely despiseable.
Ok, yes, you nailed it entirely.
Thank you for pointing out to me what was wrong with my post, and why it was confusing, and why I was being misunderstood.
I can see so clearly now how I lacked the conciseness you laid out here. Writing, and being straight to the point, are 2 very important things to me in my life. I hope to improve in these areas because I have so many important messages to say to people, and I am constantly observing myself explaining things in confusing ways and being misunderstood.
Please advise how you became a writer like this- succinct, expressive and with organized thoughts. It’s not typical
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She just wasn’t ready and needed to ask you to slow down. Girls feel forced a lot of time in situations that are normal and okay. Everyone is different and she has the right to tell you to ask for consent. You should be doing that at times. But all in all I just don’t think she isnt ready. It takes time to be ready to date and be physical, everyone goes at a different pace and have different needs. It’s okay that you walked away.
Is it possible she’s been assaulted or abused by someone in the past?
Clearly, you are incredibly young if that’s what you think. It was not your only option, but you still chose to do it and now you are reaping the consequences of your decision. If he keeps him there’s nothing you can do but if he spreads them or posts them anywhere then you can do something about that because that is illegal. Unfortunately, your hands are tied because of a choice that you made. Hopefully you learned from this.
Use the talks as inspiration! You love the sound of Lucy and her boyfriend doing X together? See, if your boyfriend fancies X! It sounds so cute when her boyfriend does Y? Maybe figure out what made Y extra cute and see if your boyfriend would like to do that too – or just do it for your boyfriend! However, really giving your boyfriend inspiration of what he could do to make you happy, is a great idea. Some people believe that it doesn’t count, if their partner didn’t come up with it themselves, but that’s seriously nonsense! I mean, don’t you love it, when you learn better how to make your awesome boyfriend happy?
Maybe you should investigate your misogynistic thinking with a therapist.
Because it’s pictures that they posted without the intent to be masturbated to.
Ya that one is rough as fuck.
I asked her who was that girl who you were kissing, she said she is just a friend and nothing more, I asked her if she cheated on me, she said she din't cheat on me.
I would consider that to already be cheating.
Not a “red flag for cheating” but “already cheating”.
What does he likeie if he likes fishing…take him fishing. I think quality time together is always the greatest gift.
For children. I guess it's not called alimony in english?
You are valid in expressing your feelings about the matter, you two should have discussed this prior. If this is your boundary, you should tell him that, and if he chooses to not respect it, dump him.
FYI, I would also not be comfortable with my SO going to a mixed gender sauna, definitely.
There’s a difference between being a republican and being s racist/homphobe
Both Republicans and Democrats would be repulsed by for BF fyi
a relationship that could continue under the right circumstances
He literally cheated on her though? Like that relationship’s been over
He didn't forget. You even reminded him THAT DAY. What was the alternative? That after all day lying around and ignoring you, you say, “Yes, go get them.” Congrats, you're able to nag him out of the house to grab some wilted crap from the nearest gas station. Would that have made you feel ANY better? It wouldn't to me. Both outcomes show he just has no personal desire to make you happy and only does so under duress.
Sounds like you don’t trust her. I don’t blame you.
See ya at the gym, man.
The question you should ask is: how can I get out of there as fast as I can? You don't want to move into a better place with him when he even doesn't see a future with you? If this would be me, I'd run and find a place of my own and probably a new boyfriend.
My boss doesn't think it's right to evict him since his lease is about to end I guess. I told the tenants to file a police report and had them write a statement that detailed everything that happened which I also have to my boss. When I first started at this company I remember him calling and screaming at me. He's absolutely terrifying.
Jfc as someone with small breasts you couldn't pay me enough to enlarge them. Gross. He wants to doom you to a lifetime of pain and health problems because he's addicted to hentai.
That’s incredible that she was self aware enough to teach you healthy eating habits while struggling herself. That’s something I’m always hyper aware of with my history of ED is making sure that doesn’t repeat with my child. She sounds like a very strong, lovely woman that I hope your child gets to know and understand, because it’s important for kids to see people come in all shapes and sizes.
Ya I see what you’re saying, I don’t think he’s an asshole but I think he’s a bit self centered. Like you said I think he’s interested in me because I’ve shown interest in him. I was confused when he told me he liked me and wanted see me again because he’s done very little during the dates to even get to know me. So like you said he likes that I like him. Sounds like he could have narcissistic tendencies.
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Yeah like of course he is cheerful he is an almost 40 yr old man who has just knocked up a 21 yr old….. it’s disgusting
The way my head snapped around when he said that ??
MFer, you stupid? Probably should call her your ex-gf ??♀️
thank you
Your update says “he doesn’t want an open relationship” but that’s literally what he said – he wants one night stands and casual sex with people other than you. He wants non-monogamy, it doesn’t seem that’s what you want. You’re not crazy or insecure for not wanting to share your partner with other folks.
This is the relationship hill to die on. Stand your ground or regret folding.
Careful now, curiosity killed the cat and I don’t thing OP is that tired of her yet. /s
Why is almost every comment that OP is making getting downvoted to hell
I think it is worth saying it is generally a low-stress, low pressure environment.
Then how is it that she's feeling overwhelmed and having a rough patch at work? It doesn't sound like she's experiencing her job as low stress or low pressure right now. Perhaps she was upset because she felt that you weren't listening to her?
OP,. Both of your posts read like a laundry list of reasons to break up. You sound caged wild animal level trapped right now, and frankly, as though you've checked out. I'm gonna ask you a question, mostly because I think it'll benefit you to think of the answer, not because I expect you to actually answer me.
If nothing in your life changed, and you were going to live! it exactly as it is right now, can you do that? I'm guessing no. Serious and major changes would need to be made, for that to be possible, is my bet. Sunk cost fallacy aside, are you really willing to sit there and put your needs on hold for the amount of time it's going to take to fix this broken nonsense? Like, in order for it to be functional, you guys both probably have a lot of undoing of shit and reworking it to do, just to get to the place you'd be starting at with somebody new. Especially true if you continue in therapy, and keep on doing personal development work. Asking you to ask yourself, do you really have that much investment left in you?
Frankly I don't think anybody should be allowed to get married until they're 25 when their little toddler brains are done developing. I think you have some serious reconsiderations to make about the people in your life, if they're telling to you “man up” and accept this bullshit. And I think that divorces are so freakin expensive because they're worth every penny. You'll also find out who your real friends are, pretty darn quick.
Same
What I love about this is how mature and understanding all three of you have been. Since you all work together I hope your ex can become a kind of aunt to the baby. She'll be grieving hot for some time but happy for you as well.
well all u can do is reassure him and tell him u are excited for him to be back. in ur post you said he seemed to be clinging to one little bad interaction y’all have had months ago. to give u insight where hes coming from, this has happened to me w some of my friends. sometimes time and space makes you latch onto the last negative thing that was perceived and when u don’t have any interactions to prove that perception wrong it just grows. i hope that makes sense, it’s kinda like distance makes the heart grow fonder but instead distance makes the negative feelings grow stronger. i would just reassure and try to prove him wrong when y’all do see eachother. just don’t take that personally. he just seems like hes really struggling
But if she dies first and he gets 100%, then he could change his will after she's dead so he gives his kid 100%, and her own kids get nothing. This isn't good advice.
False. He and she are equally important
This guy is not your boyfriend. He is your abuser.
You don’t need a normal childhood to understand that being unfaithful to your partner is wrong. The amount of mental or emotional damage required to make someone oblivious to the basic common courtesy of “hey maybe don’t have sex with other people for money when you’re in a relationship” would also render her incapable of dressing or feeding herself. She’s gaslighting you if she’s pretending she didn’t understand this was wrong, and you’re giving her waaaaaaaaay too much benefit of the doubt.
If he wanted just sex, then why did he travel by bus hours away to be with his ex, when he could have gone on a hook up app, to get it, or a bar, club etc.
He didn't want just sex. Because if he did there are closer and less expensive ways to get just sex.
That boy is lying to you, and you are falling for it
Why does gen z use asterisks and other special characters to replace letters in certain words?
I do agree that age gaps can be healthy, but an age gap of that size with very young people (eg any teenager) is always a red flag. There's also this tendency to forgive age gaps later if a relationship “worked out,” ie people are still together. But if the older partner is grooming, they're likelier to be satisfied with their younger partner.
The context I'm adding here is this woman's clear discomfort with age gaps. Something is starting to add up for her about her experiences, she's just not ready to face it.
You can offer a compromise to your landlord. Your girlfriend puts the majority of her stuff in storage and moves in with you until your lease period ends. You two get a place afterwards. If your landlord doesn’t want your girlfriend moving in, then give her 30-60 day notice and move out. You’re not trying to screw your landlord over. Circumstances changed and your girlfriend should be your priority.
Appreciate the insight, will keep that in mind for future prospects. My thinking was I didn’t want to 100% commit to the idea that it was supposed to be a date since I’m aware of the fact that we’re not at that level, while leaving open the possibility of inviting others as well. I’m being completely sincere when I say that if she had indicated interest in going, I would’ve invited a few other friends as well. Even my stubborn ass is aware enough to know it’d be way too much to go to an event like that as just us 2.
Loving and protective….I read possessive and a asshole.
There are so many ways to handle that better than how he did. But also kinda what you expect for an immature teenager
Doesn't some like this is something to bond over. From my perspective, it sounds like it is something she is annoyed of due to how much time you spend at the gym.
Nothing wrong with it, focus on your health by all means. But I don't think expecting her to come with you is going to be a highlight of the reletionship. Might be better to discover alternatives to connect over.
We have talked about our previous sex lives, I’ve had a threesome in the past but it was with people I didn’t have any emotional connection with and it was just sex, I would never want to have a threesome with someone I actually care about. That’s why she was shocked.
Time to have a life without him! Yikes!!!!
We don't. But doctors scientists came out and said a lot about it a few years ago. Women were mad but we do hear story after story on here about people waiting till later and discovering they have become infertle KNOWING women are MOST fertile at a certain age range.
What’s weird is there wasn’t any problems before, but today it switched. It’s weird to me, especially since we’ve been together so long. Thanks for the well wishes!
Wish I could give you a lot more upvotes. I think you're spot on that she doesn't owe anything to this guy and may not get any meaningful “closure” out of meeting with him. And I really appreciate that you're not making weird assumptions about her secretly wanting to bang him or being in love.
It's not about whether it could lead to cheating. If she's sure it won't, it won't. But will it actually be helpful? Probably not, and it seems like she realized that.
He is using you. And your infatuated. That's not a good situation. You need to move out. You have made it perfectly clear that you want him. He told you he doesn't want you. All that stuff about ruining a friendship is bullshit.
You should feel horrible, to be honest.
Usually when someone goes no contact with their parents it is for a damn good reason. Parents have to do a lot of horrible things before we, their children, are ready to push back against every instinct we have and the love for them that we were born with, and stop contacting them.
That’s all. But to reiterate, you should be feeling awful. Leave him alone. And apologize like your life depends on it when and if he’s ready to talk to you again.
Hi Consistent Patient, I don't remember making any comments at any point about actively pursuing anything with my colleague. Also, I am actually seeking more about how to manage my feelings in this situation that is foreign to me.
I am so sorry you had to hear something so callous from someone you loved. I am sorry that the problem of dealing with his family is not totally resolved. Hopefully you now feel freedom to leave them to fend for themselves as they drop by, and to take yourself or your daughter out for plans as they start to intrude too greatly on your life.
I knew my childhood was messed up when I moved out and our NEIGHBORS would see me in town, ask if I was okay, and congratulate me on getting out. The people not laughing at my hilarious childhood stories was the next sign.
When you’re raised with abuse it’s not uncommon to not be able to put words to what you went through. Or sometimes, to even realize you were abused.
Exactly how you just told Reddit. If that’s how someone wants to live! their life, great. If it’s not something you’re into, also great. You don’t have to be. But society will want to hang you in the middle of town for it because that’s the world we online in. I don’t think it’s transphobic it’s a personal choice and you have every right to make that choice for yourself
that’s where maturity comes in, he shouldn’t be convincing you that you will see things differently. no one can convince you to change and definitely not see a future you feel isn’t there.
i’m not attacking your character, i’m simply saying you have some maturing to do. as far as your question on the post, i still think you need to work on yourself, move on, and find someone to give 100% to that will give it right back.
A good sleep routine is essential for mental and physical health. You should not feel bad at all for cancelling. Is this the only issue in the relationship? If so, I think you guys should maybe create a schedule and stick to it.
This post is magic. You try to read it, but all you see is the clip from Friday with Ice Cube and Chris Tucker going “DAMN!” (Oh, and this reply is so on point…)
This has to be fake. Nobody this old can be this stupid surely ?
If it walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck… prolly a duck. Your woman is not yours, she’s not loyal.
I'm petty if you helped fuck my relationship I'm definitely coming for yours no matter how big or small your part was
Someone needs to provide common sense advice.
There is a mob echo chamber of emotion based advice. Just look at the downvotes.
If you want mob advice there is plenty that give you what you want.
You may deny it but you may have chosen her for her looks more than her moral values and her attitute towards you. How will she be towards your family and future children you will just have to see it.
Make sure you make a lot of money to maintain her lifestyle.
Hope for the best, plan for the worst. Check in to make another date after a few days. If she plays games or stands you up again, cut your losses and move on.
Is being with him more important to you than being married? Because if he hasn't done it after 8 years and this much pressure, he's probably not going to. So you need to decide what to do assuming that he's never going to marry you.
He's really against taking time off, he said his boss really needed him and was going to be screwed if he called in last minute.
Financial independence, retire early
Read the book Cheating in a Nutshell. It describes what you are going through and is the best book on the subject. You can get a thorough understanding of biological effects of cheating you are experiencing and risk management for decisions you are facing.
I would recommend you to cut your losses and cut your tormentor out of your life. You need to heal but it’s hot to do when you are constantly triggered by her presence.
I feel like you guys might be the exception to the rule, I’m not sure though and would love to have more info about it!
Don't do it. Once that money goes into his account, he will have full control over it. If he wanted to save for a house, then you all could make a separate account or something.
Finding out will derail her life as well, but you only care about what your ass will lose. If you respected her and cared about her feelings, tou wouldn’t have cheated. Integrity is doing the right thing when no one watches. You do no have any integrity and you are weak, finding bullshit wannabe excuses for cheating.
At least stop cheating on her and defending yourself.
It’s not, really. Dudes put it on their damn bio “no single moms.” I’ve never gone out with a guy who did not make it crystal clear within like 20 minutes that he either wouldn’t be into a single mother, or wouldn’t be worthy of meeting my daughter. Any guy that gets past that 20 minutes is mature enough to understand I’m protecting my daughter by not sharing her right away.
You do realize single mothers are targeted, correct? There are predators who literally seek them out. I know since you don’t have a baby, you don’t understand why that would be a thing, but it is.
You’re operating under the assumption I’m waiting some exorbitante amount of time before telling someone I’m interested in that I have a child, and that in that time I am not exploring the possibility of them not being interested in children.
Hot to say in front of colleagues though. Sounds like she tried to take evasive action while not looking unfriendly; women still feel so much pressure to 'be nice'. Difficult to get right.
yeah, the advice is mostly – talk to her NOW, no more procrastinating. They are already in counseling, OP says they have had problems for quite awhile now: “we are in an unhappy relationship, and we have been for a long time.” So yeah, they are getting married because they got pregnant. They are still arguing over everything. The fiancee is getting stuffed around by OP, because OP doesn't have the guts to sit down and have that honest conversation with her about “what are we doing here? Does either one of us really want this, when we can't even agree on cake??”
I genuinely hope that some random person will start kissing OP and walk off with him. Poor dude needs a rescue.
If you trust her, ditch the ex. That's a relationship problem waiting to be a marriage problem. If she doesn't do exes, neither do you. Welcome to married life.
Well the thing is he is my first partner, and so I’ve only had sex with him and it’s such an intimate thing it’s weird for me to think about doing it with multiple people. If I ever have more partners I will know what it’s like and I think it would calm the insecurity a little.
I just try so hot to be amazing for him I really only care about making it good for him I’ve never even gotten close to having an orgasm with him but I always make sure he has a good one. And cause I’m all perfectionist about it it stops me from actually enjoying it myself but I don’t even care about that
This conversation could go round in circles.
I just hope he has his heed on straight this time…
So i should just say when the time is right ?
I do powerlifting. I was an active competitor until covid hit. Im somewhat in the “fitness community”.And yes, there are LOADS of guys thirst trapping in social media, not as many as girls, since the market is much lower. But loads anyways.
I had 2 gf that where in this social “group” too. And I could not give less fu*** about it. They both opened insta and probably 110 out of 12 posts where oiled guys nearly hard, working out, pumping, sweating, playing the “Im so hot” game. Still dont care.
Everyone nowadays is one google away from seeing more porn than they could imagine, social emdia is not that much different. Everything everywhere is sexualiced. You could try to live! in a bubble, or you can just mature and adapt.
Shouldn’t be downvoted, this is true and honest.
Of course, all the young people of reddit are ready to hit the divorce button as if it's the exact same thing as breaking up with a boyfriend.
The most appropriate thing to do is to bring this up at marriage counseling and come to an agreement on this issue with the help of a professional.
If that fails, then divorce might be the next step.
Bruh. This is just comical at this point. He posted this because she lied for no reason and he's confused about it.
I asked him to remove two girls private accounts he followed and now he is saying that as soon as he did their im trying to be controlling by asking him to post a pic of us
I swear, bluey is one of the most realistic takes on parenthood I have ever seen sometimes. Great show.
With the light sensitivity, I'm always worried that people around me outside might think I'm angry or crazy. It's even worse for me when snow is everywhere, especially when waiting for a bus or something.
I get that fun expression with one-eye-closed, and a scrunched up face. Add in that I try to avoid looking at the sun/snow and I probably look like I'm off my rocker sometimes haha
“They come to visit a few times a year”. Stop hosting these visits. Break contact with Boyfriend's dad. Do not complain to his wife or boyfriend. They can't control his behavior and are not responsible for his actions. What you can do is to break contact with Boyfriend's dad. Don't invite him to stay. Don't cook for him. Don't talk to him. Don't escalate. Avoid. Don't engage.
Stop dating children
I have a feeling if they're not already sleeping with each other, they will be soon. I'd probably prepare yourself for the worst, no one spends that much time alone with people in that way unless something is going on. The red flags is the change of behaviour at the same time as the relationship breakdown.
It warrants a discussion and don't let her gaslight you into thinking you're in the wrong.
My wife would never hurt our children
Did you think she’d hurt you? If your answer is “no I didn’t think she’d ever hurt me”, you might want to reevaluate what you wrote.
The purpose of dating is to see if it’s a good fit. She annoys you because she asks questions like a 5YO about everything you do. It doesn’t matter what her intentions are—you’ve told her it bothers you and she continues to do it.
If you don’t want to deal with this for the foreseeable future, walk away.
Thank you for your comment 🙂
Pretty sure that'd make him nervous as well. Especially if you just jump him without any warning.
You didn't do anything. As you said she's a party girl doing party drugs and she likely didn't want to close off any of her options. She was having fun with you but when you kept trying to define the relationship she realized you thought it was something it wasnt she did the right thing and broke it off
“Your wiener is asymmetrical. What? I'm just being honest you should just embrace it”. See how much he likes it
Your gut is right. You don't have to ask him to choose, he's already chosen, she's in 1st place and you 2nd, why? Because he chose to lie to you about the things between them, and when he was put in the situation to choose between spending time with you or with her, he chose her, even worse than that, given that you had your date set in advance.
the parents are dead. when im referring to the hot times that they got each other through, im referring primarily to the deaths of their parents. im not taking this to the maury show but i have no doubt it is his acrual sister
You shouldn't be with people that have unresolved attachments like that. He was important enough to ghost you at one point, and to thus day he is more important to her than you. She still refuses to commit to you exactly ecause of that. Refusal to introduce you to her friends is just of symptoms of that.
I am sorry, but it is better for you to break up with her.
I'm clearly NOT which is why I wrote this post. No need to be dramatic
You are married to this woman? Yikes.
Ok, let me put this into perspective. You hanging out with her friends and taking pictures is perfectly normal. People are allowed to make friends. Her slapping you is very wrong. Her making out with a dude is very wrong.
There is nothing in this story that shows you did anything wrong, and your wife is showing some very scary abusive behaviour, both physically and emotionally. This is an incredibly terrible relationship you are in.
I'd highly recommend making plans on how to secretly leave, have accommodations to live! elsewhere for a bit, contact a lawyer and then serve her divorce papers. She seems like the kind of person that if she caught wind that something was up, she would accuse you of physical violence or something and get everyone you would think to have your back to turn on you and maybe get you in legal trouble and/or fired from your job. Stories like this have happened before.
Get your shit together and get the fuck out of there. Your wife is not a normal sane rational person and the fact that you don't seem to notice this right away is kind of scary, but I'm not in your shoes, so I don't know how she slowly acclimated you to her toxic behaviour.
Please realize that this is a very very bad person you are with and that you deserve better.
She was “ single while on vacation “ , would she be ok if the genders were reversed? If he was single while on vacation? I’m not saying they had sex, but kissing and email exchanges, sure , start up , what else could it be.
and has vented to me multiple times to me about how much she dislikes seeing young children get 20+ presents on their birthdays, to only play with one toy with the rest ignored to be eventually thrown away or donated
Overgifting is a long, long way from not celebrating special days at all. You do know that you can absolutely not overgift, right? But to ignore a special day entirely is an AH move. Even to go out and pick a bouquet of wildflowers or handmaking a card would be better than ignoring the day entirely.
It's funny, your determination to not be a part of the corporate gift giving industry has made you completely miss the point of gift giving entirely, and has actually made you more of a slave to the corporate mentality in a way.
And? That just means you should know better than any of us that the diagnosis process is quite a bit more involved than just reading a reddit post by someone talking about the patient without even talking to the patient himself.
Yeah not gonna lie she is very open ab her depression / family issues which I understand cus I also struggle w mental health. I am trying to be as understanding as I can but it’s just hot to wrap my head around the fact that people can just be this emotionally immature
So my partner is a near freak and I was a slob, like slooooob. We have been together for 11 years now. In that time we have come to meet each other in the middle, he will often get to the more nit picky stuff before I do but general household tasks and cleaning up after ourselves is a joint task. Yes, we had some ups and downs with it but you have to be willing to compromise with each other and at the end of the day a clean home is a sign of outward respect to you and your partner. How many sit down, serious, conversations have happened between the two of you about this?
You did intentionally slap him. Like it or not, it was an emotionally charged situation but you did mean to slap him. It wasn't like you went to reach for something and accidentally caught him, you moved your hand with the expression task of hitting him.
Now, my advice, break up.
He betrayed you and now even after he did all he could to regain your trust you feel the urge to constantly betray him in kind even. He hurt you and now you are hurting him just as he did you. What does that gain either of you? He knows he messed up and tried to make it right. You know you are messing up but are still choosing to mess up.
You two either need to have a real sit down and chat through all your issues and not stop until everything has been properly vented, addressed and dealt with. Or you need to realise it's too broken to be fixed properly and part ways. Slapping someone out of an emotionally charged situation isn't justifiable in a relationship because relationships have intense emotions and there is every chance that they will get charged up over and over again.
Either deal with your past and stop ignoring it, or go your separate ways and stop hurting one another.
Someone who loves you doesn't fuck someone else and get pregnant.
Please leave him so he has a chance to date someone who isn’t toxic and get yourself some therapy for your insecurity. You are emotionally abusive, dismissive of his feelings, and controlling.
You can do whatever you want as long as you don’t pursue a relationship with him. I feel like he may be cheating at least emotionally with you but maybe he isn’t. It’s just weird to go on dating apps to find friends but it isn’t unheard of. I can understand why his girlfriend would be stressed out about it but that isn’t your problem.
You deserve better. Also she saw what he was doing and was ok with it, and even cut out you and anyone who showed her friends true colours. You deserve someone who will stand up for you, but more than that, someone who would not have ket that happen in the first place and if it did, would choose you every time!
You shouldn't have to defend yourself for being bullied and made to feel less than.
She has actually done you a favour here. Also, she is isolating herself and cutting off anyone who challenges her friend. That is super creepy and weird.
They seem to have a very unhealthy relationship, and seem to be toxic individuals, not just him, but her too.
Good luck, and know that it shouldn't be this hot to have a partner that is actually a partner.
Some people are okay with an open relationship, and some people aren’t. I have friends who are okay with it, but I wouldn’t be and you’re obviously not either. And if hurts just thinking about it, it would hurt so much more if it actually happened. You’re allowed to say “no”, and if you’re not fully on board, you should. Partnerships require compatibility on all the deal-breaker levels, not just most of them. And if this is something she isn’t willing to budge on, then you two aren’t compatible enough – no matter how much you click on all the other stuff.
Why is he working 15 hours/day? That's the root of this
Oh so, he’s a special kind of asshole isn’t he. Break up with him.
NTA. Is this guy serious?
He sounds exactly like my dad when I was just starting out. Guess what, he wonders why I basically refuse to have a relationship with him now.
Just block and delete him
You don't owe him anything
So you start crying because he won’t leave you alone? Is that what you mean?
So you start crying because he won’t leave you alone? Is that what you mean?
Perhaps make it low contact for now to show you are still there like one or two tests a day