I think this person is really being too harsh on you. Baking cookies has nothing to do with why the kids decide to stay with their moms or not. They want to stay with mom cuz they get to have more fun with their cousins and big family period. (Perfectly normal desire for children to have.) it has nothing to do with you making them not feel welcomed enuf cuz clearly you are trying your very best Op. I mean baking 5 different kinds of cookies, you are going above and beyond.
This makes me so happy I left my ex of 16 years because that was literally him, jobless, mental health issues, took up alcohol (and coke), became extremely mentally and emotionally abusive, but not physically.
Obviously the next step was putting a gun to my head.
Get out while you can. Aside from having to raise our severely autistic child myself, there were NO drawbacks to leaving him. I have a nicer home, less mental stress (again, aside from my son), and I don't have to deal with the abuse. It got so much better but you gotta leave. I was scared to leave. He stalked me. But he eventually gave up and found another poor girl to treat poorly. Just GET OUT NOW.
I meanβ¦birth control IS your responsibility. Itβs YOUR body. YOU have to carry a child or not carry a child. YOU have to get an abortion or not get an abortion. Millions of women have fought for YOUR right to control YOUR body and YOUR reproductive rights.
Youβre well with it your rights to use any form of birth control you see fit. Or not use any at all.
OP has not said whether gf asked the guy she slept with if he thought it would be okay. Why would she assume the other guy would be okay with that? It kind of makes me wonder about the nature of the sex that she had with the other guy before she got back to OP.
Also, I think she should ask the question because there is a chance she is still in communication with the other guy (as in, once again, why would she think this would be okay with the other guy?)
We get it, you're anti-porn. Not everyone is. Stop imposing your morals on other people.
He needs to talk to his partner and figure out how they can work through this, and perhaps she will also express that she would like him to stop watching porn, but she apparently hasn't said that she's against it in five years so you coming in and making him out to be a bad or unfaithful person because of it is not appropriate.
βBeing condescension?β
I think this person is really being too harsh on you. Baking cookies has nothing to do with why the kids decide to stay with their moms or not. They want to stay with mom cuz they get to have more fun with their cousins and big family period. (Perfectly normal desire for children to have.) it has nothing to do with you making them not feel welcomed enuf cuz clearly you are trying your very best Op. I mean baking 5 different kinds of cookies, you are going above and beyond.
This makes me so happy I left my ex of 16 years because that was literally him, jobless, mental health issues, took up alcohol (and coke), became extremely mentally and emotionally abusive, but not physically.
Obviously the next step was putting a gun to my head.
Get out while you can. Aside from having to raise our severely autistic child myself, there were NO drawbacks to leaving him. I have a nicer home, less mental stress (again, aside from my son), and I don't have to deal with the abuse. It got so much better but you gotta leave. I was scared to leave. He stalked me. But he eventually gave up and found another poor girl to treat poorly. Just GET OUT NOW.
Personally, I would have told him he'd probably treat a prostitute better. Either counseling or divorce.
Thereβs a reason he has to date so young.
I meanβ¦birth control IS your responsibility. Itβs YOUR body. YOU have to carry a child or not carry a child. YOU have to get an abortion or not get an abortion. Millions of women have fought for YOUR right to control YOUR body and YOUR reproductive rights.
Youβre well with it your rights to use any form of birth control you see fit. Or not use any at all.
OP has not said whether gf asked the guy she slept with if he thought it would be okay. Why would she assume the other guy would be okay with that? It kind of makes me wonder about the nature of the sex that she had with the other guy before she got back to OP.
Also, I think she should ask the question because there is a chance she is still in communication with the other guy (as in, once again, why would she think this would be okay with the other guy?)
We get it, you're anti-porn. Not everyone is. Stop imposing your morals on other people.
He needs to talk to his partner and figure out how they can work through this, and perhaps she will also express that she would like him to stop watching porn, but she apparently hasn't said that she's against it in five years so you coming in and making him out to be a bad or unfaithful person because of it is not appropriate.