From your other comments, it really sounds like this is a case of the dad having some idea about how rich you are (possibly from being your dad's friend) and decided to set you up with his daughter, after figuring you would be an 'easy target' as a virgin. The daughter/you ex sounds like she has some severe trauma going on, hypersexuality is a common after effect of things like that. A horrible as it is, I would not be surprised to hear that the dad sexually abused her… Along with her step brother abusing her which she told you about
Stay far away from the dad, there's some incredibly unhealthy issues going on in that family, even if no sexual abuse is going on
That's basically where I'm at I feel like every time he was alone he could have been with someone else. I downloaded other dating apps to see if I could find him and now have the urge to check his phone and keep tabs on him. Which isn't who I am and I don't want to be the person that needs to do all that to confirm their partner isn't cheating every time they are not physically with them.
So wait, you’d rather go to the beach with your friend, than go see your BF?
Your BF is right to not want to be in a relationship with you, as you obviously don’t want to progress your relationship with him.
You expect him to spend his time and money to visit you, and you are not willing to do the same.
As for what you can do, we’ll as you have booked and paid for travel and accommodation even knowing that your BF would have preferred you to see him, and it is now not refundable any longer, you go on your trip.
But for your next relationship, how about realising that you actually have to put effort in to it.
Classic, right? I justified so many red flags, which is enough to make anyone doubtful of my judgement (including myself).
I'm not moping about it though, jesus.
From your other comments, it really sounds like this is a case of the dad having some idea about how rich you are (possibly from being your dad's friend) and decided to set you up with his daughter, after figuring you would be an 'easy target' as a virgin. The daughter/you ex sounds like she has some severe trauma going on, hypersexuality is a common after effect of things like that. A horrible as it is, I would not be surprised to hear that the dad sexually abused her… Along with her step brother abusing her which she told you about
Stay far away from the dad, there's some incredibly unhealthy issues going on in that family, even if no sexual abuse is going on
That's basically where I'm at I feel like every time he was alone he could have been with someone else. I downloaded other dating apps to see if I could find him and now have the urge to check his phone and keep tabs on him. Which isn't who I am and I don't want to be the person that needs to do all that to confirm their partner isn't cheating every time they are not physically with them.
Jesus run ….and if your sire you don't want kids get a vasectomy
I’d say wife needs to visit her gynaecologist, could be sign of vaginismus or something
So wait, you’d rather go to the beach with your friend, than go see your BF?
Your BF is right to not want to be in a relationship with you, as you obviously don’t want to progress your relationship with him.
You expect him to spend his time and money to visit you, and you are not willing to do the same.
As for what you can do, we’ll as you have booked and paid for travel and accommodation even knowing that your BF would have preferred you to see him, and it is now not refundable any longer, you go on your trip.
But for your next relationship, how about realising that you actually have to put effort in to it.
Block her. Simple.