Well, you need to decide about what you really want. You’ve already done the breaking up part, so that is out of the way. Actually, let me rephrase that.. write a list of what you don’t want and start there. True, people have their past, they are building their history, which many don’t realize. It will catch up with everyone sooner or later. Don’t worry or feel guilty about her. There are many party boys, who will match her energy and past. You did not make a mistake. This would eat on you over time. So, start over again, like we all do at times. Life. Also give allowance for exceptions to your rules in the future and also for your own slip ups. No one is perfect.
You said you planned to have him pick up his stuff but I thought you couldn’t contact him?
Well, you need to decide about what you really want. You’ve already done the breaking up part, so that is out of the way. Actually, let me rephrase that.. write a list of what you don’t want and start there. True, people have their past, they are building their history, which many don’t realize. It will catch up with everyone sooner or later. Don’t worry or feel guilty about her. There are many party boys, who will match her energy and past. You did not make a mistake. This would eat on you over time. So, start over again, like we all do at times. Life. Also give allowance for exceptions to your rules in the future and also for your own slip ups. No one is perfect.
All of his friends & family being okay with lying & cheating isn’t the positive bonus you think it is
I would’ve ditched both of them