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It's along the lines of cheating. When we started dating, she had been friends with this girl. I could clearly tell that her friend had feelings for her and I would tell her this all the time. She would deny, deny, deny. For me, as long as she wasn't giving in, I was okay with her being around until this friend started trying to drive a wedge in between us and it worked. This friend was staying with us for 3 weeks, I come home, and they kissed. She swears up and down it was the only time and it was a drunken kiss but admits there were feelings. Needless to say, I broke up with her. I decided to give her another chance but only if we worked through everything.
I think that this is entrapment? Either way she is messed up and I hope that you get better friends. Stay strong and let no one sway you from what you want to do.
I'm female and I agree with /u/VariationX7. If he had said “I'm better at my job than any woman” then yeah that would be sexist. Maybe he is actually better at his job than the women he works with, maybe he's just frustrated, but I don't see any real red flags here.
Even if you arent the side chick…he isnt into you. He could care less if you hang out. Stop initiating any communication for a week or 2 and see how badly he actually wants you in his life.
I think you’re focusing your energy on the wrong things.
You want to end the marriage. So you need to make an exit plan.
Step one is talking to an attorney to figure out where you need to file and how. An attorney should be able to advise on other next steps as well as far as division of assets.
Step two is find a job or figure out if there’s someone you can stay with while you look. If that means moving to the US then investigate if you can use the existing plane ticket and change the dates. Else figure out how you can pay for another.
Step 3 is find a place to live and organize the move.
It sounds like you’re a trailing spouse and possibly an American. If so, the US embassy or consulate in the country you’re in may be able to offer some guidance as well. If you’re military or department of state, you should be able to get your own PCS to move your things as part of your official separation.
Make a plan and work the plan. All the other stuff is irrelevant. There’s no good time to get divorced. The hardest part is making the decision. The only regret I have about my divorce was not doing it sooner. Life is too short.
Oof. Please don’t compromise yourself for your kid. I understand how vulnerable you must feel right now but staying for the kid is never the way. Do you want to show your kid that men can disrespect women? That is what you are going to be modeling if you stay for your son.
Yes, I already felt like that sometimes.. Many tasks weren't finished on time, she had overall a very chaotic schedule and lifestyle. She would tell me that she is stressed because she needs to finish this project in three days and haven't written a note but at the same time laughed at how chaotic her schedule is. Part of me liked that aspect of “not caring too much, free spirit” vibe, but I imagined what it would look like in the future and I didn't like it
Ignore these other comments, they dont have the experience of a black woman lol i’m a black woman and i think you should strongly reconsider this relationship. i think you should talk to him about it, but i would also be prepared to leave. you want to be safe in a relationship, you dont want to worry if your partner subconsciously thinks you’re subhuman
I don’t think it’s worth the risk to your own safety.
Pissing off a cop is dangerous. Law enforcement has the highest rate of domestic violence of any career path. A minimum of 40% of families report violence. That doesn’t include the ones too scared to speak up.
I know you want to protect her, but how much are you willing to give up to do that? Your home? Your state? Your life?
I’m sorry but you come first. You’re all in danger but youre the “other woman” and it sounds like your situation is precarious. They’ll destroy you do it happily.
Unless you can move far away and be safe, don’t speak up. Horrible scenario.
There seems to be a little of a disconnect here, she stated she has issues living with you and refuses to call what you have a relationship openly. Yet she going to move in with her FWB and do you really think she isn't going to be having sex with him more often than you and that she isn't going to form a stronger bond with him than you? Sounds like you are flying cover for all her activities that don't include you.
Also don’t you think most versions of peoples breakups are no contact immediately at first, few months minimum depending on length of relationship and then MAYBE friends after time has passed and both parties are healed? He’s asking to stay in touch and see eachother right away, in the near future. He also said, word by word “and I don’t want to fade out of contact.” Then comes over to my house to talk about all of this with me, and imitates cuddling, holding me, ect. Even the very first night this was sprung on me we had sex. I know I need to set stronger boundaries but it’s hard when it’s in the moment and he’s initiating these actions and I’m also not the one who ever wanted to break up. All of this along with his wishy washy ness and also telling me how heart broken lying awake at night thinking about things, giving himself stress ulcers and not eating, being the first person to open up my snap stories ect. He’s definitely shifting the responsibility to create healthy boundaries around his own decision to break up, and it’s naked, because all of this confusions me to no end. However, I’m going to do it after hearing a lot of the advise on here because I need to do what’s best for myself since letting him be in my life like this after he broke up with me is just causing me pain
Let's just say working and studying at the same time already shows drive for future successes.
Have you explained to him that you're not going to remain an admin in the medium future? Is he expecting you to go for C suite jobs in your 5 year plan or something? Lack of understanding in this area shows not alot of love and respect
If you find her expectations unreasonable, you are within your rights to say so and set boundaries for what you're willing to accept. Making unreasonable demands in return is not a healthy way to conduct a relationship.
Yeah, you got me. I’m terminally live, I online here in the comment section where I only exist to hate on men. Definitely not scrolling while bored in training.
What I respond to has nothing to do with the overwhelming number of posts that are very much the same, I’m totally going through all the subreddits and carefully handpicking each post I comment on. Then spending seconds, minutes even, crafting my 100 comments this week.
Unfortunately, at your age, older men who will date someone who is 21 aren’t the mature ones. The guys worth being with are dating people their own age.
Break up with her and move on with your life. What she did that night has no relevance to anything, because she lied to you and you are obsessing about it. You will never get past this. Move on.
I think he was being petty and trying to leave you on “delievered” since you stopped responding for a while. I would turn off my read receipts when I want to leave someone on delivered but clear the notification. It’s 4 months tho, if he is already being a drama queen like this.. damn.
You took a bite out of the apple, and now you have to make a devils choice. Admit to violating his trust in order to confront him, or pretend it never happened and live with the doubts.
Basically make him not trust you (for going through his phone), or not completely trust him because of what you learned.
I think in this case I would keep quiet about it so as not to lose his trust, which is the most important thing in any relationship. And don’t go through his phone anymore. But you can ask him how the locker room bragging is going (from before) and watch for non-phone signs of this stuff. Assuming it’s just bragging, this behavior is very immature and will dissipate in time, especially if you make fun of how he used to do it.
Basically I don’t think it’s worth destroying the relationship over.
Negging is a form of emotional manipulation whereby someone insults you with a backhanded compliment to undermine your self-esteem and make you vulnerable to them, in which you crave for their approval.
It targets your insecurities with the intention of making you feel worse about yourselves in the hopes that they’ll get validation from you. You might think that because it’s not physical, it’s not abuse but negging is an act of verbal emotional abuse.
Over time, negging can damage your self-esteem and alter the way you live. It can also spiral into severe mental health problems for the person on the receiving end.
Examples of negging;
They give you backhanded compliments
Any comment that blurs the line between an insult and a compliment is considered a backhanded compliment. These remarks are sometimes referred to as left-handed compliments or stealth insults.
For example:
“You can be so beautiful when you have makeup on!” “You look really good from far away.” “This dress is amazing! It makes you look so much thinner!”
They insult you under the guise of “constructive criticism.” Their criticism is not constructive but rather hurtful. It is a tactic that narcissists use to place themselves in the “chooser” role.
For example:
“You’d look better if you lose 10 pounds.” “I think you should know that your new haircut makes you look weird.” “I know you put a lot into writing this report, but it’s garbage.”
They compare you to others. This really matters when it is a comparison that makes you feel super gloomy and insecure. Whether the statement is true or not, you shouldn’t feel the need to compare yourself to anyone else, nor should your partner.
For example:
“Your best friend is in such a great shape. You should workout with her.” “Did you see Mary? I like what she’s wearing — you should try wearing stuff like that.” “You are just as funny as my ex today.”
They disguise insults as questions. They carefully word the question to make you feel super conscious and think that you’re making something out of nothing.
For example:
“I’m surprised you managed to finish that annual report. Who helped you with it?” “Not to be rude, but are you sure you’re going to finish all that food?” “Why don’t you wear something different?”
“You can be so beautiful when you have makeup on!” “You look really good from far away.” “This dress is amazing! It makes you look so much thinner!”
One of the simplest ways to respond to negging is to ignore and not engage in their pointless comments and conversation. If someone is attempting to evoke an emotional response from you, choose not to give it to them. It is also a waste of time to explain to someone that can not respect you. It is not your responsibility to change their abusive behavior.
However, if you are comfortable confronting them, you can make it clear to them that you are not okay with the way they are speaking or treating you. But take caution because they might then resort to more abusive behaviors, such as gaslighting, in response to your confrontation.
If you think it is safe and this person will be able to understand what you’re saying, you can possibly tell them something like, “your comments often make me feel humiliated and disrespected.” You should keep the focus on how the person’s actions are affecting you rather than starting with an accusatory statement and emphasize that their manipulative tactics won’t work on you.
Because negging often occurs early on in a relationship, it’s a major red flag for potential bad behavior to come. But, confronting someone who is negging you (especially if it's a repeated tactic) must be treated with care because they could have a negative reaction to being confronted and with you setting boundaries and expectations.
Exactly what consequences has she faced? You’re still with her and she still treats your daughter terribly. So what, exactly, have been the consequences?
He’s a good person. He does help when he is home, but that’s like 1.5 hours of our daughter’s whole day. He is kind to me in other ways. I could be better too, but it is hard because I am genuinely so drained/stressed by the time he gets home, all I want to do is sleep.
It's along the lines of cheating. When we started dating, she had been friends with this girl. I could clearly tell that her friend had feelings for her and I would tell her this all the time. She would deny, deny, deny. For me, as long as she wasn't giving in, I was okay with her being around until this friend started trying to drive a wedge in between us and it worked. This friend was staying with us for 3 weeks, I come home, and they kissed. She swears up and down it was the only time and it was a drunken kiss but admits there were feelings. Needless to say, I broke up with her. I decided to give her another chance but only if we worked through everything.
More and more that doesn’t really mean a lot… there’s a big difference between age and maturity, and the two of them don’t always correlate.
I think that this is entrapment? Either way she is messed up and I hope that you get better friends. Stay strong and let no one sway you from what you want to do.
I'm female and I agree with /u/VariationX7. If he had said “I'm better at my job than any woman” then yeah that would be sexist. Maybe he is actually better at his job than the women he works with, maybe he's just frustrated, but I don't see any real red flags here.
I like a lil bit of stank.
A hard day of work is not 'little' though.
Even if you arent the side chick…he isnt into you. He could care less if you hang out. Stop initiating any communication for a week or 2 and see how badly he actually wants you in his life.
I think you’re focusing your energy on the wrong things.
You want to end the marriage. So you need to make an exit plan.
Step one is talking to an attorney to figure out where you need to file and how. An attorney should be able to advise on other next steps as well as far as division of assets.
Step two is find a job or figure out if there’s someone you can stay with while you look. If that means moving to the US then investigate if you can use the existing plane ticket and change the dates. Else figure out how you can pay for another.
Step 3 is find a place to live and organize the move.
It sounds like you’re a trailing spouse and possibly an American. If so, the US embassy or consulate in the country you’re in may be able to offer some guidance as well. If you’re military or department of state, you should be able to get your own PCS to move your things as part of your official separation.
Make a plan and work the plan. All the other stuff is irrelevant. There’s no good time to get divorced. The hardest part is making the decision. The only regret I have about my divorce was not doing it sooner. Life is too short.
Of course not! Why would they talk to the person they have a relationship with when they could ask complete strangers instead?
Trust your gut here….
Not necessarily, some people like to keep “momentos” of past relationships. She should have deleted it tho since it made her bf uncomfortable
Talk to her about it.
Oof. Please don’t compromise yourself for your kid. I understand how vulnerable you must feel right now but staying for the kid is never the way. Do you want to show your kid that men can disrespect women? That is what you are going to be modeling if you stay for your son.
Is going to a strip club a reason for divorce?
If yes, does not getting a lap dance matter, vs sitting at the bar and getting a drink?
Do you believe his story which doesn’t sound reasonable
You are BOTH shitty parents. Get a divorce.
Yes, I already felt like that sometimes.. Many tasks weren't finished on time, she had overall a very chaotic schedule and lifestyle. She would tell me that she is stressed because she needs to finish this project in three days and haven't written a note but at the same time laughed at how chaotic her schedule is. Part of me liked that aspect of “not caring too much, free spirit” vibe, but I imagined what it would look like in the future and I didn't like it
Yeah, this gotta be a troll.
Ignore these other comments, they dont have the experience of a black woman lol i’m a black woman and i think you should strongly reconsider this relationship. i think you should talk to him about it, but i would also be prepared to leave. you want to be safe in a relationship, you dont want to worry if your partner subconsciously thinks you’re subhuman
I don’t think it’s worth the risk to your own safety.
Pissing off a cop is dangerous. Law enforcement has the highest rate of domestic violence of any career path. A minimum of 40% of families report violence. That doesn’t include the ones too scared to speak up.
I know you want to protect her, but how much are you willing to give up to do that? Your home? Your state? Your life?
I’m sorry but you come first. You’re all in danger but youre the “other woman” and it sounds like your situation is precarious. They’ll destroy you do it happily.
Unless you can move far away and be safe, don’t speak up. Horrible scenario.
There seems to be a little of a disconnect here, she stated she has issues living with you and refuses to call what you have a relationship openly. Yet she going to move in with her FWB and do you really think she isn't going to be having sex with him more often than you and that she isn't going to form a stronger bond with him than you? Sounds like you are flying cover for all her activities that don't include you.
Also don’t you think most versions of peoples breakups are no contact immediately at first, few months minimum depending on length of relationship and then MAYBE friends after time has passed and both parties are healed? He’s asking to stay in touch and see eachother right away, in the near future. He also said, word by word “and I don’t want to fade out of contact.” Then comes over to my house to talk about all of this with me, and imitates cuddling, holding me, ect. Even the very first night this was sprung on me we had sex. I know I need to set stronger boundaries but it’s hard when it’s in the moment and he’s initiating these actions and I’m also not the one who ever wanted to break up. All of this along with his wishy washy ness and also telling me how heart broken lying awake at night thinking about things, giving himself stress ulcers and not eating, being the first person to open up my snap stories ect. He’s definitely shifting the responsibility to create healthy boundaries around his own decision to break up, and it’s naked, because all of this confusions me to no end. However, I’m going to do it after hearing a lot of the advise on here because I need to do what’s best for myself since letting him be in my life like this after he broke up with me is just causing me pain
Let's just say working and studying at the same time already shows drive for future successes.
Have you explained to him that you're not going to remain an admin in the medium future? Is he expecting you to go for C suite jobs in your 5 year plan or something? Lack of understanding in this area shows not alot of love and respect
This is irrelevant.
If you find her expectations unreasonable, you are within your rights to say so and set boundaries for what you're willing to accept. Making unreasonable demands in return is not a healthy way to conduct a relationship.
I was concerned that you expected to be crazily underpaid as an engineer.
As far as the rest is concerned, you should not invest with him.
Yeah, you got me. I’m terminally live, I online here in the comment section where I only exist to hate on men. Definitely not scrolling while bored in training.
What I respond to has nothing to do with the overwhelming number of posts that are very much the same, I’m totally going through all the subreddits and carefully handpicking each post I comment on. Then spending seconds, minutes even, crafting my 100 comments this week.
You caught me.
…He calls you a gold digger??? That’s absurd.
He’s being manipulative. You have valid concerns – and instead of listening to you and being a teammate, he calls you names and attacks you.
Is that someone you want to be with???
I can’t IMAGINE treating my bf that way.
I’ve been moving on, it’s just a curious question and trying to understand women better.
He gave an ultimatum on sex That’s not cool
Unfortunately, at your age, older men who will date someone who is 21 aren’t the mature ones. The guys worth being with are dating people their own age.
He’s been doing it since before he worked at the second job.
I need advice!
Break up with her and move on with your life. What she did that night has no relevance to anything, because she lied to you and you are obsessing about it. You will never get past this. Move on.
You fell for this?
I think he was being petty and trying to leave you on “delievered” since you stopped responding for a while. I would turn off my read receipts when I want to leave someone on delivered but clear the notification. It’s 4 months tho, if he is already being a drama queen like this.. damn.
You took a bite out of the apple, and now you have to make a devils choice. Admit to violating his trust in order to confront him, or pretend it never happened and live with the doubts.
Basically make him not trust you (for going through his phone), or not completely trust him because of what you learned.
I think in this case I would keep quiet about it so as not to lose his trust, which is the most important thing in any relationship. And don’t go through his phone anymore. But you can ask him how the locker room bragging is going (from before) and watch for non-phone signs of this stuff. Assuming it’s just bragging, this behavior is very immature and will dissipate in time, especially if you make fun of how he used to do it.
Basically I don’t think it’s worth destroying the relationship over.
This is called negging.
Negging is a form of emotional manipulation whereby someone insults you with a backhanded compliment to undermine your self-esteem and make you vulnerable to them, in which you crave for their approval.
It targets your insecurities with the intention of making you feel worse about yourselves in the hopes that they’ll get validation from you. You might think that because it’s not physical, it’s not abuse but negging is an act of verbal emotional abuse.
Over time, negging can damage your self-esteem and alter the way you live. It can also spiral into severe mental health problems for the person on the receiving end.
Examples of negging;
They give you backhanded compliments
Any comment that blurs the line between an insult and a compliment is considered a backhanded compliment. These remarks are sometimes referred to as left-handed compliments or stealth insults.
For example:
“You can be so beautiful when you have makeup on!” “You look really good from far away.” “This dress is amazing! It makes you look so much thinner!”
They insult you under the guise of “constructive criticism.” Their criticism is not constructive but rather hurtful. It is a tactic that narcissists use to place themselves in the “chooser” role.
For example:
“You’d look better if you lose 10 pounds.” “I think you should know that your new haircut makes you look weird.” “I know you put a lot into writing this report, but it’s garbage.”
They compare you to others. This really matters when it is a comparison that makes you feel super gloomy and insecure. Whether the statement is true or not, you shouldn’t feel the need to compare yourself to anyone else, nor should your partner.
For example:
“Your best friend is in such a great shape. You should workout with her.” “Did you see Mary? I like what she’s wearing — you should try wearing stuff like that.” “You are just as funny as my ex today.”
They disguise insults as questions. They carefully word the question to make you feel super conscious and think that you’re making something out of nothing.
For example:
“I’m surprised you managed to finish that annual report. Who helped you with it?” “Not to be rude, but are you sure you’re going to finish all that food?” “Why don’t you wear something different?”
“You can be so beautiful when you have makeup on!” “You look really good from far away.” “This dress is amazing! It makes you look so much thinner!”
One of the simplest ways to respond to negging is to ignore and not engage in their pointless comments and conversation. If someone is attempting to evoke an emotional response from you, choose not to give it to them. It is also a waste of time to explain to someone that can not respect you. It is not your responsibility to change their abusive behavior.
However, if you are comfortable confronting them, you can make it clear to them that you are not okay with the way they are speaking or treating you. But take caution because they might then resort to more abusive behaviors, such as gaslighting, in response to your confrontation.
If you think it is safe and this person will be able to understand what you’re saying, you can possibly tell them something like, “your comments often make me feel humiliated and disrespected.” You should keep the focus on how the person’s actions are affecting you rather than starting with an accusatory statement and emphasize that their manipulative tactics won’t work on you.
Because negging often occurs early on in a relationship, it’s a major red flag for potential bad behavior to come. But, confronting someone who is negging you (especially if it's a repeated tactic) must be treated with care because they could have a negative reaction to being confronted and with you setting boundaries and expectations.
Exactly what consequences has she faced? You’re still with her and she still treats your daughter terribly. So what, exactly, have been the consequences?
He’s a good person. He does help when he is home, but that’s like 1.5 hours of our daughter’s whole day. He is kind to me in other ways. I could be better too, but it is hard because I am genuinely so drained/stressed by the time he gets home, all I want to do is sleep.
He is manipulating you. Call the cops and have a welfare check done, block him, and go to therapy to work through your issues.