You married someone who didn't fulfill your intimacy requirements, and now they won't change? How did you feel loved enough to marry them in the first place? Is there something deep that needs working on between you two?
I think something that people don't realize is that it's completely normal for someone to act wonderful, amazing, the best person you've ever met, and
then
start acting monstrously. It feels strange and shocking, but it isn't – that's how it usually happens. And the true colours start coming out after major investments – moving in together, getting married, getting pregnant, having a child.
It's easy to act so much better than you are when you're putting on an act…people who are genuine may not always be perfect, but they'll be consistent, realistic, and usually way better human beings. If someone seems too good to be true…they probably are. I've been there, I know.
So just accept that she will sometimes be unhappy and she needs to learn to live with it?
You’re changing your story, now.
You married someone who didn't fulfill your intimacy requirements, and now they won't change? How did you feel loved enough to marry them in the first place? Is there something deep that needs working on between you two?
I think something that people don't realize is that it's completely normal for someone to act wonderful, amazing, the best person you've ever met, and
then
start acting monstrously. It feels strange and shocking, but it isn't – that's how it usually happens. And the true colours start coming out after major investments – moving in together, getting married, getting pregnant, having a child.
It's easy to act so much better than you are when you're putting on an act…people who are genuine may not always be perfect, but they'll be consistent, realistic, and usually way better human beings. If someone seems too good to be true…they probably are. I've been there, I know.
What I think doesn't matter…you are the one that has to live! with her.