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I had the same issue while on the pill. I have been on it mostly since 18 so 10 years now and I’ve had a few short periods off it but now am off it for good. It destroyed my libido and dried me out so badly that I was seeing specialists about the issue and no one had a solution. I’ve only now realised myself that it was likely the contraceptive that was causing the issue and I’m so thankful my partner has been so supportive throughout all the years of minimal libido on my side. More women should be made aware of the long term effects of the pill because vaginismus was definitely not one of the side effects I was counselled on.
what is the downside to making the tests mandatory?
That's not what this is about. OP's husband is accusing her of cheating because of the negative influence of his friend group. This isn't a situation where OP has a history of cheating and there's a logical reason for questioning paternity.
I promise I'm not ignoring anyone, I can't read the comments because I can't open them for some reason. Yes I've restarted the app and my phone, no the comments aren't in my notifications.
So you'll eventually marry this deviant and in 4 or 5 years after you've had a couple of kids, you'll discover he's still up to no good but he's also been meeting women in the flesh and taking chances with YOUR sexual health each time he does.
Sadly, you'll STILL make excuses to stay with Prince Charming, using your kids and your financial entanglements and all the legal ramifications if you were to leave as your excuse for continuing to cling to a man who chose, MANY YEARS AGO, to stop respecting you.
I've read your story literally thousands of times live. He's not unique, he's not different than every other dog in heat looking for cheap thrills on-line (and in person), and he's not a unicorn. He's exactly what he is.
When someone shows you who they are, BELIEVE them.
I’m so sorry. Please don’t take those messages to heart at all. You may want to block DMs for now (admittedly I have no idea how you do that, but I’m sure google will).
I think you should try to be bold and assertive with him. Let him know you’re willing to fight for your marriage if he is.
You can also consider whether or not there’s room for compromise (and it’s okay if there isn’t). For me, the secrecy would absolutely have to go, but you should consider whether you’re comfortable with a small amount of porn use, or of specific mediums like old school magazines or something that might trigger your trauma less. Again, it’s totally fine if this is a hardline dealbreaker as well. Just food for thought.
It's really just getting to the point of where you've tried everything, and he's just too much of a pussy to tell you he wants you gone. This might be a, “Leave and don't come back,” kind of kicking out.
This is a tough one because I understand both sides.
How you cope with a breakup, doesn't mean that an alternative way is wrong.
All that really matters is ensuring there is no residual feelings. Nothing from the past is causing you two to move forward.
People can view past relationships as a chapter in their life. Even though that chapter didn't work out, they can accept it and move on with a cherish-able mindset. I appreciate that time, but I am past it, sort of thing.
The only type of pictures I would expect deleted are sexual in nature. Everything else, not my business. That's her past, I have to respect it. She is with me now. That's all that matters to me. I would never expect my GF to delete photos of a dead dog if we got a new one.
That's quibbling over words. She makes more because she works more. If she's getting penalized for it by paying more while her bf works less, than she might as well stop doing OT.
You could definitely bring up therapy as an option for him. I was in therapy already, and my husband asked if I could bring up my sex drive stuff just to see sort of what was going on. My therapist helped me realize that yeah, it might be some trauma from my previous relationship, and it's definitely partially due to my medication (birth control and antidepressants) that I don't have a sex drive. But I also learned through therapy that this is partially just me, and trying to force through the low sex drive just gave me anxiety. My husband was thankful for me trying therapy to learn more about my feelings regarding sex, so neither of us feel guilty anymore about not having sex. But again, if he's not comfortable with bringing up sex during therapy (like I was for a long time) then you have to be patient and kind. Maybe there are other intimate (but not sexual) things you could do together to help you feel wanted. I know some couples shower together if that's feasible (our shower is the size of a postage stamp so no go there lol).
It’s not a competition and you shouldn’t be keeping score.
That said, if you feel unfulfilled and like you aren’t being appreciated and cared for, that’s a conversation you need to have with him. It sounds like you two are in different seasons of life right now and that’s okay, as long as you’re both able to get your needs met. But you need to communicate what you need from him. If he can’t meet your needs at this point, it might be time to move on.
I’d say exactly what you said here. You’re in school, you don’t always know where her son is or what he’s doing, and involving you any time she can’t reach him is highly inappropriate. If there’s an emergency, or she’s legitimately concerned for his safety, it’s okay to send a text. But, you are not responsible for the plans or obligations her son commits to, and, moving forward, you’d appreciate your boundaries being respected. Although, any woman who calls you to leave you passive aggressive voicemails sounds like a whack job. Completely ignoring her is also an option.
It’s only abrupt to you because you weren’t getting the whole story all along. He has had weeks to process things. And as much as he might wish it were different, he just isn’t ready or able to step up the relationship.
My advice is to hang on to your self respect and dignity and be the one to leave; this episode is a glimpse into your future, and it will only get more degrading and hurtful, for you, because EVERYTHING will be your fault, EVERYTHING!!! Just get away now, with your self respect intact, because you didn't do anything wrong, not even a little bit.
I'm gonna be frank. Everyone in the comments is right, first of all. Secondly, regardless what career we have, our spouse eventually will get accustomed to it and stop giving a damn after certain amount of events.
I'm going to say that both sides are not at fault. That also means that both sides are at fault in a different perspective. OP has a respectable, busy career while OP's partner ran out of patience for any of the excuses.
Honestly, it sounds like this is irreversible. All I can say is OP has my significant sympathy, and I hope you would meet a better partner
And what would coworker take her to court for? HIS car broke down. Not hers. The car was sold as is, right? That means it’s his car and it was his car LEGALLY when it broke. If she has no ownership or rights to the proceeds if he turns around and sells it tomorrow, it’s literally not her problem.
She needs to see a doctor also if she's been on birth control since she was a teenager she doesn't know what her periods like anymore she only knows how they were when she was 13, it will also potentially take months for her hormones and cycle to return and become normal aswell. Also put forward if she does come of it your more than happy to wear a condom if you are able to have sex as that takes one of her stressors away.
It’s just a vasodilator – it doesn’t do anything if a person isn’t aroused. If vasodilators causes spontaneous erections without arousal, you’d have a lot of people on hypertension meds who wouldn’t be able to walk around in public.
Your STBX engaged in an affair because she says she was unhappy. But it seems like she started going to other people about these “problems” before she ever actually spoke to you. She didn’t want to fix things. She had already moved on emotionally and physically before she ever verbalised her feelings of discontent. How on earth were you supposed to fix things you didn’t know were broken.
Trust has been lost. Her ability to communicate is either terrible – or she just wanted to do whatever she wanted and keep you and family happy and unaware. Which would be super manipulative.
Either way, I’m so sorry that you very long relationship turned into a very short marriage. There is light at the end of this tunnel. I wish you all the happiness as you heal.
There is literally no reason a 35 year old has to call his girlfriend fat. Not a single one. Besides 70 kg on 160kg is not fat and you have told him to stop. He is doing it on purpose and that's a shitty move.
The trash took itself out, you’re better off for it. The reality is he’s a creep that is fetishizing virginity. You deserve so much better than that for yourself, and it may take a bit but you’ll find someone that sees you as more than just a cherry to pop.
It does, but you have to let go of this one to make room for something better. If you don't, you stay stuck.
You don't know anything for certain. If you need certainty to do anything, then you'll always be stuck, controlled by fear. You have to trust that where you are now isn't where your going to be later on.
Of course I can’t say whether he has them or not, but it is not true that they would be the same all the time if real. First of all, sensory issues definitely vary based on the situation. Second, many of us autistics have more of a problem with them when we’re dealing with other stressors (makes sense, because we’re dealing with one issue on top of a bunch of other issues). Additionally, the fact that someone doesn’t display their issues in front of certain people doesn’t mean they don’t have them.
So tell your finance that the wedding is off if he doesn’t tell you what happened.
But my money is on your friend being in love with you, possibly planning to object at the wedding, and your fiancé finding out and confronting him about it.
Well to summarize it, when we started dating i didnt have any kind of dating experience since she was my first, she had some bfs before me and knew some toxic ones as well but me she said it was diffrent. The whole relationship was great we used to make each other smile and laugh no matter what and she had this disease when we started dating but didnt know at the time what it was, but i didnt push her to do things that she didnt like. I truly just wanted to spend some time with her because all i wanted was for her to smile and enjoy life. It was all great most of the time then we moved in together about 2 years later on. We had some diffrences in maitaining the household and chores which usually sparked some debates but you know its normal and its normal to relationship to lose its flame. But the last half of year i didnt understand this why would she want to distance herself from me, i always and always will try to comfort her in anyway possible. And never ever have i said anything that couldve hurt her in anyway. But this distancing is driving me crazy its literally eating me alive. Im head over heels over this girl and just want to make her happy. And for my friend he thought our relationship was rock solid until this started happening and i didnt even tell anyone about this, he just saw it, because most of the time i was alone and he would question it. Im thinking about talking about it tonight with her. What goes in her mind and what are her goals. Cause if she doesnt want to be with me or i dont bring happines to her then i dont deserve to be with her. But thank you guys! Sincerely from the bottom of my heart for taking your time to consult me.
That’s a really ignorant way of looking at things – especially if said couple wants children. There are some political things that people can agree to disagree on, but there are some that just can’t be that way. I don’t ever want to tell my kids “mom thinks everyone should be equal but your dad thinks certain groups of people shouldn’t have rights!” I mean c’mon.
I had the same issue while on the pill. I have been on it mostly since 18 so 10 years now and I’ve had a few short periods off it but now am off it for good. It destroyed my libido and dried me out so badly that I was seeing specialists about the issue and no one had a solution. I’ve only now realised myself that it was likely the contraceptive that was causing the issue and I’m so thankful my partner has been so supportive throughout all the years of minimal libido on my side. More women should be made aware of the long term effects of the pill because vaginismus was definitely not one of the side effects I was counselled on.
what is the downside to making the tests mandatory?
That's not what this is about. OP's husband is accusing her of cheating because of the negative influence of his friend group. This isn't a situation where OP has a history of cheating and there's a logical reason for questioning paternity.
This is the advice OP. Make very sure he knows he can't push your boundary and stop the hinting.
Thanks, I needed to hear this. It’s naked to hear but it’s what I needed
I promise I'm not ignoring anyone, I can't read the comments because I can't open them for some reason. Yes I've restarted the app and my phone, no the comments aren't in my notifications.
Is she a sexual abuse/assualt survivor?
You know exactly what you need to do.
You just don't want to.
So you'll eventually marry this deviant and in 4 or 5 years after you've had a couple of kids, you'll discover he's still up to no good but he's also been meeting women in the flesh and taking chances with YOUR sexual health each time he does.
Sadly, you'll STILL make excuses to stay with Prince Charming, using your kids and your financial entanglements and all the legal ramifications if you were to leave as your excuse for continuing to cling to a man who chose, MANY YEARS AGO, to stop respecting you.
I've read your story literally thousands of times live. He's not unique, he's not different than every other dog in heat looking for cheap thrills on-line (and in person), and he's not a unicorn. He's exactly what he is.
When someone shows you who they are, BELIEVE them.
Then enjoy your shitty life dude. You’re settling for trash at such a young age
A break from you while another guy breaks her back. Tell her to pound sand.
I’m so sorry. Please don’t take those messages to heart at all. You may want to block DMs for now (admittedly I have no idea how you do that, but I’m sure google will).
I think you should try to be bold and assertive with him. Let him know you’re willing to fight for your marriage if he is.
You can also consider whether or not there’s room for compromise (and it’s okay if there isn’t). For me, the secrecy would absolutely have to go, but you should consider whether you’re comfortable with a small amount of porn use, or of specific mediums like old school magazines or something that might trigger your trauma less. Again, it’s totally fine if this is a hardline dealbreaker as well. Just food for thought.
I literally just put a reply talking about cars further in this thread, feel free to go look at my perspective on that.
It's really just getting to the point of where you've tried everything, and he's just too much of a pussy to tell you he wants you gone. This might be a, “Leave and don't come back,” kind of kicking out.
They aren't divorced yet though. Why rock the boat now?
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. You ghosted her, she received the message.
Grow up and try not to act like a little girl next time you find somebody.
This is a tough one because I understand both sides.
How you cope with a breakup, doesn't mean that an alternative way is wrong.
All that really matters is ensuring there is no residual feelings. Nothing from the past is causing you two to move forward.
People can view past relationships as a chapter in their life. Even though that chapter didn't work out, they can accept it and move on with a cherish-able mindset. I appreciate that time, but I am past it, sort of thing.
The only type of pictures I would expect deleted are sexual in nature. Everything else, not my business. That's her past, I have to respect it. She is with me now. That's all that matters to me. I would never expect my GF to delete photos of a dead dog if we got a new one.
That's my view on it.
That's quibbling over words. She makes more because she works more. If she's getting penalized for it by paying more while her bf works less, than she might as well stop doing OT.
Yea I’m a physical guy it’s naked only seeing someone I’m with twice a week and I’ve been patient thought maybe something would change and hasn’t
You could definitely bring up therapy as an option for him. I was in therapy already, and my husband asked if I could bring up my sex drive stuff just to see sort of what was going on. My therapist helped me realize that yeah, it might be some trauma from my previous relationship, and it's definitely partially due to my medication (birth control and antidepressants) that I don't have a sex drive. But I also learned through therapy that this is partially just me, and trying to force through the low sex drive just gave me anxiety. My husband was thankful for me trying therapy to learn more about my feelings regarding sex, so neither of us feel guilty anymore about not having sex. But again, if he's not comfortable with bringing up sex during therapy (like I was for a long time) then you have to be patient and kind. Maybe there are other intimate (but not sexual) things you could do together to help you feel wanted. I know some couples shower together if that's feasible (our shower is the size of a postage stamp so no go there lol).
vIoLeNcE iS nOt ThE AnSwEr
lol stfu and punch racists all day.
It’s not a competition and you shouldn’t be keeping score.
That said, if you feel unfulfilled and like you aren’t being appreciated and cared for, that’s a conversation you need to have with him. It sounds like you two are in different seasons of life right now and that’s okay, as long as you’re both able to get your needs met. But you need to communicate what you need from him. If he can’t meet your needs at this point, it might be time to move on.
I’d say exactly what you said here. You’re in school, you don’t always know where her son is or what he’s doing, and involving you any time she can’t reach him is highly inappropriate. If there’s an emergency, or she’s legitimately concerned for his safety, it’s okay to send a text. But, you are not responsible for the plans or obligations her son commits to, and, moving forward, you’d appreciate your boundaries being respected. Although, any woman who calls you to leave you passive aggressive voicemails sounds like a whack job. Completely ignoring her is also an option.
It’s only abrupt to you because you weren’t getting the whole story all along. He has had weeks to process things. And as much as he might wish it were different, he just isn’t ready or able to step up the relationship.
I’m sorry. ((Hugs))
Pragmatic. Ever been to Vegas? Always know the odds of the game you're playing.
and how genitals (which we use for filthy things) weren’t meant to go in our mouths (which we eat by) because “that’s something gross and unnatural”
If he thinks this way about blowjobs, wait till he hears about eating ass…
My advice is to hang on to your self respect and dignity and be the one to leave; this episode is a glimpse into your future, and it will only get more degrading and hurtful, for you, because EVERYTHING will be your fault, EVERYTHING!!! Just get away now, with your self respect intact, because you didn't do anything wrong, not even a little bit.
That's not his fault at all though.
You’re right but OP mentioned in another comment that her partner is good at oral
Take the trash out.
I'm gonna be frank. Everyone in the comments is right, first of all. Secondly, regardless what career we have, our spouse eventually will get accustomed to it and stop giving a damn after certain amount of events.
I'm going to say that both sides are not at fault. That also means that both sides are at fault in a different perspective. OP has a respectable, busy career while OP's partner ran out of patience for any of the excuses.
Honestly, it sounds like this is irreversible. All I can say is OP has my significant sympathy, and I hope you would meet a better partner
And what would coworker take her to court for? HIS car broke down. Not hers. The car was sold as is, right? That means it’s his car and it was his car LEGALLY when it broke. If she has no ownership or rights to the proceeds if he turns around and sells it tomorrow, it’s literally not her problem.
She needs to see a doctor also if she's been on birth control since she was a teenager she doesn't know what her periods like anymore she only knows how they were when she was 13, it will also potentially take months for her hormones and cycle to return and become normal aswell. Also put forward if she does come of it your more than happy to wear a condom if you are able to have sex as that takes one of her stressors away.
It’s just a vasodilator – it doesn’t do anything if a person isn’t aroused. If vasodilators causes spontaneous erections without arousal, you’d have a lot of people on hypertension meds who wouldn’t be able to walk around in public.
He brings no money to the table, wants to bang other girls but won’t let you do the same.
Are you hearing yourself?!
Your STBX engaged in an affair because she says she was unhappy. But it seems like she started going to other people about these “problems” before she ever actually spoke to you. She didn’t want to fix things. She had already moved on emotionally and physically before she ever verbalised her feelings of discontent. How on earth were you supposed to fix things you didn’t know were broken.
Trust has been lost. Her ability to communicate is either terrible – or she just wanted to do whatever she wanted and keep you and family happy and unaware. Which would be super manipulative.
Either way, I’m so sorry that you very long relationship turned into a very short marriage. There is light at the end of this tunnel. I wish you all the happiness as you heal.
?❤️ so glad to see that the dream of a happy family can become true. I wish you two the best!! And your sons too 🙂
There is literally no reason a 35 year old has to call his girlfriend fat. Not a single one. Besides 70 kg on 160kg is not fat and you have told him to stop. He is doing it on purpose and that's a shitty move.
The trash took itself out, you’re better off for it. The reality is he’s a creep that is fetishizing virginity. You deserve so much better than that for yourself, and it may take a bit but you’ll find someone that sees you as more than just a cherry to pop.
It still doesn't make sense that his name would be on the mortgage.
Why would her boyfriend co-sign for her brother to buy property and then move in?
Something smells like fish, and its not trout.
I don’t know if it gets better than this
It does, but you have to let go of this one to make room for something better. If you don't, you stay stuck.
You don't know anything for certain. If you need certainty to do anything, then you'll always be stuck, controlled by fear. You have to trust that where you are now isn't where your going to be later on.
It's cheating regardless of it's the same sex or not. Not sure why anyone would think differently.
Your wife was intimate with someone else.
If she actually loved you, she wouldn't have done it. Period. The end.
So, get yourself a lawyer. I'd even go have another conversation with her and record it, get her to admit to the cheating again.
Divorce her, cut your losses, and look for someone who you can actually spend your life with.
Of course I can’t say whether he has them or not, but it is not true that they would be the same all the time if real. First of all, sensory issues definitely vary based on the situation. Second, many of us autistics have more of a problem with them when we’re dealing with other stressors (makes sense, because we’re dealing with one issue on top of a bunch of other issues). Additionally, the fact that someone doesn’t display their issues in front of certain people doesn’t mean they don’t have them.
So tell your finance that the wedding is off if he doesn’t tell you what happened.
But my money is on your friend being in love with you, possibly planning to object at the wedding, and your fiancé finding out and confronting him about it.
Seems like he’s bothered you’re doing therapy and was trying to listen to the conversation, IMO.
Well to summarize it, when we started dating i didnt have any kind of dating experience since she was my first, she had some bfs before me and knew some toxic ones as well but me she said it was diffrent. The whole relationship was great we used to make each other smile and laugh no matter what and she had this disease when we started dating but didnt know at the time what it was, but i didnt push her to do things that she didnt like. I truly just wanted to spend some time with her because all i wanted was for her to smile and enjoy life. It was all great most of the time then we moved in together about 2 years later on. We had some diffrences in maitaining the household and chores which usually sparked some debates but you know its normal and its normal to relationship to lose its flame. But the last half of year i didnt understand this why would she want to distance herself from me, i always and always will try to comfort her in anyway possible. And never ever have i said anything that couldve hurt her in anyway. But this distancing is driving me crazy its literally eating me alive. Im head over heels over this girl and just want to make her happy. And for my friend he thought our relationship was rock solid until this started happening and i didnt even tell anyone about this, he just saw it, because most of the time i was alone and he would question it. Im thinking about talking about it tonight with her. What goes in her mind and what are her goals. Cause if she doesnt want to be with me or i dont bring happines to her then i dont deserve to be with her. But thank you guys! Sincerely from the bottom of my heart for taking your time to consult me.
That’s a really ignorant way of looking at things – especially if said couple wants children. There are some political things that people can agree to disagree on, but there are some that just can’t be that way. I don’t ever want to tell my kids “mom thinks everyone should be equal but your dad thinks certain groups of people shouldn’t have rights!” I mean c’mon.
I advise your bf to get out while he can.
You are aware that you left your ex, so I don't know why it should matter that he called you his wife.
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