Tell him he needs to slow down when he tries to skip the foreplay. You have control of your own body and don’t need to allow him have his way just because he is being pushy.
Is this the hill you are willing to die on? Your wife is telling you that she wants you to get better, not bury your issues. They are her issues as well now. She’s telling you what you are doing isn’t working and suggested a different path. If you aren’t will to change, this will damage your marriage, just a matter of by how much. You’d better talk it through with her, then if you don’t have a better reason not to other than “I’m a man”, look into it. The more you know, the better an informed decision you can make instead of sloughing it off as admitting weakness.
I have talked about what he does on Saturday but he just says they are drinking beer and nothing more “exciting” happens. I don't know what he would think If I start accusing him with basically no proof like a madman claiming he is in a cult or doing cocaine with these “friends” of his.
It's been 2 years now without talking. I have made several attempts before but she didn't care or made any attempts.
I would not be connected to her.
But not like we talk to all family members right? See this is more confusing
Tell him he needs to slow down when he tries to skip the foreplay. You have control of your own body and don’t need to allow him have his way just because he is being pushy.
Do you believe that two people decades apart can't have the same interests ?
Is this the hill you are willing to die on? Your wife is telling you that she wants you to get better, not bury your issues. They are her issues as well now. She’s telling you what you are doing isn’t working and suggested a different path. If you aren’t will to change, this will damage your marriage, just a matter of by how much. You’d better talk it through with her, then if you don’t have a better reason not to other than “I’m a man”, look into it. The more you know, the better an informed decision you can make instead of sloughing it off as admitting weakness.
I have talked about what he does on Saturday but he just says they are drinking beer and nothing more “exciting” happens. I don't know what he would think If I start accusing him with basically no proof like a madman claiming he is in a cult or doing cocaine with these “friends” of his.