The platonic friend (M18) produced advances while they believed I (F18) was sleeping – what’s a normal reaction to this?
ok.. this is my first time using reddit to post anything but i’ve been googling the particular hell out of my scenario, typing in “quora” plus “reddit” after every search on google.
My friends and I, most in high school, we’re creating a sleepover. We had a great wholesome time and stayed up pretty late so the majority of us fell asleep not within the places we had originally expected. We had mattresses on the ground for any my girl best friends, and i believe the guys that were there were meant to go upstairs (girls outnumbered guys and the guys are usually close relatives of one associated with my friends).
I get to sleep on a mattress with the girl friends on possibly side of me, yet there’s a gap within the mattresses on the floor where among the guys falls asleep.
We fall asleep pretty fast yet suddenly at probably close to 3am I sort of startle awake because the guy is currently very much spooning me, like leg up on mine a little, arm around my waistline holding my arm sometimes. He readjusts multiple times as well so i’m pretty sure this individual was awake. I was in the complete opposite end of the bed mattress from where he had been, therefore he clearly made a trip to get over there.
I freeze up because i am not sure how to react and I want him to think i’m asleep so it’s not uncomfortable the next morning or anything. But he doesn’t move from that position meant for probably an hour – a minimum of it felt long. This whole time I kept trying to readjust my body slightly so he would have a naked time spooning me, whilst still trying to act sleeping. After another readjustment, he finally rolls away. We take off the blanket we had been sharing discretely and pull my friends (WHO HAD BEEN RIGHT NEXT TO ME) blanket onto me.
But… right after he rolls away the particular mattress under me begins to sort of vibrate, but not quick enough to be from any sort of machine. I’m prettt certain he was jerking away right there which makes me feel incredibly uncomfortable. After a little bit he rolled back over, put the blanket back over my shoulders and proceeds to spoon me a lot more. I know I probably should’ve said something or got up, but I was just there, wide awake, caught between the farthest edge from the mattress and my friend. What makes this all worse, are at two points I experienced him poking my butt but he was seeking to do it extremely lightly like I wouldn’t feel this. After all of this (probably lasted 2hrs maybe more), he or she stand up and walks upstairs. I laid there regarding awhile, stunned, still inflexible as a board, making sure he or she wasn’t going to come back prior to I went to the bathroom to collect myself for a long time. I then proceeded to move myself to the bed mattress on the far side associated with my friend and texted the sister and friend but it was around 5am. I distracted myself with youtube . com videos and such till about 9am.
There was then breakfast time time, but I could not bring myself to go up and instead first pretended to be tired still, and then visited the bathroom and told the girl friend (of which was the people close relative) that I 1st, was feeling sick (actually accurate with the emotional/physical sinking sensation in my stomach). I then texted her that I needed to speak privately bc there was absolutely no way I could’ve acted regular. I didn’t tell her the entire story, only that he spooned me in not a friend sort of way. My sibling picked me up and on the drive home my friends mom called me (also related to the guy obviously) and was trying to tell me how he just liked me and just wanted to hug me – i’m presuming my friend just told her what she knew. she proceeded to tell me how the man didn’t mean it to become a bad thing and he sensed bad, and then she place him on the phone. I had been in a bit of a shock this particular whole time and kept just saying thanks for the contact – but i don’t think i meant that. Our girl friend texted me a little bit later saying her mom and the guy wanted to reach my house to apologize, and i immediately shot that down. I’ve spent the rest of the day in my bed viewing youtube, netflix, and googling things. the guy has also dmed me but i’m not ready to see that yet i don’t think.
I’m unsure my question exactly, yet I feel as if i’ve just lost faith in the reverse sex a bit. he certainly not asked for consent, it was so so uncomfortable. I don’t know how to proceed on anything, I still can’t believe this particular occurred and i’m running on 2hrs of rest and can’t sleep. I feel uncomfortable in my own skin, like I can’t manage how a man looks at me personally and i feel queasy. i also feel guilty in a way for whatever reason but overall just therefore confused and lost. Guidance is welcome
TLDR: i have known him for most likely a couple years but we all aren’t super close even though i know him pretty well (or so i thought). Guy had been 100% sober. Exactly how improper is this?
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