The (28m) GF (27f) works more like a daughter than a partner
We' ve been dating for 6 years. For the first year of the relationship i was both working, both helping eachother, and everything had been great. She loved the girl job but got forced to move to a department the girl hated and ended up quitting. We then moved metropolitan areas and ever since then she hasn' t worked each day. She tried college to get a semester in year two but it didn' t stay. She is really kind plus we' ve had hardly any issue in our relationship outside of this.
Everything for the last five years I' ve already been totally okay with, I truly wanted to support her and help her find her path in life, even if this took a bit. Felt like I had been affording her a lot of space and time to grow plus explore her life, yet I' m just starting to get tired.
Over these years she will only help thoroughly clean around the house if I' mirielle already doing something. The lady hates cooking, so I cook every single meal. Im presently working 2 full time work opportunities (12+ days and weekends) and pay for all of her bills, this has been draining financially recently as I' m also currently delivering for my sick dad. We haven' t already been intimate in years, she hasn' t been a touchy person in general outside of a daily hug and maybe a little peck here and there. This year by yourself I paid for 4 big trips for her, one of that was solo for her so the lady could go visit the girl best friend far away, another in order to fly that same friend here, all expenses compensated. Outside of a thank you here or there I' ve been feeling a bit useless and exhausted. The most severe part is I receive no emotional support at all on my tough times, I always feel really on your own. I' ve been focusing on this though and have had the opportunity to recover quicker just by myself on these days.
I' mirielle trying to patient with her and be empathetic. I gained some weight while working from home to ensure that could be playing a big part. She is struggling to make friends and has said she' h depressed, so I don' capital t share when I' meters having a rough day along with her anymore. I really don' t want to add to her burden. I just want to help.
TL; DR Been with gf for 6 years, she hasn' t worked in any way for the last 5 and I' ve been paying for almost everything since. She doesn' t like to cook or clean and while I' ve been working 2 jobs delivering for her and my father, I' ve been receiving simply no support from her. I absolutely want to see her succeed yet I don' t know what else I can do on her, I' m really exhausted and feel guilty which i didn' t do enough.
EDIT…
Since I can' big t reply to everyone I' mirielle realizing lol Here' s my final thoughts on this for the moment.
I think in our time collectively we' ve had undesirable impacts on eachother. Myself for enabling her laziness, and her for the problems above.
I believe within spending the time to try to fix the issues and trying to save the relationship, but it will require function from her. This is something I have to set boundaries for before she can decide if she wants to take the time to fix it. If she doesn' big t then the relationship can end. I' m not for your drama, every situation isn' t so black and white, she' s not a total monster, but has absolutely not been good in this relationship.
I believe a lot of these issues can be resolved if she can actually get responsibility and work on them. I' ll set a bit of a timeline and we' ll see what happens. I understand it' ll likely not end well.
I appreciate everybody, even those who made myself feel more alone, the lack of respect and kindness do nothing. Either way you most of had something to say plus it helped me consider all my choices. I think I have a good strong gameplan and I' meters preparing for every option. To the people who showed love, I truly appreciate it.
Thank you.
