Our (26m) gf (27f) desired to be Poly till We brought breakup
Please help me seem sensible of this situation.
Gf of 3 years was aside for 3 months recently due to her job and she made some friends there. 2 of these friends were the poly couple and the gf was very interested in their lifestyle, ok awesome. She was telling me personally about them almost everytime we talked and eventually she asked if I was ok when she went on a date with the guy? I responded which i cant stop her through going on dates but since we are a monogamous couple I might consider us broken up when she goes on a date with anyone. She was a little upset but she didnt go on the date.
Eventually she started calling me personally insecure and possessive meant for wanting monogamy and I should open my eyes a become more accepting, she even tried to get me to talk to the particular guy who told me that will being poly can really help our own relationship to mature plus grow and that I should test it. He also told me which i am limiting my gf' s sexuality by requesting monogamy. I was beyond annoyed at this point so I told the gf that we should breakup because we are just making each other miserable and its also clear that we want different things. And then I cut the phone.
She called me 5 minutes later and apologized and said she is really sorry and she only wants me. She also stated that she will stop hanging out with those people friends and will never talk about being poly again merely give her another possibility. We talked for almost two hours that night and eventually we decided to stay jointly.
She came back per week later and its been per month since that and she has been true to her word but I cant help but think, wtf happened then? How did she alter her mind all of a sudden whenever for days she was seeking to convince me? I honestly dont think she cheated on me. But I am still wondering a lot and am would like some perspective and advice from you guys.
