My husband had a babysitter watching our children without telling me
I’m so crazy. I’m 35f my husband can be 37m. We have two children, 6 and 8. We leave for work at 7: 00 to be there from 7: 30. When I leave my kids lunches/backpacks are all packed. My husband needs to wake them up by 7: 20ish, give them breakfast, make sure they’re dressed and get them around the bus, which comes between 8: 20-8: 30. My hubby then leaves for function to be there at 9.
Yesterday our son came home decked out really cute, hair styled and gelled back, wearing a really coordinated outfit. I made a comment “wow, daddy dressed you upward really nicely today! ” And my son replied “no, it was ‘daddys helper’ Ashley. ” I questioned him who was Ashley and said a girl who relates to take care of us sometimes right after daddy leaves.
I obviously confronted my hubby about this. He said that after the first day of school (our sons bus was late and it made him past due for work) he made a decision he needed help with the children in the morning so he hired Ashley, (27, f, the girl lives near us). I actually asked him why he or she wouldn’t consult me relating to this first? And he said he or she did mention it in my opinion ONCE and I said that instead of hiring a babysitter on the days the bus was going to become late (after that day the schools began phoning us to let us know when the buses would be more than 5 minutes late) than either the sister or mother would come to the house, since they on the internet nearby. I told your pet that that was the plan that would make the most sense, why would certainly we bother paying a sitter when my family could watch the kids? He declared that he wanted help in the particular mornings with a sitter he was able to leave for function earlier, he could get breakfast every day or coffee (Which he or she pointed out I had the chance to perform, since I leave half an hour just before work, when my work is about 15 minutes away).
He’s so fixed on why he required the babysitter that he does not understand that the biggest reason why I’m upset is because he had been having someone come into home, without telling me, departing them alone with my children. He says that since I have met Ashley a handful of moments he knew I ‘liked’ her so I guess he or she assumed that was the same as myself trusting her with our kids? I also don’t like that he coached our sons to not talk to me about Ashley, I feel so weird that will someone was in my house once i wasn’t aware of it. But my husband just thinks I am mad because he got a babysitter and doesn’t know why I can’t ‘just get over it’.
edit I actually looked through his texts to her. I didn’t see anything “suspicious” but it’s very obvious that over half of the messages to and from have been deleted. He says that will yes there are messages erased but apparently it’s because his phone automatically removes them when he’s lower on storage, especially if they’re gifs or pictures.
