(34f, 38m) Ex husband admitted I was right about him having feelings for another female after our divorce has been final…. He apologized yet I still feel furious
Myself and my ex were married for 10 years. I’m 34f he’s 38m. The divorce was just finalized. It was pretty easy. We all basically just split everything. He or she kept the house because he owned it before we did marry.
We got the divorce because he was drifting aside. It was obvious. He never wanted to spend any time with me and when he did this individual was absent. I obviously thought there was another female, he said no . We went to counseling. He stated it wasn’t working. The whole time he was requiring there wasn’t another girl. Even though he was so distant and didn’t seem to be trying to save our marriage at all.
Now everything is performed and settled. And inside the first month…. he relocated in his new “girlfriend” (26f), a woman who we were acquainted with years prior to the divorce.
Last night at about eleven o’clock I realized I had neglected to pack my kids medication that he’d require this morning. I called my ex and told him I’d drive it as well as he said no, he’d come get it. When he came over I told him thank you, it was great of him to make the generate when I was the one who did not remember the medication. He mentioned it was no problem, and that “he owed me”. I requested him to elaborate upon that and long story short he said that he had “always felt guilty” about telling me there wasn’t one more woman when in truth he previously began having feelings designed for his current girlfriend—who Also i found out is actually now his fiancée—up to a YEAR prior to we began the separation and divorce process. He remains adamant that he didn’t do anything at all physical but admits that he hung out with the girl behind my back and informed her about his plans in order to leave me, and accepted it was an emotional occasion.
I know I should feel validated about being right and finally getting an apology and confession but honestly…I just feel REALLY REALLY mad. I mean like I usually knew he started with her before-she “officially” moved in really fast and who knows whenever she unofficially moved within but knowing this was occurring a YEAR before we began to separate and he was nevertheless acting like he had no clue what was going on…like when he had just told me he previously feelings for her then I could’ve gotten closure and began moving on that much sooner!! I feel so mad that I told him my mom is going to be choosing our kids up instead of myself and he said I’m being overly dramatic and that we’re already divorced so it should never be that big of a deal, and that he apologized so there was nothing more he could do.
I told him there was not anything I wanted him to accomplish. Im just mad. He admits that I’m handling this wrong.
